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ChrissieLecker
Over 90 days ago
Lesbian Female, 51
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Why do cats purr?


Cats come from outer space and are in fact completely convincing androids. They have to pull psycho-kinetic energy through touch from the humans they control and use this power to digest cat food (ever wondered why cat fur attracts static electricity so easily? It's all part of that energy-absorbing thingy). What to us sounds like purring is just the rumbling of their digesting module.
Waiting with sex until I'm in a position to close an archaic contract is not something that ever made sense to me. Let's be honest here - marriage is a thousands of years old concept rooted in having to get approval by village elders, then later religious leaders, to be intimate with someone. While we often tend to have a romanticized view on the past, the reasons for this approval there were mostly economical and political. The concept of sex before marriage was ruled as sin because in those times, childbirth was one of the top causes of death. In these patriarchic societies, if a woman died giving birth, she should at least produce an heir. Also, raising another man's son was not something most men were willing to do - thus leaving society with "bastards" who were bound to starve or, if they managed to survive their childhood, become outcasts and criminals.

It was only in the 1800s, in an age of development and inventions that improved living conditions by a magnitude, that the concept of romantic love became as dominant as it is now in our perception of marriage and the concept of celibacy until marriage got wrapped into that romantic cloak of "saving oneself". This wasn't necessarily a bad thing, as there were no means to prevent unwanted pregnancies and STDs in a growing population. One may even call it a success model at that time.

But we have to take into account more recent developments of society too, as well as everything medicine, psychology and social sciences have discovered. Sexuality isn't just a tiny element in our personalities and lives - or it shouldn't be, at least. It is a major building block of our emotions, and discovering our own needs there can radically change ourselves, whereas suppressing this part of us has consequences that may even affect our mental health.

No, this doesn't take away responsibility. But a responsible approach to sexual openness doesn't necessarily imply celibacy, or we should never climb into a car, go scuba diving or mountain climbing - these activities are just as dangerous. Just like with these activities, we should be knowing what we're doing and go at a reasonable pace, ignore peer pressure, think before we act and voice any concerns ahead of time. Given that responsibility, I can't see waiting for Mr. or Mrs. Right something to strive for outside of romantic fantasies.

But these are just my
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Well I tried my hand in anal today...I mean I tried anal thingy using a couple of pens, a zucchini and of course fingering..well in the process I hurt my asshole.I mean the edge of it in one place got wounded and bloody.I guess its normal.But are there any tips to reduce it,cause truth be told I liked and want to do it again.


It shouldn't happen, but it's not the end of the world, and it takes some time to heal properly (speaking from experience here, and it took a few weeks). Give your body that time, don't rush it, because you don't want to risk an infection there (at least that's what my doctor told me with emphasis). You've got to be extra careful about hygiene for a while, and some disinfecting cream wouldn't hurt - check with doctor though before you buy something.

Keep in mind that the pucker is a muscle like all others, and both the muscle itself and the skin around it need to be trained to become really flexible, just like every other body part does. Once you're healed, start small and go easy and slow with lots of lube, as the others suggested already. Don't believe the stories here where anal virgins take monster eggplants up their bum hole with ease.
I often end up writing crap. Usually, I realize that after two or three thousand words. A few of those get binned completely, but most end up simply getting re-written (some more than once) paragraph by paragraph and scene by scene until I'm satisfied. My belief is that this re-writing is the best way to improve writing skills and to find what works and what doesn't for oneself.

As writers, we need to multitask between storytelling and writing properly. A creative thought process doesn't want to care about commas and verb tenses all the time, and when you're already three paragraphs ahead in a fantasy you try to bring to paper, mistakes are bound to happen. Some parts are going to completely miss the target, but unless the whole point of the story turns out to fall flat, very little is beyond salvageable.
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Coffee. With milk and sugar. Also, more coffee with milk and sugar. Breakfast of champions, right there.


Hehe, that's my usual, if I don't have some sweet left-overs, that is.
Left-over rice pudding with cherries, covered with a generous spoonful of cinnamon and sugar and a big glass of cafe latte. Yum.
When I read the comp title, it was an instant, "Wow, this rocks!" Just the kind of thing to tickle the muse, and the perfect challenge to get back into writing after weeks of involuntary hiatus. The basic plot was there faster than I could blink, and I started writing, and... I'm halfway in. I have 5000 words written (a yay to lazy Sundays!). But I still have two more major twists that the story can't do without. And a quite bunch of stuff that I want to add to the already written words. It's going to be one of those where I feel like I've nurtured a seedling into a tree and then need to prune it back into a pot plant. Aaaaargghh!

But. This one will really get the juices flowing, and I'm going to love reading all the entries.
I love reading multi part stories, and I've always preferred novels to novellas or collected shorts. I'm aware that I'm not part of a majority here on Lush, and my writerly ego sometimes demands that I publish a short story between consecutive chapters to bring home the raving reviews and high votes.

