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LASARDaddy

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4 Jun 2014

I am not into guys so yeah, I have.

I never allow myself to get close enough to women that I'm not interested in sleeping with for them to ask.

For all other situations, never, and I never will.

As an aside, I learn more new stuff here. I am an old fart but I listen and try to stay current, I just miss a lot.

"A Ratchet Chick" is a new one so I looked on the net. Eytomology fascinates me, discovering where the word comes from and how it's been twisted and changed. They think it's from "Wretched" or some variant. I think it was "Ratshit".

And I agree with Vines too, they are still people and have needs, just like all of us.

2 Jun 2014

No!

It's been said and I agree. I am the total of every experience I've ever had, good and bad. I regret the bad a lot and have tried to fix them. The bad was a couple of times when I said something stupid and hurt someone. They never said anything but I know I did.

I've spent time looking for them but that was over 50 years ago. I'm not obsessed with it I would just like to say I'm sorry.

Other than that I'm happy with who and what I am. If I changed any of it I would not be here. I wouldn't have the family I have, friends, be here and have known anyone. Changing ANY choice I've made could get me more money, perfection in everything, but that's a fantasy. It could also have killed me or made me a bum and living in a box somewhere.

If I don't like something I work to change it without destroying what I have.

2 Jun 2014

Welcome!

It is a neat place to be. Addictive too. Just be very careful and never give out identifying information.

Many really neat people here to talk with and some extremely talented writers to read. There are many people who keep this the best site I've seen so far.

Enjoy yourself and stay very safe.

1 Jun 2014

It's the women that have to worry really. For the guys here it's easy. Besides, when you get old who wants to pursue you? It's all pretty much just in my mind now. I try to pass on what I've learned so others may not have to trip over the same rocks.

I am a handy man, I fix broken hearts. I think James Taylor sang a song about that in the seventies. It struck me as a good idea.

1 Jun 2014

You are absolutely right.

Always do whatever it takes to escape, first, then do what you have to. Size makes you a victim in most predators eyes. They go after the sick and the small because they're weaker, easier and less likely to fight well and hurt them. Watch a big cat stalk prey, that's how sexual predators work too.

I will walk, run if necessary, and I have. I was never a "Victim" type but I have had to fight and I was very good at it. There comes a time when you can't use tactics, walk, run, fly, anything except be ready to fight.

I DO NOT advocate violence of any kind, there's to much of that already. Some people just force you. At that point the decision is not yours and the only choice you have is to either explain why you killed them or let them explain why you died. It's not always that but it is some times. If it doesn't go that far then you stand to be hurt and that's not a lot of fun either.

Being prepared doesn't mean you have to do anything but it gives "YOU" the choice to decide the outcome. I have known women your size that could easily kick my butt. It's not size, it's training.

You're either a victim or not. Your choice.

31 May 2014

Quote by Willyc2licu
If I score a story, I usually try to post a comment (note - there can be a problem if I am on my iPad when authors have requested a comment - the bloody thing just freezes and I have to reboot it completely, and none can tell me why).

I think Gav fixed that problem. I mentioned it a while back and he does have another life so, thank you very much Gav.

I've had a problem with logging in. He fixed part of it but I still get a message that it can't find the page. If I pop up a story and try to comment it's actually logged in and will then allow me to roam the site. I mostly use my IPad and I find it slows to "furlongs per fortnight" when I post a comment too. I don't have that problem on my IBM at my store.

I always post comments when I read unless it's so bad it's almost not understandable. There are a few of those.

I read this for my pleasure only too. If I buy a book the author got paid for his work whether I liked it or not. Here the only pay is comments and scores and I think I should say something if I liked it. I try to answer all comments but miss some and I apologize for that.

I love all comments and WANT the good and bad. They aren't "Bad" really if they're constructive. That's how I get better. If I don't know I screwed it up I'll screw it up again next time and I want to get better. I am but it's a long and twisty path on a dark, rainy night.

I want the rejections too if it needs fixing. My latest was rejected twice, deservedly I might say, and was finally accepted by the original rejector. Thank you for that. I'm glad it was you because I think your work far outshines mine.

I am officially totally addicted to this site now too. Does anyone know of a reprogrammer for this? Maybe Someone will start a "Lush-anon", like Al-anon that I could join?

