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Keep a small bottle of lube and a hand towel in all the places around your property you want to have sex. It may not be needed but it is a fun reminder of what could happen and when it eventually does, you're ready.
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BallChinian
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 51
United States
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Oddly enough I think about this from time to time. I need to see a comparison in order to make the decision. I guess this means that one isn't a higher priority than the other. Now personality is a deal breaker. Before I got married my worst relationships were with the most beautiful women I dated. Two in particular were extremely hot and not nice people. Those relationships didn't last long. What I found out was that those physical attributes sure were fun, but happiness was way better. I suppose this lead to my infatuation with geeky gals.
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I totally agree. The people here are fascinating. I now come here for the forums/friends first and stories second.
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What's funny is that there are guys posting the same thing about girls. It seems like in any relationship early on there is one person more engaged than the other. It's when you luck into a perfect balance that a real relationship starts.
Looking at your story in particular though I'd say your guy had some other gal in the picture and you may have been his fallback plan. Guys are lame in this way. They won't dump who they have unless they have someone else lined up. He may have had both irons in the fire and ultimately went the other direction. Totally sucks.
Looking at your story in particular though I'd say your guy had some other gal in the picture and you may have been his fallback plan. Guys are lame in this way. They won't dump who they have unless they have someone else lined up. He may have had both irons in the fire and ultimately went the other direction. Totally sucks.
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Not so much. If it was a turn on I'd ask my lady to wear crop top shirts more often. If she knew how much it turned me on, it would probably turn her on to expose herself in that way. Since it isn't illegal to expose that part of the body in public, the scenarios are quite appealing!
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I agree with Trinket.
These psychologists are just people and some really suck at their job. A personal example is with my mother who after her divorce when to a psychologist. She came out feeling great because she convinced the psychologist to take her side which validated her victim attitude. This was no help at all for her and years later she hasn't changed, leading to her kids pushing her away.
Getting out of being stuck isn't easy or quick and at the end you should not feel empowered to continue the same distructive behavior that lead you to the psychologist in the first place. This is a personal choice by the way that can't be blamed on the psychologist. You get out what you put in.
These psychologists are just people and some really suck at their job. A personal example is with my mother who after her divorce when to a psychologist. She came out feeling great because she convinced the psychologist to take her side which validated her victim attitude. This was no help at all for her and years later she hasn't changed, leading to her kids pushing her away.
Getting out of being stuck isn't easy or quick and at the end you should not feel empowered to continue the same distructive behavior that lead you to the psychologist in the first place. This is a personal choice by the way that can't be blamed on the psychologist. You get out what you put in.
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Through high school and college it seemed like every gal I took a fancy to was one I couldn't have for one reason or another. It was quite painful. During those years I was a hopeless romantic.
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Good god! Hedge clippers should be illegal.
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Animals, siblings/parents, barfing, bleeding, hitting/punching/kicking, forcing, kids, pooping on, glass/anything stuck up my pee hole..... there's probably more but these jump out.
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Only when I was living so far in 'effect' that I lost who I was. 'Effect' is when I let the world control me. It's when I feel sorry for myself and wait for someone else to give me purpose. It's when the hurt inside overwhelms and like quicksand, I sink deeper and deeper.
It is only when I decided to live in 'cause' that I can escape. It's when I set goals for my life. It's when I realize life is a journey and an adventure. It's realizing that every obstacle is there to make me stronger and better. It's when I realize that I am good enough and it doesn't matter what others think. It's when I take the opportunities that have been sitting right in front of my face all along.
Please consider that isolation is a frame of mind that you have control over.
I hope you find happiness.
It is only when I decided to live in 'cause' that I can escape. It's when I set goals for my life. It's when I realize life is a journey and an adventure. It's realizing that every obstacle is there to make me stronger and better. It's when I realize that I am good enough and it doesn't matter what others think. It's when I take the opportunities that have been sitting right in front of my face all along.
Please consider that isolation is a frame of mind that you have control over.
I hope you find happiness.
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I really get turned on knowing my wife is taking care of business on her own and cant wait for her to tell me about this.
Congrats! I totally agree with you. Get her a camera next.
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If the ass was attached to a gal I would typically be attracted to, heck yea. The only change in fashion in the last decade better than low rise jeans for ladies is the whole yoga pant craze. You ladies have a powerful weapon of persuasion back there!
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I meet ladies and fall hard for them. But I am always tossed aside for the cool guys, the better looking, charming suave types
When she did answer two days later, she said she was with family, I didnt own her and I needed to calm down.
I get told Im too needy and timing.
On the surface it looks like you are having issues with self-worth. In general I would bet this is an issue that plagues your daily life and probably manifests itself in many ways. One way you may be coping with it is latching onto the attention you get early in a relationship. That is probably like a drug, filling you with joy and the second it isn't there, it's like withdrawal. Unfortunately, the root problem needs to be dealt with since the drug isn't going to help. Once a lady gets bored of the attention or feels smothered, you get left out to dry. Even if you were to find a lady that is willing to keep up with the level of 'giving' that you need to feel valuable, it would be a trap because it is more like a bandage than healing.
Again, on the surface I would recommend finding that self-worth on your own before engaging in another relationship. Heal yourself first and the healthy relationship will follow.
Best of luck!
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I use a beard trimmer (i use a regular razor for my face...no mixing tools here) and probably have to trim up every couple weeks or so. I find it's way more comfortable to keep it short rather than shave it all off or let it grow out. Plus I think it looks weird down there when i'm bald.
This sound about right. I also keep the hair under my arms down to a half inch or so.
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If I were clothed and you brought up the professional sport team whose logo I had on my t-shirt, I wouldn't have a problem with it. Depending on how big a fan you were it might turn into a good conversation.
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I remember leaving the hospital with my first child. It felt like my wife and I were stealing something since we couldn't believe they were just letting us leave with a baby we didn't really know what to do with. Don't worry, you will do fine. There are great formulas out there if the mom isn't breast feeding. Raising a kid is a ton of work and your daughter will need you. Although it is scary, you can handle it by yourself. Enlist any family you have locally if possible. Best of luck!
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Just to love and be loved it return.
Oh wait, that's from Moulin Rouge.
How about for us in what you can control and don't let the rest stress you out.
Oh wait, that's from Moulin Rouge.
How about for us in what you can control and don't let the rest stress you out.
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I stay away on the heavy flow days. That's usually only a couple days so it isn't bad. It's less about seeing blood on her and more about seeing blood on my prick that I struggle with.
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Intellectual is a prerequisite, not necessarily a "sexy interest" for me. No matter the hobby, I like courageous women. When I see a lady push her comfort zone, it is a turn on. Run a marathon, give a speech, go camping.... there are tons of opportunities!
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I'm not sure why this is a question to the gals. It strikes me that it is the gals you are having a difficult time communicating with. Looking at your post I'd say you aren't asking the right questions. I'd bet pixiedusts virginity (sorry pix, it had to go sometime
) that you have a tendency to choose either girls in relationships or that have serious problems that you want to "fix". They are emotionally unavailable and worse, emotional vampires that will suck you dry if you let them. Breaking this pattern is critical. Find a confident and unattached woman who doesn't "need" you. You need to be on even ground.
) that you have a tendency to choose either girls in relationships or that have serious problems that you want to "fix". They are emotionally unavailable and worse, emotional vampires that will suck you dry if you let them. Breaking this pattern is critical. Find a confident and unattached woman who doesn't "need" you. You need to be on even ground.