1) YES!!!!!!!!
2) NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
3) no
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Kinkme
2 days ago
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In general I'd agree with Littlemiss....but we really need more info. If your guy is a "cocky all about me kinda guy" in general, you might as well move on. Sounds like you want a man that appreciates you and lives to please you for the wonderful creation that you are. If so, that guy will NEVER put you first in any area of life. BUT if he's just insecure, inexperienced, or just "shy" in bed, he could be a blank slate just waiting for you to form into exactly what you want! You can train him because once he know what you need, he will bend over backwards to give it to you. In bed and all areas of life! Maybe in his last relationship, going down on, or fingering her was out of the question.
I'll bet you know which guy you have.
I'll bet you know which guy you have.
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Quote by Emimeni
You bring up an important point, which is that in a lot of areas, performing any sexual act in public is actually "go-on-the-sex-offenders-list" illegal.
Hmmm....I can take a hint....
(I know it's the ladies section, but I'm intrigued by this topic so much I couldn't resist)
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Personally, I think it's hugely under-rated........
xx SF
Oddly enough, I tend to think it's over-rated.
Once in a while if the mood strikes it's ok, but I'd much rather focus on pleasing her.
Then again, I seem to be in the minority of men who have never really enjoyed receiving oral that much. I love to finish in her mouth occasionally, but thats when she's been pounded properly and she can enjoy sucking her sweet juice off of me too, but just to get a blow job...eeh, not my thing.
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I don't do random online chats anymore but when I first joined Lush I did a few. It's easy to reject the obvious "R U horny" type conversation-starters and for the record guys should strive to avoid this, especially in the first few black boxes. The only time these openers work is if one is posing as a 19 yr old lesbian supermodel and is looking to chat up someone with a similar profile. I've found the lesbian supermodels on here to be pretty sexually aggressive.
There is another type of guy though - the 'nice guy' as you call him that is pretty hapless with conversation starters as well. While I used to be more open returning blackboxes initially, I was amazed at how many men use this bizarre self-deprecating "woe is me, I'm such a nice guy and girls pass me over for assholes. I'm not very confident and I'm painfully shy. I can't get dates, my college girlfriend just dumped me, I'm so sad, blah blah". I think the point is - even if these things are true - don't lead with them. Nobody wants to be a psychological dumping ground for a stranger's problems right after you say hello.
Girls like confidence, witty conversation, a clever sense of humour, a bit of sarcasm, and conversation that is FUN. That will land you the hook that *might* get you further if you play the game right. If you're not making her smile, you're not going to get her panties wet... that's the best advice I can give.
If someone is looking for fast-cyber, then I think the chatrooms are your best bet, although I haven't really done that scene so I'm more just assuming.
It's not hard - but you gotta know your target audience. Read her profile and figure out the type of person she is. If she's a writer and has a semi-conservative bio, you're probably not going to get anywhere with a sexually aggressive approach. If her bio says "I'm a whore-nee fuckslut that wants 2 get banged all da time!" then you can probably move things along a little faster to the 'what are you wearing right now' stage.
Thanks for that well thought out and thorough reply to my post! While most of what you said would seem like common sense, in this particular format, lacking the benefit of expression and inflection, my witty character and charm can sometimes be misunderstood. And, while I have NEVER used the opening line, "are you horny baby?", mainly because that's really not what I'm looking for here, some of my "leading" greetings might need to be more refined as to compensate for that forum short coming. As in life, there is a fine balance between confident, cocky, and obnoxiously aggressive. All I'd ask is that the lovely ladies of lush give us a couple boxes to decipher fully before shutting us down.
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coming across like a stalker, or being such a 'nice guy' that the girl starts to feel like she's talking to her sister and she ends up dozing off before you can get past the small talk.
I personally have found this to be a very confusing line to walk sometimes. Many of the women of lush, as in life in general I guess, are sometimes very difficult to "read." Some want to "talk," and be intelectually stimulated, and others expect to be bent over their chair right now and taken! We, as men, have approximately 3 black boxes to figure this out and get it right before we are either labeled arrogant pricks, or boring nice guys! And heaven forbid we accidentally stumble on a woman listed as "Bisexual"...inferred that she may be open to chatting with either sex about items in her profile, who is actually a full blown lesbian and HATES all men with a passion! Yes they are here.
Bio's are sometimes helpful, but sometimes I'm convinced someone else wrote them! It's stressful being a REAL "nice guy who also likes some horny talk with a great lady too once in a while" on lush i've found.
Glad this came up. Am I alone?
DJ
I personally have found this to be a very confusing line to walk sometimes. Many of the women of lush, as in life in general I guess, are sometimes very difficult to "read." Some want to "talk," and be intelectually stimulated, and others expect to be bent over their chair right now and taken! We, as men, have approximately 3 black boxes to figure this out and get it right before we are either labeled arrogant pricks, or boring nice guys! And heaven forbid we accidentally stumble on a woman listed as "Bisexual"...inferred that she may be open to chatting with either sex about items in her profile, who is actually a full blown lesbian and HATES all men with a passion! Yes they are here.
Bio's are sometimes helpful, but sometimes I'm convinced someone else wrote them! It's stressful being a REAL "nice guy who also likes some horny talk with a great lady too once in a while" on lush i've found.
Glad this came up. Am I alone?
DJ
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We too enjoy toys, vibrating ones on her clit during intercourse, and especially like the cock shaped ones, We pretend they're her lover....the lover that doesn't speak!
Once he gets's over the part of it, im sure he'll come to enjoy it. Talk to him. It turns me on just hearing what new thing she might like to try with me.
Once he gets's over the part of it, im sure he'll come to enjoy it. Talk to him. It turns me on just hearing what new thing she might like to try with me.
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I have tried, and could when younger and was much more flexible. Was able to get just the head of the cock into my mouth. Was not very comfortable.
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Same here. MANY years ago. very uncomfortable but enjoyed it. Made myself cum and swallowed every drop. Wish I still could, wife would love to watch it!
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You must go to "Add Comments" on profile page and click the upload image icon and from there you should be able to figure it out. It works the same as in forum
Thanks Nikki, thats the ticket! I never even noticed those little icons there! Thanks so much!
You too FUGS....we tried!
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Thanks FUGS for the reply. That would seem like the obvious, but that's why I posted what would seem like a no brainer question. When I right click and "copy" the GIF, and then go to where I want to drop it, there is no "paste" option to place it when I right click there! Is there something I'm missing?
Thanks again,
DJ
Thanks again,
DJ