Nevertheless, I've got a few longer running stories in the works, and the personal feedback from those willing to stick with an ongoing series and bear with the pauses between chapters so makes up for the lower vote count. The inquiries about when chapter 13 of my Bunnie story would be out I got while I was unable to access the computer were heart warming.

To me, writing for Lush isn't always just about satisfying the quick thrill (though I happily cater to that too and love it). It's also a place to toy with ideas and concepts and to improve my writing. The challenge to build a story arch and develop characters over more than just a few short chapters is incredibly bigger than writing shorts, and when a later chapters earns a RR or gets brilliant reviews, it's all the more of an accomplishment.
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When I'm in a horny mood it flows better


Am I allowed to point out that this is quite a universal fact? *giggles*
I'm very much with the 'writing as an intellectual form of masturbation' approach. I don't really touch myself while writing, as I usually get turned on enough without. I make sure to leave both hands on the keyboard, or I'd not get more than a few paragraphs written before I'd end up on the couch as a puddle of deeply satisfied goo. There have been a few times when that didn't help, though. Some fantasies go straight between my legs.
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Try 'swiping' from the cog icon down. What you're trying to achieve is to keep the menu showing. It works sometimes.


Mine usually doesn't like swiping (might be me, though), but I can get the menu to stay open when I press long enough on the cog wheel until the built-in menu for the link comes up (Open, Copy...) and then touch the space outside the menu.
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She was wrong and they changed his files. They also sent him a letter of apology. That should be enough. Anything further is taking a wrong and trying to make a financial gain. Frivolous law suits are one of the reasons health care costs so much. Plus this kind of thing rallies the haters


While I agree that a lot of lawsuits are over the top and just pursued to make money, even having and being able to enter a "code" for homosexuality as a "chronic condition" or "chronic problem" makes my small hairs stand, and the healthcare company's excuse that their "highly complex software" is obviously too complex to handle doesn't make it any better. That it wasn't an accident but a deliberate diagnosis by a studied doctor gives me the shivers, and if a lawsuit can draw attention to her twisted perception, it's a good thing. If it came to a fine and that could be routed to one of the rainbow NGOs, it would make a point.
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I have no idea why there are so many repeats of my post. There must be a glitch?
Can some one please delete the duplicates?

I've deleted all but one. Finally something I could dare to do while I'm high on flu meds
The one movie I think about first when I hear or read Robin Williams's name isn't a funny one. It's the Dead Poet's Society.

It's a movie that has touched me very deeply and changed my outlook on life. In a way, it is tragically symbolic that what - to me - is his best performance is a movie that ends on the note that not all endings are happy ones. Still, the closing metaphor is that the things we do can leave footprints and change people for the better, and can still continue on after we leave.

Thank you, Robin Williams, for making us laugh and cry and question our black-and-white views on the world to Good Morning, Vietnam. Thank you for making us think about picking our battles and helping us realize that we're all vulnerable and creative individuals to Dead Poet's Society. Thank you for making us laugh in all your comical roles, and thank you for making us reflect on the treasure of time with people we love to Awakenings.
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I'd rather we did away with the "Top Author" lists entirely, including from the front of the site.

Those lists could, *in theory*, be easily manipulated if you have enough unscrupulous friends. Or even in the case that Trace points out, can easily be altered by a few low votes. No mathematical modelling / programming is going to solve that.

The Most Popular / Most Viewed and Suggested give a better indication. The latter, especially.

We had a like / dislike system when we started the site. The overwhelming consensus when we put it to the vote, was that a numerical system would give a lot more flexibility. Members were also given the choice of range, and 1-5 was preferred.


I believe Trace's example was not about Top Something boxes but about the "Most Popular" tab and clicking on "This month" - so, in fact, almost the exact opposite reasoning. Any method to push stories to the front is as flawed as the votes will always be - it's easy to see that people often vote not on the story's quality, but on how much it tickles their fancy - and the view count doesn't really tell if a story was read, just that the title caught some eyes. There will be no way to fix that. I believe one strong feature of lush are the multiple ways to find outstanding authors and stories. I don't think cutting away those will improve much. It'll just make manipulation even easier.
That are two unrelated issues. You need to have made twenty posts in the forum before you can post images and links.

Nevertheless, getting an expiry message about gold membership just after signing up seems strange. It's probably just a glitch in the system, but I'll forward your message to gav, he'll be able to make some sense from it. Might be something like the email address being in use by someone who was a member here in case you only got that address in the last year, or accidental re-use of a database id that was linked to a no longer existing account. I'm pretty sure there's no need to worry, but I'll have it looked into.
Also completed it yesterday and didn't post here. If anybody sees my brain, tell it come back to me, please.
It depends. There are stories that sound best in past tense, especially when exposition is necessary to understand everything that's happening. Then, there are stories that carry a sense of urgency, irony or surprise that thrives with present tense.

