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I see all my friends, my family, I see them argue and bicker, they suck up and flatter and do things just to keep the other person from being upset. Then they leave or something ridiculous happens and they either cry or get angry. Why for Fucking Christ's shake should I ever indulge myself is such self-abuse. For what? To waste years or months of MY life to be with someone who will only leave or do something God-aweful? So tell me what is the point to such an asinine tradition. No about of pleasure can be worth such pain.
Relationships help us live our lives - be they romantic, family, business, casual, professional, whatever - we try and nurture them to maximise benefits but they can all break down in the manner you describe above.
There are so many things we do that on the face of it seem self-destructive but we measure the benefits ahead of the risk involved. We drink even though it damages our health. We drive yet we know we could crash. We fall in love usually blind to the fact that statistically it will end in heartache and tears.
Reading your blogs on here it appears you've started a course of anti-depressants. You should allow a couple of weeks before you start seeing any benefit from them. Revisit this thread at a later date, then see if your opinion is altered in any way. I hope you see an improvement soon.
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Why not read some stories instead
NEW! Want a quick read for your coffee break? Why not try this... Flash Erotica: Scrubber I'm glad to read you saw a doctor Perd. Sometimes when we are feeling so low we do need a little help and there is no shame in seeking it. Living in society today has so many pressures for us all, you would be very surprised at just how many people seek help for depression however a great many of them don't talk about it. Keep in contact with your doctor, hopefully you have found one you can talk to, it really helps to get things 'out', and if you have been prescribed anti-depressants take them as your doctor directed you to. If they don't help straight away don't give up, there are many many different ones and it wouldn't take long to find the best one for you. Sometimes you have to try a couple of them before you feel better.
Just because you might start a medication for this, does not mean you will be on it forever. Sometimes it only takes a few months to get things back on track. Whatever you do, DON'T GIVE UP. There is always someone to talk to, a family member, your doctor. I hope you feel better soon.
The point to my post is that it seems to me you are depressed, your profile says you are depressed and that you have seen a doctor and been prescribed medication. When someone is depressed, it can sometimes be harder to cope with things that bother us, or problems we have. Hopefully, after you have been treated for a little while, the things you mentioned in your post, may be easier to cope with. Im sorry I didn't make that clear.
Edited to add : If you don't like what I wrote I am happy to remove it from the thread
For a flower, or anything for that matter to grow, there are several "ingredients" needed, water, sunlight, nutrients or fertilizer...
Relationships are (choose anyone you like by the way...I'll choose sunlight) the sunlight by which we grow, whilst relationships are often fraught with conflict and tensions, they are also frequently sources of great joy and pleasure.
We as human beings are group animals, and that really means that we "Need" people so that our needs can be met, relationships are the sunlight, or the water, or the fertilizer...we need them on a basic evolutionary level...
If we millions of years ago didn't exist in groups then we may not have evolved.
The point of relationships, (in whatever form, family, friends, lovers, partners, co-workers) however asinine, is that without them we would wilt...
because when it is good..it is fabulous...dont let your bitterness rule your...life
ps why are u so mad..and what is with th swearing...they did YOU the honor of answering your question...wow...u must be..very...young....
I'm pissed because I'm 20 and have only been drunk once, had sex once, never been in a relationship, never done drugs and so on. My friends basically say i've never lived. They think I"M the stupid one for wanting to be single. WTF?! I mean excuse me if I don't see that sit as important. Sex can't be that great and neither can be leaning against your girl or being held by a man. I tried it once, didn't work. it ended in a mess I still don't understand. And that wasn't the first time I gave my heart out like a fucking idiot knowing it could never happen. But i held her in such high regard I thought she'd be different.
people are truly blinded by love. Two of my friends were dating and living together for over a year, when they broke up they basically said it was a waste of all that time. If they knew it was a waste then why do it? PS the break up was caused by a nother 'friend' having her own relationship issues and fucking up their's. There can be no amount of pleasure worth that pain. The teasing, the lying, the arguing, such work for something that won't ever last.
I hate to say this but replying to this thread seems more trouble than it's worth.
Relationships should always be a personal choice, if you don't see the point of them or get anything out of them then don't get involved - there's no law (in most countries anyway) that says you have to.