My 2 cents

My 2 cents

31 May 2014

Of course.

It's a very safe place to learn about another. If you keep yourself protected and NEVER give any identifying data out. Read everything they write, all forum comments and stories you can learn a lot.

If they never post or write I think I'd back away very quickly, if I were female. The odds of a female stalking old farts like me are extremely low. For the males stalking females it's VERY high.

Take time to talk. Learn about one another but, again, look for real consistency in their responses. First you like them, then you trust them, then everything else can come from that. It all starts with trust and if you can't build that higher over time then run away because it's not right. Something is wrong.

Just be smart and DO NOT let your ego or your "Need" talk you into some stupid thing. Those are what are called serial killers and rapists if it's the dominate ones or victims for the ones they do that to.

I never ask for friends. I put what's "Me" out and wait patiently for someone to like what they see. I don't know. Why I do that but that's exactly how I've lived my entire life. I do not like to push anyone. You want to or you don't. NO is a very big word in my vocabulary. I'll only allow so much when I'm pushed though and both heels dig in and I will not move from that point.

Gandhi is a hero of mine. He said, "No one can hurt me." and they never did. They killed him but they never got inside him and hurt him. He also said, "First they ignore you, then they fight you, then you win." That's how I've lived.

Be strong but allow softness.

I've met several here who I could love easily, after we built all that trust. One has risen very high up that scale but we can't do anything. I will not do ANYTHING until my wife doesn't remember who I am and she knows that and accepts it.

So, yeah, I think you can fall in love here.

love8

love8

29 May 2014

That does not work with IPad. I did find this though http://text-compare.com and it does work with them. Cut and paste work differently between IBM and IOS.

Played with it and got some good results.

Just info for anyone else who needs it.

29 May 2014

Why should the victim "Run Away" instead of learning to defend themselves? What you had was a very mild "Concern?" Compared to the worst case. Again, who would you rather have explain it to the cops?

I am not advocating anything except being prepared to stand up for yourself.

THEY are in the wrong, not you.

29 May 2014

How can you pick one!

I have hundreds that I would listen to at any time. They range from Ode to Joy to bagpipes. There's some Hank Williams and others I've been listening to for 60 and more years. I still love them.

29 May 2014

Thank you very much. I will look at that and use it. I want you guys lives to be easier, then you have more time to tell me where I screwed it up.

I do appreciate all the effort. No, I never get angry at rejections. It's just part of the learning curve. Besides, if you never screw it up then your not doing anything.

29 May 2014

Quote by Guest

Thanks

When you make edits, a verifier can see what was fixed and what wasn't. It's highlighed so that we don't have to re-read an entire story and basically double-verify it. This is one of my stories that I edited using the Lush edit box:

That makes the verifier's job easier and it takes less time for the story to be re-read, meaning less time you have to wait before your story is verified.

But when you copy it from a different processer:

The second one is fine if it's a large amount of edits and it's easier to do it in word, but if it's just one or two typos, it's easier on everyone if it's fixed in the original (on Lush) file. I know it can sometimes be a hassle editing in the edit box, but for small typos, we prefer if you do it that way.

Okay, what software and where can I get it. If I run what you do then copy your markup all the edit marks will go with it then when I copy it back it's all there. Editing in that box is okay if it's a few things. If it's paragraphs, like your second example, that takes a lot of time.

28 May 2014

I've done a lot of stage work and the only thing that worked well under those fricking lights was the old, hard cake make-up. I spent a lot of time in touch-up though. You sweat like a faucet out there.

Probably not right for most here though.

I personally think the adage, "Less is more" works best for me. A hint of color, a touch of perfume (Opium from Yves St. Laurent drives me wild), lower heels, a dress that "Moves" with her and simple hair.

I like subtle. If it takes her hours to get ready that's a waist of time to me. I always appreciate whatever she did and tell her it's wonderful, but I don't think she needs to.

Just me.

My 2 cents

My 2 cents

28 May 2014

Thank you.

And you did not overstep any bounds. It was an observation, how you interpreted my words. As a speaker it's MY job to make sure you understand what was said. I learned that a long time ago. I am also an actor with hundreds of stage plays, TV, movies(2 only there) and a few hundred technical papers. I am also an engineer.

