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BigRod
Over 90 days ago
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Quote by chefkathleenQuote by BigRodQuote by mercianknightQuote by chefkathleenQuote by BigRod
yeah.. this was the next level up from honey on the fingertips and a cotton ball...
I am seriously afraid to ask what this means.
Go on, please ask - I'm too afraid to do it myself. Dumbasses.
Dumbasses? Every time I step out into the light.... I know better..
I don't get the dumbasses remark but, I do want to know what the other means. BigRod?
hahaha.. it's an old adage about how to keep an idiot entertained.. you put honey on his fingertips and hand him a cotton ball.. then watch him try to get rid of it.. I know.. I know.. geez.. maybe I am a dumbass...
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Quote by mercianknightQuote by chefkathleenQuote by BigRod
yeah.. this was the next level up from honey on the fingertips and a cotton ball...
I am seriously afraid to ask what this means.
Go on, please ask - I'm too afraid to do it myself. Dumbasses.
Dumbasses? Every time I step out into the light.... I know better..
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There is an old saying.. I know Damon.. it would have to be old if I know it.. but it goes.. "there's no such thing as bad sex.. only some are better than others.." which is a belief that I had for many years.. one night stands have a place and it means something different to everyone who experiences it.. just have to figure out what it is...
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hahahaha... really? too funny.. apparently with the number of elementary questions you keep asking in the forums you haven't heard of much about anything and are looking to be educated in the finer points of relationships by those of us who are far more sophisticated.. be that as it may.. my apologies for intruding into your thread.. please forgive my inappropriate replies as the rantings of a failing mind.. and bid you good journey on your endeavors...
Yes, please impart your vast, aged wisdom upon us young, naive unsophisticated children.
Look man, I meant no offence. I never expected a simple thread like this to cause any controversy. There is a common saying among woman "that they know within 5 mins whether or not the man they meet is considered a viable sexual partner". It's pretty common, but If you haven't heard that, well I understand. I brought it up for a fun little discussion, nothing more. Normally, I encourage both males and females to respond, but this one doesn;t really appy to men.
Realize that most of the threads I post are to have fun, sexy conversations with others. I don't post them to "learn" because I'm so much less "unsophisticated" as you seem to think.
I actually haven't even looked at your profile, but you seem to have a bit of a chip on your shoulder about this age thing. Feel free to post on my threads (if they are not too elementary for you). But let's remove the condescending attitude regarding your supposed age-related wisdom. If I ever need any advice regarding the "finer points of relationships" I'll be sure to let you know though.
Damon.. you couldn't be more right.. my fault at all levels.. and I appreciate you stirring the forums.. keeps a multitude of topics flowing and generates energy in Lush.. take care..
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Isn't "making love" just another term for boring sex?
lol, I don't know. I will let you know if I ever make love.
No Damon.. NO.. it is the highest peak you can climb.. the greatest privilege two people can allow each other.. everything else is just tapping pleasure buttons..
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As for me.. I gave up the 5 minute rule in high school.. I finally figured out that just knowing someone and being attracted to them wasn't enough.. no matter how impersonal and "for fun only" you try to keep it.. it changes that relationship.. and more often than not.. there is damage and a price to pay...
Huh?
Actually I understood it fully.. what I said in a much simpler form is that my criteria when meeting someone isn't "will I fuck them" first and get to know them second.. one of my friends in the Navy once said I'd fuck mud if it moved.. back then I probably would have.. but I think as you grow older and more mature you'll find that same 5 minutes is now 15....
This response still indicates that you don't understand the question. It has nothing to do with "fucking someone first and getting to know them second".
I've actually never heard of the "5 minute rule" being applied to men anyways though. Read Dancing_doll's clarification if you require further explanation.
hahahaha... really? too funny.. apparently with the number of elementary questions you keep asking in the forums you haven't heard of much about anything and are looking to be educated in the finer points of relationships by those of us who are far more sophisticated.. be that as it may.. my apologies for intruding into your thread.. please forgive my inappropriate replies as the rantings of a failing mind.. and bid you good journey on your endeavors...
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truth is we can track a perfume trail out of Safeway and only get a glimpse of her from the corner of our eyes and in our minds we not only will do her, but her sister too.. that being said.. I guess I was hoping for something better in me...
That's funny, BigRod- and I don't mean to say that you are a dog like that. You seem like a gentleman, a thinking man with deep feelings, so it's not a swipe, trust me. My only point was that it looks like people mostly agree that the attraction happens quick, if not 5, then like WMM said, maybe within 15.
If you think maturity keeps you from always acting on it, thats something else.
no offense taken Lady.. it's all open discussion in here so I appreciate and respect everyone's input regardless of the subject.. and in it's purest form you are probably more right than me.. we can be attracted to someone from 50 feet across a crowded room.. which usually ends up in attempting to meet that someone.. soooo.. bagged... tagged... guilty...
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You always hear women say that "they know within 5 mins of meeting a man, whether or not they will sleep with him". Is that true?
Most of the time, I think it's been true for me. I can think of one that seemed like a real asshole but then after a while I started to like him- partially because of what an asshole he was but that's a different conversation, lol. But mostly, yes the first impression has been the right one in terms of whether I like them in that way.
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As for me.. I gave up the 5 minute rule in high school.. I finally figured out that just knowing someone and being attracted to them wasn't enough.. no matter how impersonal and "for fun only" you try to keep it.. it changes that relationship.. and more often than not.. there is damage and a price to pay..