I've found that I've often got problems to enjoy stories written in third person, present tense. I guess those are the hardest to pull off while keeping to narrative perspective. First person, present tense, is the "telling as I go" perspective and allows me to immerse myself in the main character's thoughts and emotions, though exposition and generalizations tend to pull me out of it easily.

Past tense gives more leeway. Time jumps don't feel as abrupt there and description is less likely to take me away from the story's flow.
I change mine from time to time as my general mood changes. I like to see a face or body in avatars - a reminder that there's real person behind the avatar, even when I consciously know that the picture I see isn't them. With these time-offset discussions that span the globe, it's sometimes easy to forget that a member is just as vulnerable and unsecure as I am and might use words just as clumsily as I do when topics get heated.
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After I had a chance to think things over, and having a PM conversation with a friend. I also want to thank clum for making me see the big picture along with others in this forum.

I will not let others determine if I should write or not!!

SO I'M WRITING ON!! smile:)


That's the spirit! I admit, finding my works spread all over the internet had me in quite a bad mood yesterday, and looking up laws and legal processes to tackle copyright violations in different countries didn't improve it. If it hadn't been for a wonderful person who took my mind away from it and to a far more pleasurable place, I'd probably have been sulking and steaming all evening (and night). Now, after a good night's sleep and days work, things have shifted into perspective.

Let's be realistic. People will always copy things they like and share them. A few of them will even try to make profit, however meager that is. But all the plagiarist websites together won't get the views we get here on Lush and, even more importantly, the intelligent, appreciative readers who come here. Let's not let idiots dictate whether we write or not, and most of all, let's not let them dictate how we feel. Life's too short to get hurt by these pitiable little fuckers.
They've got at least nine of mine. Their server's in France, so I doubt they'll be bothered by DMCA notices. If anyone of the affected authors here is fluent in French and can write their hosting provider an official letter, that might be more efficient.
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Serifs are not some arcane throwback to an age of moveable type; they actually keep your eye moving. Some have used studies to argue that serif font actually put less strain on eyes - though I'm inclined to agree with the number of studies that show absolutely no difference in the readability of serif and non-serif fonts.

The choice is purely a matter of style. Georgia seems to have a good look and feel for fiction, which is probably why amazon chose it.

One last point, if you can't read it properly just forget your vanity and put your bloody reading glasses on.


It's funny that all the studies are done with perfectly (or almost so) healthy people. When you've got an eye issue that isn't fixed by putting on glasses and surgery has a two to one chance of making it even worse (assuming you find a neurosurgeon who dares to touch your optic nerve at all) you quickly learn to appreciate clear fonts.

Accusing others of vanity can make you sound rather vain yourself.
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I'd really like it if stories in the reading queue had to be manually removed. Often I'll take a look to see what I have to read and maybe click on one and then it disappears from my queue, whether I've read it or not...

Or...

Maybe there could be more info about the story itself - all you get right now is the title, not the author, categories etc - maybe if there was more info, like there is on the front page, it would be easier to manage?

(I know, I'm a dumbass, but it would make my Lushlife that little bit easier)


I suggested this months ago, Nicola said it was a great idea. I'm not sure why it hasn't been added yet. Time to get out the pitch forks and riot. smile


Gav knows something really embarrassing about me, so no rioting here. I'll just stand on the sidewalk and hold up a sign that reads, "This Would Be Great!
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Both of these are done (30 good enough?). Now I know you'll be thankful, with that dirty little secret you disclosed to me in private in jeopardy


yayyy! *jumps around in joy* Oh, you've got no idea how grateful! Let me know how can I express my gratitude! Just, uhm, please don't tell them...
Does this happen when you have intercourse or when you masturbate (or both)? Is it the situation, the act or something inexplicable that the disgust and guilt is based upon? It's too vague to make any guesses, but a certain emotional low after a climax is something most of us encounter at times for varying reasons. Those may be the intensity of the climax, exhaustion, stress (negative or positive), hormonal imbalances, even a slight flu can cause it.
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We're playing with a few design changes, and one suggestion I like, is to change or offer the option, for the story font to be Georgia (Kindle default).


Please don't take away the possibility to read in a sans-serif font. Serifs can be pure hell if you have bad eyesight. Amazon taking away the option to switch to a sans-serif font on most Kindle models was incredibly annoying to me. I have to zoom to almost twice the font size to be able to read with the same speed (some of the serif letters just seem like they get glued together otherwise) but that also means lots of wasted space between lines and only a few lines per page. Kills the fun in reading.
Two wishes that tie together: I would be great if the message list could show more messages on a single page than twenty (perhaps as an optional setting?) and if the selection box could be made bigger. Right now, when I'm tidying up my messages, I keep missing the tiny boxes, opening the message instead. Alternatively, it would be a great help if clicking outside the checkbox in this column didn't open the message.