Rented one. Owned three.
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I'm not quite grasping this "more backstory = better writing" argument. Writing with less backstory is not lazy writing. In fact, it usually requires more time, to find another way to insert what needs to be said as succinctly (or cleverly) as possible. One of my problems with backstory is the writing tends to be kinda flaccid, lots of passive sentences, lots of "was" and "did" and "had." If you write it as a scene that stuff falls away.
Just because you tell me the girl's parents were cruel, or their upbringing was poor, doesn't automatically make it a more thought out story. Finding a way to reveal that info in other ways is the harder route.
Obviously you need to put a lot of thought into the character's background and history. Just don't tell me.
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In the end, I think we are on the same page, really. Show whenever possible, tell effectively when needed.
Yeah, it’s a little silly to talk in generalities, since writing is so specific. And I think we are all saying pretty much the same thing, put best by Rowan, that you should use as much as you need, and no more.
I do think you can gain a TON of immediacy by staying in the present, no reference to the past. Just drop the reader in the deep end. It works best with short stuff, I think.
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"Show don't tell" is overrated. Backstory has its place. If you are writing a 1000 word story and an incident in a character's past is relevant to the action, there's no time for a flashback.
"As he entered the room, John thought back to the night he had entered that same room to find Lizzid waiting in the nude. They had made love until dawn, then she had moved on. Would it be the same with Tina?"
Backstory in four sentences.
Don't overdo it, and if you can "show, don't tell", do so, but backstory is not the villain some writing teachers (rarely actual writers) make it out to be.
Most of my stories have some and I don't get complaints.
You can do it in five words.
He entered the room to find Lizzie waiting in the nude. His heart quickened, his cock grew restless. Would she be like Tina?
I agree telling has it’s place. But a scene is nearly always more memorable.
Eh, it's rough. I tried to use every fantasy I had at the time. There's some slightly pretentious stuff in there too.
https://www.lushstories.com/stories/exhibitionism/reflections-1