So you're saying that even if you knew after 5 minutes that you probably would have sex with them, you refused to do that because you feared that you would get hurt or they would? If thats the case, then I guess the 5 minute rule- if we can call it that- still applies to you even if you choose not to act on it.
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Maybe they know within 5 minutes that they would 'like' to sleep with a man, or would consider it. Whether or not the person in question actually means it, or goes through with it, is usually to be gauged on a case by case basis
This sounds like the same kind of thing as BigRod, where your decision after 5 minutes is mostly correct, and so if you have that attraction and choose not to do anything about it, it's not the same as saying "well, after five minutes I was sexually attracted but then it fizzled, so the 5 minute thing is false."
Did I understand those right?
Not fair Lady.. you are applying the fact that as a man we fuck everything in general.. so it isn't really a big leap that since our eyes are directly connected to our johnson that it could be assumed that a woman would be bagged and tagged within 5 minutes.. truth is we can track a perfume trail out of Safeway and only get a glimpse of her from the corner of our eyes and in our minds we not only will do her, but her sister too.. that being said.. I guess I was hoping for something better in me...
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As for me.. I gave up the 5 minute rule in high school.. I finally figured out that just knowing someone and being attracted to them wasn't enough.. no matter how impersonal and "for fun only" you try to keep it.. it changes that relationship.. and more often than not.. there is damage and a price to pay...
Huh?
Actually I understood it fully.. what I said in a much simpler form is that my criteria when meeting someone isn't "will I fuck them" first and get to know them second.. one of my friends in the Navy once said I'd fuck mud if it moved.. back then I probably would have.. but I think as you grow older and more mature you'll find that same 5 minutes is now 15....
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As for me.. I gave up the 5 minute rule in high school.. I finally figured out that just knowing someone and being attracted to them wasn't enough.. no matter how impersonal and "for fun only" you try to keep it.. it changes that relationship.. and more often than not.. there is damage and a price to pay...
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This coming February will be my 40th anniversary.. hold the applause.. 3 months ago my wife decided that she needs to "find her own identity".. which apparently involves a solo journey... we are good friends as well as husband and wife.. so the transformation to roommates while difficult was also sensitive.. up until then the sex was fairly regular, satisfying and occasionally poignant.. since then she has abstained for fear of me misunderstanding her intention to still explore the balance of her life.. I don't pretend that this is OK.. but the main ingredient of any strong marriage is respect.. so as an answer to the question.. sex hasn't ruled my life since high school.. so would I stay in the marriage if sex wasn't the main part of the relationship? What do you think?
Of course sex is not everything, I belive when is good one it's co-creating only 10% of marriage, the rest of it is like you've said, respect, friendship..
However if one partner decide to take a break and begins the jurney of finding her/his own identety, does not look good for the relationship.
Once I said that to my partner that I need to finde myself, I was leaving him in a nice way (I thought back then that this way is nicer).
I don't want to be judgemental or trying to give you a cheesy advice, but if I would be you I would finde out what is going on with her and I would stay until she opens up.
Good luck.
Thank you She.. and you are right about not giving up.. but it is a hard line to follow in that you want to support your partner.. even if you are supporting her to leave.. and even if that happens.. I will always be there.. I will always do what's right.. and sex never even enters into it..
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This coming February will be my 40th anniversary.. hold the applause.. 3 months ago my wife decided that she needs to "find her own identity".. which apparently involves a solo journey... we are good friends as well as husband and wife.. so the transformation to roommates while difficult was also sensitive.. up until then the sex was fairly regular, satisfying and occasionally poignant.. since then she has abstained for fear of me misunderstanding her intention to still explore the balance of her life.. I don't pretend that this is OK.. but the main ingredient of any strong marriage is respect.. so as an answer to the question.. sex hasn't ruled my life since high school.. so would I stay in the marriage if sex wasn't the main part of the relationship? What do you think?
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I would just like to say, that I can't wait to have this much experience and confidence.
BUT! I give AH-mazing blowjobs.
hahahaha.
Rei♥♥
Rei.. if you and chef would like to have some friendly competition.. I'd be willing to give my impartial evaluation and declare a winner.. of course as a judge I reserve the right to declare "do-overs" when I need a little more proof to validate my opinion...
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I'm 6 feet tall.. 9'-4" with my wings extended.. so the relevant issue of attraction vs. height has never been something I had to deal with.. but a lot of my friends are shorter than 5'-9" and I do see a different level of acceptance by not only women but also men.. for some reason probably inherent to the nature of carbon based lifeforms.. there is a "prove yourself" attitude that is applied in their associations.. sort of the "runt of the litter" connotation.. it has been my experience though that it is the size of the heart that matters and not what rack they buy their clothes off of...
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I can't believe I missed this one chef.. but then.. I'm older and not as quick in my step as I used to be.. after reading your comments the only thing that comes to mind is.. will you marry me?
How very kind of you my Angel if I wasn't already spoken for I might give you the nod. Although, it's hard to live up to an angel with that little devil on my shoulder telling me what to do all the time.
Ahhhhh.. don't be fooled by the wings chef.. the devil said he would grant my wish for my soul.. I said "well.. I might have a few things".. he thought I said wings.. and there you have it.. I'm really spawn of satan... and that's my brother Guido sitting on your shoulder...
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When I was a boy I made up my mind to go forth into the world and prosper... I started out with nothing.. and through decades of hard work and dedication.. I still have most of it left...
You were supposed to say that your Donald Trump in disguise!
No.. I'm Donald's poor cousin Hugo.. but I have better hair...