Alright boys what does it mean when you guys say "let's take a break for a while." How can you take a break from someone you're dating? It's either you're together or break up,right? No in between. Utterly confused and does break mean no communication?
It means he has found someone new.
Unfortunately in every example of "taking a break" that I've ever seen it was because the member or members of the relationship who were proposing it wanted out for some reason or another but didn't have the spine to carry out the deed.
If someone your with is proposing a break you need to have an honest talk with them about why exactly they want said break, and then find out if there is a workable alternative to said break. Breaks are ugly nasty affairs that usually either become or closely precede a break up, so tread carefully and make sure any action you take is very well communicated with your partner because you should really know why they want one before you decide if its something your willing to do.
As for reasons why a guy/girl would recommend one, I think dpw stated it best, life and relationships are dynamic so there could always be other reasons than these, but they are definitely the ones Ive heard of most often.
"1. He wants to finish but doesn't want to hurt you. He doesn't realize that it's worse doing this!
2. He's getting too involved, he's new to this feeling and it scares him.
3. He thinks your too possessive and he's getting annoyed.
4. He's found somebody else but wants you as a fall back in case it doesn't work out."
Break up time is how I read it.ampR1Yg9STSOo9Di
Definitely not a good sign....but stick it to him and say "good, I was thinking the exact same thing...you cool if we see other people?"
I've taken a break with an ex of mine before, insanely long story short we were together 4 and a half years and things were tough so we split up for 6 weeks (still living together) and although my intention was never to find someone else, merely to ease the pressure of being in the relationship, the lust we had together was unreal.
We did end up sleeping together a few times for 'old times sake' and we made the decision to try again because I was, and will always be totally in love with her.
In the end, the slut (and I have every valid reason for using that derogatory term) broke my heart twice more and I was left wondering that despite the good sex that I should have maintained the break because as a person, she was never right for me...
Moral of the story, always trust your instincts, if you need a break, then something is wrong and you should leave the relationship buried.
It means I'd like to try someone else, but if it don't work out, I can come back to you.
