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Callisto
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female
United States
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Rocker of the cocker
Quote by JesseS
In most sub/dom situations it is the submissive's fantasy that is being played out. Therefore, the only 'real' punishment is refusal to play. This is why communication is more critical in these relationships than standard style.
Can you elaborate a bit more on that please?
BUT, coming from you .... Of course Papi Chulo ♥
It Wishes!
Rocker of the cocker
I agree with what has been said so far. Texting, phone calls, being able to hear their voice makes it even more exciting. Lush is a big plus, sending PMs, checking in through out the day, sending/ receiving black boxes.. Chatting on cam works great too, seeing your submissive do as you please. The times you do get to actually spend together are very special, seeing as you don't see each other often.
In my experience, when in a long distance relationship, a submissive can be issued tasks and it's exciting knowing they are completing the task asked of them. Fully trusting each other 100%. Having them do things they normally wouldn't and to know they are enjoying it, can be very satisfying.
In my experience, when in a long distance relationship, a submissive can be issued tasks and it's exciting knowing they are completing the task asked of them. Fully trusting each other 100%. Having them do things they normally wouldn't and to know they are enjoying it, can be very satisfying.
Rocker of the cocker
Quote by PersonalAssistant
from an outsider .... perhaps the word "fear" should have been "concern"?
What CONCERN do you have regarding entering into or being in a d/s relationship?
May stop the backs from rising.
I understand where you're coming from and maybe you're right, but then that would change how the original question was asked. It stated "fear" which is why I found it interesting and decided to gain the opinions of others here.
Rocker of the cocker
Quote by Fugs
Yes sprite and dude, I do understand and respect what you are saying - yes it is human to feel nervous entering a new relationship, but fear???.
What I don't understand is (a) the point of this topic because really, if you are going to enter into any relationship with the fear that you are going to be hurt emotionally, not only is that being very pessimistic, but the relationship is doomed from the get go.
(b) If we are going to insist and discuss fears of entering a new relationship, I think it should be discussed in the relationship section because what I am trying to stress, is that this topic is putting bdsm into the negative view by putting fear and bdsm together because some don't understand the true lifestyle and that is my true fear.
Sorry, but it was asked of what is my opinion and this is my opinion and maybe I should post my opinions elsewhere that discusses true bdsm. Good luck in scaring people away from a truly wonderful and exciting lifestyle.
The point of this topic a) I stated above this was an article I read, specifically asking this question. It stated the majority of the answers were as stated above. I found the question and answer interesting, which is why I posted it here. I simply wanted to see what others thought of this.
b) The reason I posted it in this section is because it specifically asked about D/s relationships. I am not trying to put a negative view on bdsm, that is not my intention, I just wanted the opinions of others about this topic.
There's no need to apologize, I posted this in hopes of gaining other perspectives on this article. So, I thank you for your input.