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Why not read some stories instead
NEW! Want a quick read for your coffee break? Why not try this... Flash Erotica: Scrubber I was married for 9 years and even though we had some good times we also had a lot of tough times because he was sick with heart disease for 6 of those years. I stood by him through it all and he passed away in April of 2011. I have no desire to ever remarry again and go through that again. I know it would probably be different then it was with my husband but there is also the fact that men and women think very differently and bridging that communication gap is a lot of work. I'm not sure the benefits are worth the effort, especially when most of the men I have ever known in my life are not willing to work at a relationship as hard as a woman usually is willing to. Most of the relationships I have seen up close are like a team of horses hitched to a wagon and they are supposed to be working together but only one horse is doing most of the work. And usually, but not always, it is the woman that does most of the work. Here is a perfect example....when a couple has children, who is the one that does most of the raising of those children? Generally it is the woman. Most of the time the man is on the fringes and earns the money but doesn't necessarily do all the rest of the work required in raising children, like changing diapers or cleaning up after a sick child etc.... That is why I am glad I do not have children and don't want any. Now before anyone has a fit at me ...these are all generalities...I am fully aware that there are some men out there that do the majority of raising their kids and I applaud them for it!!! But, in general, this is what I see and what I have no desire to be a part of again. That is why I like lush....I can have some fun online but do not have to deal with the complications of a relationship!!
I was married for 9 years and even though we had some good times we also had a lot of tough times because he was sick with heart disease for 6 of those years. I stood by him through it all and he passed away in April of 2011. I have no desire to ever remarry again and go through that again. I know it would probably be different then it was with my husband but there is also the fact that men and women think very differently and bridging that communication gap is a lot of work. I'm not sure the benefits are worth the effort, especially when most of the men I have ever known in my life are not willing to work at a relationship as hard as a woman usually is willing to. Most of the relationships I have seen up close are like a team of horses hitched to a wagon and they are supposed to be working together but only one horse is doing most of the work. And usually, but not always, it is the woman that does most of the work. Here is a perfect example....when a couple has children, who is the one that does most of the raising of those children? Generally it is the woman. Most of the time the man is on the fringes and earns the money but doesn't necessarily do all the rest of the work required in raising children, like changing diapers or cleaning up after a sick child etc.... That is why I am glad I do not have children and don't want any. Now before anyone has a fit at me ...these are all generalities...I am fully aware that there are some men out there that do the majority of raising their kids and I applaud them for it!!! But, in general, this is what I see and what I have no desire to be a part of again. That is why I like lush....I can have some fun online but do not have to deal with the complications of a relationship!!
At 20 (guys especially) I don't think ANYONE is good at having relationships. It's like anything else, there are skills and lessons that need to be learned in order to be prepared to enter into a serious, successful relationship. I think the best advice I could give is for you to wait before entering into a serious relationship until you've learned some of those skills and lessons (and no, I'm not just talking about sex - communication skills, diplomacy skills, etc.). Most of the lessons and skills can be learned by dating. By dating you will also learn more about what kind of person you want to be with and what kind of people want to be with you, at that point you can look for your soul-mate and hopefully it will be a long term, successful relationship. In the meantime, you can have a lot of fun getting to that point by doing more casual dating.
I think your question was ARE RELATIONSHIPS WORTH WORKING FOR!......................" ABSOlLOUTLY !
For whats its worth , I was the one that checked on my son every morning,& changed him..
Would I do it again? I'D LOVE TO..
A very knowledgeable man once said ..... " A GOOD WOMAN IS WORTH HER WEIGHT IN GOLD"
Well if what you guys are saying is even true where do I start? What do I do? I've only been on a like two, three dates and they were...strange. I know nothing of relationships. How close am I supposed to be to my person I'm dating and so on?
I'll give other men the same advise on relationships and I give for marriage..........JUST DON'T DO IT!!!!!!
Well know i really don't know what to think. See isn't is that bad? not worth the pain? I don't understand why ppl do it. Sure I long for fee someone love me and touch me and say that they missed me, but is it really worth all that pain and suffering?
Well then don't, you've obviously made up your mind.
Just make sure you have the experience to make that decision before you make it.
Yes! Relationships can be tough, but they are also a very poignant part of growth when figuring out who you are, and what you want.
Simply dismissing that, to me would be ignorant.
Surely without the exprience you can not grow and learn and decide for yourself?
Good luck Perd x
Yes, like that. Don't let the bad things stop you from enjoying the good things.
Life is hard, bad things happen and sometimes people are shit and make you question why you even bothered trying or hoping for better in the first place. Then there are the people who give you hope, sometimes it's as simple as a thank you, or a smile, or saying something kind when you least expect it, someone making you smile.
We all go through hard times, when something bad happen you're not alone. And when good things happen, it's even better to have someone to celebrate it with.