Understanding is of prime importance or we get into a lot of fights. I accept, then work to understand. I can always kill them, but that might not be where I want to start the conversation. It tends to eliminate the problem but they may have wanted nothing more than to say hello, or thank you.

28 May 2014

I have a very similar problem. I use an IPad so it may react differently than an IBM. It takes me several tries. The first few tell me that it's an "Invalid Address" and I've used the same link for over a year. What I found was that linking a story then trying to comment on it allows me to log in.

At the same time my usual 10MB down rate now takes a minute or two to go from one instance to another when I switch pages.

I also had one where every time the "You have to comment" window popped up that it would not accept anything. I'd have to shut down then re-attach to get back. That may have been fixed, I reported it a week or more ago.

Talk about withdrawal symptoms, whoa!

Thanks to everyone. I appreciate every second you give doing this.

28 May 2014

what kind of daddy/dom are you?
Your Result: sugar daddy

80%
You are a sugar daddy. You love to spoil your little girl rotten. Whatever she needs you get. You tend to be a push over more than anything. whos heard of spankings with a sugar daddy?

77%soft daddy

39%strict daddy

Actually I would have made the "Soft" a lot higher. I tend to get more of what I want that way. I want her to really "WANT" to be with me. I get a lot better with sweet than with sour.

28 May 2014

Neat name for a town to live in. Seems like a nice guy.

Good luck with the quest. I would like to meet someone then write about it. Especially if we wrote it together. I've got one in mind but it won't work quite yet. See below.

Quote by Libertine3
reminds me a lot of my own father, free spirit, intellectual. maybe needs to spend a little less time thinking 'bout dying, and a little more trying to tap that cute widow that lives down the street.

I think about and remember life. I'm still living it but we all die and I'm getting closer so, yeah, I think about it. I do not dwell on it, it's just a fact. How I live the "Life" I have is what's important.

And, NO, I won't tap the widow, I stick to my commitments. Besides, she's divorced, not a widow. She is quite sexy but nothing until my wife does not remember me anymore. Then I can't hurt her (prime importance to me) and will do what makes me happy for whatever time I have left.

28 May 2014

1) Would you be sexually attracted to a girl with a large scar down her chest? (From surgery)

Yes. It's a "Feature", something to look at, touch and accept as a part of what you are. It is not. A detractent.

2)Attracted to a girl who has orgasms every 2 fucking seconds?

Yes. What about being able to bring that much pleasure to someone is bad? You can learn to control that, make it happen every time you want it to.

3) Attracted to a Nymphet?

Yes. See answer above.

4) Would you stay with a girl if she doesn't want to have sex until married?

Yes. If she's worth having, she's worth waiting for. There are many other ways to be happy and enjoy life. Save whatever until you are ready. It is never about anyone else's schedule, just yours.

5) Pubic hair or no?

Yes. Again, that's your choice. Do what you're comfortable with and I will enjoy that, when you are ready.

6)Uneven boobs? (One bigger one smaller)

Yes. Everyone is asymmetrical. In some it's blatant, in others very subtle. You are what you are and anyone must accept that. Any demand that you be different is essentially slavery and I find that completely abhorrent. It's about what you are, not what anyone else wants you to be.

I read your story and enjoyed it. Keep writing because Words are what we are. Everything we are and the better you are with them the farther you get along your path.

This is what I am, how I see people. Acceptance is first, then the rest.

28 May 2014

No!

Wow, neat question. Do men feel cycles like women do? I think many do but most do not. We are built different, physiologically, on a very basic level. For them the monthly cycle defines a lot and keeps more humans coming along. Because each has a different timing men have to be ready all the time.

The fact that a group of women living together will synchronize their timing fascinate me. It shows the power our minds have over our physical body. Metaphysics work because of that. It's not what you hold, the rock or whatever, but your mind focusing through that, controlling, changing you. Your mind can make you very well or it can kill you. You chose.

I am ALWAYS aware of sex. I never drool, approach, Lear at, make suggestive gestures or remarks, anything to show what my mind is doing. But it is always aware.

What it's doing is storing a picture that I can view later to enjoy. What does she think? What are her favorite things? Her sense of humor? Is it like mine? Is it better than mine? What does her skin feel like and does she like to be touched? Does she like to touch? Would she touch me, just a soft, non-sexual caress. Stuff like that.

