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Espresso
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 51
0 miles · Chicago
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Quote by Michael_XThat's an interesting response. You better not tell her though, she may have you wait longer so she can be more attractive to you! lol
After awhile I become kinda, Aggressive? When it comes to kissing and such. Then PDA (Public Desplay of Affection) gets kinda aggressive, like butt grabbing, grinding, etc. The sexual tension gets really high. But we usually don't have sex unless were really busy.
But if anything, she becomes.. sexier in a way? more desirable since I'm missing it.
Quote by Michael_XYou're kidding me.
Actually, you just need your two lower ribs removed. I forget the name of the guy who did it. But he had the, removed and did it. Some video on the Internet somewhere.
*fighting curiosity* Damn, I know I'm going to go look for that and watch it. Damn my curious nature and it's ill-gotten knowledge!!!
Loving all the answers and discussion folks! Though I don't have a dick, and therefore have never had the pleasure of having "it" sucked. I can imagine and relate to my own experience with oral that the amazement of having someone please you, especially when they also enjoy it can't be recreated! Oh, yeah. But it's fun trying I guess!
Quote by FtLMale
Espresso, Love the question but I wonder...
If you could dive down to your sweet box, would you leave your home?
Oh, to answer your question.
err.. still thinking about diving down on your sweet box....
What was the question again?
Oh, no, it don't go there, but I do go there. OK?
Haha. Touche FtLMale ! Not sure. Most likely no...but *confession time* - I have tried to lick my own boobs lol. Not quite the same, I guess. (my sweet box being tasted is my most favorite thing btw...)
I don't know, the whole idea just leaves a bad taste in my mouth...
But you're right...if I could I probably would never leave the house...
Oh DirtyMartini - you're the best haha...Might I suggest pineapple juice to sweeten the taste?
Quote by DudealiciousThanks for this Dudealicious! I'm so glad you found a happier situation. Compatibility is a very real issue, isn't it?
I have actually lived out this scenario, I was in a sexless relationship for almost 5 years of my 10 year marriage. I am a very sexual person and started to wonder if it was me that was the cause of the problem. I asked on numerous occasions and was told that it was actually her that had the problem. I tried to be as understanding as I could but over time it became a friendship to me, not a relationship anymore.
Then one day hit, and I had enough of it. I called off the 10 year marriage and have found someone with a sex drive that equals mine....I have never looked back.
If there is no sex in a relationship, wouldn't it be just a friendship?
I do indeed think sex is important in a marriage. Here's the thing - It's like a recipe for a cake. Each ingredients builds on the other. Each works to hold it together and give you that sweet creation you just want to devour. So is sex the cake or the icing? I think it's one or the other for some folks. That's the sex drive.
You can make substitutions for some things. There are reasons why people no longer have sex with their partner (especially if were on the same page before!!). And until that is dealt with it's like throwing a cup of salt in your cake batter. And I tell you, you don't want that on your dessert! Actually, it's not even a dessert anymore - it's bitter, the sweetness is gone and you will want to throw it out or hide it away or something.
Quote by lafayettemisterWhat happens to you and the relationship when you go with out sex for awhile?
I don't understand the question? Are you asking why a husband won't sleep with his wife? Why she won't sleep with him? Does that lead to either cheating? Elaborate please.
Sorry, if I wasn't clear before. I hope that helps.
Thanks all! Keep the answers coming....
Yes, you have to keep your own fire lit haha!
It's so funny to have more women than guys respond. I hope they aren't scared. I know similar questions have been asked but I just got a unique perspective on it. I want to see the answers I get before I share more.
Quote by VanityBabyHey my friend!
Sorry guys I got to say as far as not having sex; I have experience with that///////////////I find other ways to enjoy myself and I don't take it out on the other person in my life. The reasons we don't are numerous...........you do what you gotta do to make your life work.
Yes, you have to keep your own fire lit haha!
It's so funny to have more women than guys respond. I hope they aren't scared. I know similar questions have been asked but I just got a unique perspective on it. I want to see the answers I get before I share more.