It is NEVER all about sex. Sex is always there though. I don't think anyone can see another without it being there at some level, positive (I want that!) , or negative (no way!), but always there. Our physical bodies are programmed to be that way. Otherwise there would be no next generation.

I feel it and crave it at a deep level, but there is so much more to pump those feeling up, so many more things to include. All those things inside, that make us who we are is what's important, not the package. Admittedly some packages are stunning but I've found some real ugly inside a few.

I am in charge of me, not that screaming little fucker that's my ego. He wants to do things I don't. I discovered him as a child and learned that controlling him got me so much more.

No, I do not whack-off over every woman I see. I am a gentleman and I adore women, all women but some more than others. It's hard seeing Bella Abzug as a sex object.

Sorry, i think to much and I probably talk to much, but I am an old fart. An old, male, engineer fart at that, so I have an excuse.

My 2 cents

My 2 cents

28 May 2014

Quote by dpw

With all due respect, your answer says why you don't cheat.
I still think that people cheat because they think that can get away with it.

I totally agree with you. They do it because, "I'm godlike in my own mind so I know I can fool all those dumb assholes."

Ego. Same shit across the board.

Sorry if it seemed I was tooting my own horn. I just find anecdotes easier to explain with. I'm not godlike, I screw it up all the time. I just try hard to not do any harm. As a Taoist.

27 May 2014

I've read all and disagree with many.

Men cheat because they can not control their ego.

Anything else is justification.

My wife hasn't touched me in over 6 years

I've been pushed and pulled. I traveled many years and had a lot of opportunity, still do. The women that work for me tell me a couple times a month that some woman asked about me or couldn't take her eyes off me. Hell of an ego boost, absolutely, but they all know to say I'm not available. I see another couple hundred a week that I find very attractive but that's where it stops. I am committed. When we lived in Germany I thought she had once. She veheminantly denied it and my choice was accept it or leave. That was 36 years ago and I believed her so my choice was stay, not get revenge or get even.

Sometimes cheating is a daily choice for me but it's an easy one.

We have talked and my commitment, from day one, was, "I will never touch anyone else unless I tell you first. Then we talk and decide." I've lived that but when we were in Germany I travelled all the time, a week or more at a time and I said once, "I'll never do anything with anyone else but, if Miss america jams her hand in my pants I am going to have one hell of a time saying no." She said, "If Miss america jams her hand down your pants, say yes." Literally those words, that quick.

I have stood on street corners waiting for that, or at least I tell her that and we get into one of those long-term husband/wife banter sessions. We've done it for many years but now she gets offended by what I say and tells me that I shouldn't talk that way. Things change but the commitment is still there.

I not some super-dude, some genius that knows it all. I'm just a fricking old fart, stumbling around still trying to figure it out. I have figured some of it out and share my observations. An opinion, one of the three things all humans have.

My 2 cents

My 2 cents

27 May 2014

Quote by PhareDuFour
Is it just me, or do other members here find the terms "MILF" and "Cougar" derrogatory and demeaning?

The acronym MILF for Moms I Love to Fuck originated in the film America Pie as far as I know. So, in its original context it involved an underage male wanting to have sex with one of his friend's mother.

In the meantime this has somehow spiraled out as a general wishy-washy term to encompass all women over the age of 25 who may or may not have children as "second-rate" sexual partner choices. I don't know why women over the age of 30 who enjoy having sex often are somehow portrayed as "desperate", "sex-craved", "nymphos" or "wanton".

What does the world expect? Women who have brought a child into the world are supposed to be thereafter prude?

Doesn't anyone find it strange that the expression "DILF" Dads I Love to Fuck is non-existant?

The same thing goes of the expression "Cougar". Why is there a word for a 40+ year-old woman who has sexual relations with a 20- year-old male, but for the reverse situation, there is no word? No one says "Dirty Old Man" for a 40 year-old man who has a 20 year-old girlfriend. He has to be at least 80 for this to apply. And no one calls him a "wolf" or a "coyote" or a "jackel" or anything like that.

For the story category BDSM, they don't call it "Perverted Sex".

For the story category Gay Male, they don't call it "Faggot Sex".

Hence, I would like to see the story category "MILF Sex" disappear or be re-named. MILF is sexist and derrogatory, especially when there is no "DILF Sex" category.

I understand an aversion to words because I have a couple that were NEVER allowed in our house. "Stupid" and "Dumb". I didn't give a fuck about anything else and I still don't. Those two are forbidden. There ARE stupid and dumb people but those words are not synonymous. Dumb means you just don't know, "whatever", but stupid means you can't learn it.

MILF carries absolutely no age definition for the guy. It implies women that may , or may not, have children. Usually older than "Teen", a little more mature, but I've known several 18 year olds that fall into that area. All three were very sick for years and survived by growing up and taking charge. All worked for me and I would have turned my store over to two of them. The third still had a lot of "Teen" left.

All three stop in and talk, give me a hug and a kiss on the cheek, they are like my kids but all are MILF candidates. I would never touch any, but I wish I could some times. Some times it takes me a couple of seconds to switch my mind from MILF to DAUGHTER thinking but I do it.

"Cougar" is derogatory. I don't like it particularly. I had a 50 year old girlfriend when I was 25. It was a year long and I would have married her. I still love her 46 years later and wonder what happened to her. She was smarter than me though. She was a friend of my mothers and got embarrassed, I think.

I have problems with "Reluctance" too. I don't make a lot of distinction to that and the other "R" word that's forbidden here. All it means is that she said, "The hell with it, I'm tired of fighting." Vs. "(screaming) the "R" word". I thought "No" meant "No"? I understand and completely agree wit not allowing stories based on that word but not the very strict (I was spanked once) requirement to not say it. That reminds me of Joseph McCarthy and the forbidden word, "Communism", I hope I don't get spanked for using that word.

I can't do the BDSM thing either and I see that you do. If that's your choice, fantastic. But I like women that can stand toe to toe with God in a screaming got to hell fight, and not back down. If that's you too, again, fantastic. Your choice is all that counts for you.

I personally find the word "Slut" offensive. It carries meanings about a woman that I don't like. I read it all the time though and I don't throw books away because it's in there. It's a word, that's all. I encounter it in pretty much every category I read so it's hard to not read it.

In my thirties and forties the term DILF would not have worked for me, I am not a pedaphile. After about forty-five it would mean women over twenty-five or so and that was okay. Still is actually and, no, it wouldn't really offend me. I'd actually, at my age and condition, be very flattered that someone that young thought I was sexy. I don't see it myself.

Actually words really only carry the meaning the listener give them. It's my responsibility as the speaker to ensure you understand what I mean. That's why politicians and preachers are so effective. To many people don't think and miss what meant, not what's said.

As an actor I had to learn that or my performance sucked. Watch Shakespeare performed by a real actor, Richard Burton would be good, and then amateurs. It'll blow your mind.

Words are the most powerful things we have so don't throw any away. If you do you won't understand when you're attacked with them. I watch my words carefully. Even an unthinking aside can hurt someone.

Maybe this is where the term came from.

27 May 2014

Quote by Liz
Joke all you want, but I'm seriously pissed off about my Mac right now.

I write all of my stories in Scrivener, so even the Chromebook which I have been lent as a temporary replacement can't run it. I've got to try and find a way to copy my comp story out of a proprietary format I can't open, and into a Google Doc so I can carry on with it.

A lesson for all of you who use a platform specific writing app!

At least I have a few more weeks.

*sighs*

The lesson for all should be to, "BACK THE FUCKING THING UP" to something besides main memory. I mostly use an IPad now (love this fricking thing for it's convenience) but I'm getting the high end IBM pad. The options for file save are an order of magnitude better. It's a real pain in a very soft spot on this.

I've looked at scrivener but I prefer Word, another reason to go back to IBM. On the IPad I use Textilus. It's in the APP store and it's free to start. The purchased version has a couple enhancements but it basically works under any IOS system. I never liked Macs because of the case sensitivity. That started because of file name lengths but that problem went away 20 years ago and it's still there. You can write a book in the file name now. Well, almost.

I'm doing an entry too and then I read about all you fucking "Genius" authors bitching about how YOU'RE not good enough. That give me a real feeling of inferiority. I am not inferior, I'm superior in different areas. That's my story and I'm sticking to it, as soon as I figure out what areas those areas. are.

Someone (a very talented author here) challenged me to write a story about two lesbians as an exercise in getting around the non-sexual verbiage and into the sex necessary to make it well accepted here. Six attempts later she said it was good and I submitted it. It's been rejected twice now and I'm trying to figure out the real differences between past and past-imperfect tense.