Hmm...let's see...I think I have mentally been thinking up naughty stories since...forever. I wanted to write and many of my stories were romantic with a supernatural bent and always, always sex reared it's stubborn head. In my teens and late 20s I was very religious and I kept trying to write without the sex. That basically, plugged up my creative juices all together and I didn't write much but poetry for years. (great creative outlet but not a story!)
Fast forward a few years: I get laid off from a high-powered, high-stressed job, making the most money I'd made at that time, and I realized that there were no guarantees in life. At least, I could do something I wanted or enjoyed for once. So I gave myself permission to write...and to write whatever. The first story I finally finished was a fan fiction story and I let the sex happen and it was good...I shared it with some other fans and they really seemed to enjoy it. It came so naturally for me and I enjoyed it.
That whole religious period has been featured in a couple of my erotic stories, by the way! It's been an interesting ride lol.
Fast forward a few years: I get laid off from a high-powered, high-stressed job, making the most money I'd made at that time, and I realized that there were no guarantees in life. At least, I could do something I wanted or enjoyed for once. So I gave myself permission to write...and to write whatever. The first story I finally finished was a fan fiction story and I let the sex happen and it was good...I shared it with some other fans and they really seemed to enjoy it. It came so naturally for me and I enjoyed it.
That whole religious period has been featured in a couple of my erotic stories, by the way! It's been an interesting ride lol.
Quote by FtLMaleOh I have so been there! I hate that.
I often wish the mods would edit my stories more... Gawd, I hate finding stupid errors the next day, I keep banging my head against the wall... "How did I miss that?"
I have noticed that the system lets you make small changes without sending it back to the mods. I think it depends on how much you change. A couple of words are okay but a whole sentence will trigger the "mode return" action thingie...and annoyance lol.
I just went through an awful case of writer's block. It helps to know why you are blocked - know yourself and be honest. Some things that helped me:
1. Know you are not alone or weird or doomed to never write again.
2. I need to write daily or I lose connection with it and doubt sets in and I forget what I loved about writing and I stop having fun. That's not a good thing!
3. If your write's block is connected to life stresses or insecurities - put it into your story. Make your character an insecure person who fights and wins, for example.
4. You have to separate creative brain from the editor brain. The editor's job is to check the grammar, pick the write word, check spelling, make it as perfect as can be...That is totally not productive when you are writing a story. The creative/muse is fun and along for the ride, the editor is serious and meant to enforce rules. Just write and worry about the proofreading stuff later. There is always time to make it "right".
5. Getting Ideas etc: The creative two-step: I just found this technique for tricking your Muse/creative brain to give up the goods...so to speak. The article is below and it has been such a godsend for me...the ideas were there, I just didn't have days to wait for them. I get to frustrated and this helps me get some fresh ideas to keep me excited.
Tricking the Muse: The Creative Two-Step: http://www.writersstore.com/story-weaving-story-structure-for-passionate-writers
I hope this helps!
1. Know you are not alone or weird or doomed to never write again.
2. I need to write daily or I lose connection with it and doubt sets in and I forget what I loved about writing and I stop having fun. That's not a good thing!
3. If your write's block is connected to life stresses or insecurities - put it into your story. Make your character an insecure person who fights and wins, for example.
4. You have to separate creative brain from the editor brain. The editor's job is to check the grammar, pick the write word, check spelling, make it as perfect as can be...That is totally not productive when you are writing a story. The creative/muse is fun and along for the ride, the editor is serious and meant to enforce rules. Just write and worry about the proofreading stuff later. There is always time to make it "right".
5. Getting Ideas etc: The creative two-step: I just found this technique for tricking your Muse/creative brain to give up the goods...so to speak. The article is below and it has been such a godsend for me...the ideas were there, I just didn't have days to wait for them. I get to frustrated and this helps me get some fresh ideas to keep me excited.
Tricking the Muse: The Creative Two-Step: http://www.writersstore.com/story-weaving-story-structure-for-passionate-writers
I hope this helps!