I AM NOT BITCHING!

I do not do that. I need to be told where I screwed it up and I DO NOT shoot messengers. Both rejections were deserved! I've said I want to be good and that would imply that I need to do it right. One was from a moderator who is not even a native English speaker. English is probably one of ten languages though.

In reality the differences between British and American are quite wide. Mostly it's the idioms that cause problems and do not translate well. I've had to learn to think in British or phrases with "Arse" and "Uni" require stopping and translating. That screws up the sex.

I have been laughing my ass off reading you guys here. This is the only site I've found with standards set this high and I enjoy it tremendously. I love every one of you past, present and future moderators. Well, the girls more than the guys but I am a sexist pug at times. My wife's told me that for 43 years now.

I've decided that "Words" are our real Gods. They control our universe In every aspect. They define every physical and emotional thing we are and we couldn't exist as a reasoning species without them.

I need to find a female, English teacher who's a nymphomaniac and wants to write about sex but can't make herself write the words. She can correct mine and then maybe past-imperfect will go away as a problem. That is probably to narrow a specification though and I'll never find one. I'll post a notice in the English department at Sonoma state University and maybe I'll get lucky.

Damn, the research on a story could really be fun. I mean, come on, we have to get the words just right, right?

27 May 2014

Not much in the profile to comment on. She lives in New Jersey and I lived in Toms River for 2 years when I was teaching engineering at the naval station at Lakehurst. That's where the Hinderberg crashed and I literally drove over the crash site every day as I went into work. Had a lot of fun there driving up and down the coast. Toms rivers population quadrupled in the summer months. The island was completely full.

Like her choice in music too.

24 May 2014

I think my all time dumbest thing I've heard was an answer to a question. This was in the early eighties and cancer from cigarettes was a big issue. I was at a software house in Massachusetts when I heard, "doesn't knowing you could get cancer want to make you quit smoking?" And the guys answer was, "it takes a real man to face cancer."

I had to see this so I turned and watched for a minute and the guy was absolutely serious about his answer. The guy who'd asked the question was shaking his head as he walked away and I just left. I've never forgotten that though.

23 May 2014

Quote by emilykiss
Okay, I'll try to address this question as a reader.

I love details! I want to feel like I'm able to see the characters and what they're doing in my mind's eye. I love it when a piece straddles the graphic with more creative metaphors. I would much prefer a well-described sex/action scene over well-described human (or non-human, now that the Supernatural comp's on!) appendages. Movement is very diverse and may also suggest particular physical traits. For instance, a brilliant description of a sport-y action like say, swimming, would give me a clear impression that he/she's athletic. And then, quite naturally you might be able to slip certain physical characteristics into the action.

Also, I'm an intensely visual person, but I love other tactile senses to be engaged as well. So if you describe the smell, sounds, feel of something, I'd just be happily pulled along for the ride.

But I'm one of the many, many readers out there so don't just take my word for it!x

That very well describes how I feel about it too. I like Verbals comment, it's not how much but how you use the words. I think there's some quote about size that works the same way.

Those stories I can crawl into and live for a while are the best. If it's nothing but screwing from beginning to end it gets boring. I want to become one of the characters and live there for a short time. I'm an actor too and when I'm on stage that's exactly what I have to do. It's called Suspension Of Disbelief and if I can't get you to believe what I'm telling you at some level , I've failed in my job. Works the same here.

So, no, don't drop the detail just figure out the best words to use.

22 May 2014

Quote by Metilda

Eep! NO! Editors are not supposed to rewrite your work. They're supposed to point out your errors and may give you suggestions to sort out issues. (Like: maybe this would be better up here, maybe you could use another different word here?)

Editors - good editors, like pro editors for pub companies - do not o this. They shouldn't anyway.

I know your friend meant well, just don't take it personally because she/he didn't know to not alter your writing. You can compare sentence structure and alter your original work with a new perspective or open mind.

When people try to be helpful and they're really not just say thank you - let it just glance off of you like you're a rain slick.

At the same time some people don't understand this about editin and when I edit for free they WANT me to tinker and rewrite. Nope - I won't. Their work, they do it, I just point out issues.

Very good suggestions Metilda. If I offend you with the use of your quote as an example of what I'm talking about I abjectly apologize in advance. Feel free to smack me up-side my head too if you feel it necessary.

Never change another's work unless they tell you to. Edit it like the pros do with strike-outs and suggestions that the author can use or not use at their choice.

I proff for a daughter that has 4 Steam Punk books published. When she asked me it scared the crap out of me and it took several back-and-forths for her to assure me that what I suggested wouldn't bother her. I'd read an anecdote years ago about a brother reviewing a work for his sister and with no intention to hurt her stopped her desire to write. He said it had been good but needed word changes and he changed to much. She never wrote again.

I use Word with Track Changes turned on and she can pick and choose what to keep. I can't do that on this IPad.

Nicola: be very assured that this is one of the top sites on the net. You keep it tight and professional but allow tremendous freedom of movement for us struggling authors. An occasional admonition and spanking is well appreciated too as it helps us become more human and socially acceptable. I've been rejected several times and spanked twice and I appreciate every bit of it. I have never felt anything but respect and a desire to help from any of the moderators and staff.

Thank all of you, and you, Nicola, for all of this!

Katie: that was a silly thing for them to do. Rewrite it the way you want and tell them that's how it's supposed to be, then re-submit. "Some people forget about idiomatic phrases and can't help replacing things. I do that in my mind but only tell about it when I'm asked to. I helped 25 or so soviet scientists at the Black Metals institute in Moscow with changing from British to American when they gave papers in the US. It was hard for them to understand that there was a difference in the way we hear it. I also helped some do that for papers to be given in London.

Don't let it bother you but insist on your words. You'll have to develop some callouses for that

I completely appreciate being told where I screwed it up, that's the way I learn to not screw it up again. I had one story accepted then got a comment from another moderator that said she'd have rejected it. Then she said it was basically a good story. I hope I thanked her profusely enough for that truly honest help. I'll have to go check that.

Are there differences in what gets accepted or rejected between moderators? Absolutely, and there's no way to get rid of it so just get used to it. I produced thousands of pages of documents when I worked military consulting. The documentation, one copy of each page for all docs to produce the Sea Wolf submarine outweighed the first boat built. One reviewer would reject one doc and when we resubmitted another reviewer would reject it for another reason. They stopped that when we billed them for the recursion of changes.

My 2 cents

My 2 cents

Enjoy and stay safe.

21 May 2014

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Good luck in the competition!

Thank you Nicola. Perfect! I am still laughing my ass off.

I love that look and, yeah, I can be rather pedantic but like I said. I am a guy and an engineer, but I'm also a very good actor so I can appreciate those thoughts. I've been accused of being a "Know-It-All" a few times but truly it's not that. I study everything and I love to teach so I share knowledge as much as I can. Never to hurt or show off though.

I'm almost through with it.

21 May 2014

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I enjoy my daily runs/rides. (running on 3-4 days, cycle the others) I am used to the normal amount of whistles, honks, and guys hanging out the window as they drive by. However, recently a couple of different things have me wondering how many people this happens to.

Last week I had a man lean out the window as I ran across the crosswalk, attempting to flag me down. I continued my run, listening to my tunes and just thinking of my breathing. (the main attraction to running to me is that I can be alone with my thoughts and do the mental sorting that helps keep me sane) However, a half mile up the road, the same man had turned around and pulled into a drive, blocking my way and standing there. He gave me his card(which, please note future stalkers, if you are giving me a card when I am dressed to run, I don't have pockets, and any paper gets soggy with sweat)

Okay, well, I run a minimum of 3x week, times months and months times hundred of cars, so Ill take the one random outlier. But then yesterday as I was finishing my run, I noticed a guy using his phone to video me. (ick)

So tell me, am I in a sleazier area then I previously thought? Or does this happen to everyone? How do you handle it? How do you protect yourself?

It has little to do with the area, there are sociopaths like this everywhere. In the sleazier areas there are just more. Some get off on the thrill of "Capturing" her attention, her image on camera, and just leave. Others will kill you and enjoy watching your pain while you die.

Other than hiding in a box this is about the only way to protect yourself. Be ready to kill them if you have to!

I have 3 daughters and 7 grand daughters and the thought of this has frightened me so much over the years that I'm not sure why I'm not confined. I've taught every one that knowing how to defend yourself is of primary importance. Just because you "Can" kill them doesn't mean you have to, but not being able to may cost you your life.

Ask yourself whether you rather explain why you killed him than the obverse! I am entirely capable of torquing to death anyone that attacks any of my children or grand children. I do not look for that to happen so I can, I just know I can if it comes up. You should be exactly like that or you stand to be hurt very badly.

I've had to defend myself a couple of times. I was in the military and in Viet Nam and you expect it there. At about 24 I was driving back to college in Oklahoma and 5 guys tried to get my car pulled over on a dark country road between Vanita and Tahlequah one night. I didn't kill anyone but 5 rounds of 9mm directed their way changed their minds quickly. Others had been stopped and beaten, robbed in the same areas but it did not happen again after that. I guess it had an effect.

Learn to carry a baton when you run. There are many commercial ones and the ones that lengthen as you swing them are probably the best. Smaller until you need it. For me I always liked one of the small children's baseball bats. They have great balance and can do a lot of damage when used.

In business they recommend "Contingency Planning" so you have something to fall back on if needed. This is that for your life, otherwise all you have to fall back on is a coffin. If they've stalked you then NOTHING will deter them. Ask any battered woman that's just been beaten or killed by someone they've had a restraining order against.

"THE POLICE ARE INCAPABLE OF PROTECTING YOU!"

All they can do is punish them after the fact so, back to my question, who would rather have explaining it? If you don't believe this then read about the last day of John Kennedy's life.

Stay safe!

21 May 2014

"Good words beget good words!"

"EVERYTHING!". Is about words.

Words are the real "Gods" of existence. Without them you, I, everything in existence is nothing more than a collection of "Stuff." Whatever you call it. But it takes words to do that. You can not think without words. Pain, ecstasy, emotions, everything is about them. How you actually experience those things, the intensity, the emotions, are all directed by the words we hear.

"Those who fail to study history are doomed to repeat it." Is a famous quote but "Those who fail to study words are doomed.", is my interpretation of what it really means.

If you miss the Meaning of what's said you will not understand what happens to you. Politicians and Preachers are masters at it. Listen to them and try to get behind what's been said to what it means. Sometimes they frighten me beyond belief. The absolute arrogance of someone telling me that they are so much better that they can tell me how to live my life. Then I see Jim and Tammy Baker or Jimmy Swaggert and wonder why would all those people chose to listen to a liar and thief. Then the even more arrogant attitude when they tell me they know the mind of God.

The most effective and long lasting control over a thinking animal is ignorance. If you can keep them ignorant you can make them do anything. "The Dark Ages!" Wikipedia has this quote,

"...the concept of a period of intellectual darkness and economic regression that supposedly occurred in Europe following the collapse of the Western Roman Empire."

This is saying that it probably didn't really happen and many will believe that just like the group that believes the idea that Hitler was just misunderstood or that the earth is really flat. What absolutely ignorant bullshit.

Look around you, feel it in your mind. Study.

"Orange Alert", that is a current one. What happens? Everyone who doesn't bother to think starts looking for a hole to crawl into so they'll feel safe. You're not safe, any more than anyone was with, "Duck and cover.", in the 50's during the Atomic Threat posed by The Soviet Union.

"You are going to hell for impure thoughts." Bullshit, if I wasn't supposed to think then why am I allowed to? I love all the dichotomies in the bible and the flood myth is a favorite. God gave man the ability to think then killed all of them with a flood when they dared to do it.

If God is omniscient, as many believe, then why didn't he see that coming? Another myth. If God is omnipotent then why does the Devil still exist and why is it a war? If God is that powerful then the only reason for his continuing existence is to punish us. If he's doing that then why should I consider him God and worship him? Epicurus said that 2,500 or so years ago. Also the concept that God is a male is pure EGO on a level that scares the crap out of me.

Think for yourself, learn everything you can, understand the words being said to you, otherwise you are doomed to do and be whatever someone else wants you to be. That's called "Slavery" in my vocabulary, an absolutely abhorrent idea as far as I'm concerned. That includes the "One step back" concept my Oklahoma, born-again, bible banging brother believes in.

Maybe I just don't have the "Words" to describe it well enough. I'll go study more and get back to you. I'll read a lot of what you guys write too because I like the way you use them. Keep it up.