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Leesi
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 155
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Quote by Carl_H
Whats the mood for knowing it's Monday tomorrow lol
Approach it with a little humor. If not, you can call in and tell your boss you need an "attitude adjustment day." That's what my staff used to tell me from time to time, and I was usually pretty understanding.
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Van
Your statement:
"Time is so precious. If you've ever had a harrowing life-or-death situation, you know this is a fact".
Yes, I have, and I understand all too well that time is precious, and sometimes you have to grab whatever little bit of happiness you can, and enjoy it without regret. I wrote in the We Go Together Forum, "scars and no regrets" because I've decided to live my life without regret. Right now, this works for me, and I am happy.
Please note, when I wrote my response last night it was late, and I had been bashed by someone for almost 2 hours, and my response came off a bit harsh. I forgot a lesson my mentor taught me a long time ago, "never respond to anything when you are angry"! I'm sorry I let you down, Mr. D, but you also know I'm a bit of a firecracker. I swear I can see him laughing out loud, shaking his head, and throwing his hands up in the air.
No offense taken, but I'm glad I understand your situation and was able to speak my peace on where I am.
Regards,
L
and p.s. Lush is a blessing in many ways and a bit of hell sometimes. xo
Your statement:
"Time is so precious. If you've ever had a harrowing life-or-death situation, you know this is a fact".
Yes, I have, and I understand all too well that time is precious, and sometimes you have to grab whatever little bit of happiness you can, and enjoy it without regret. I wrote in the We Go Together Forum, "scars and no regrets" because I've decided to live my life without regret. Right now, this works for me, and I am happy.
Please note, when I wrote my response last night it was late, and I had been bashed by someone for almost 2 hours, and my response came off a bit harsh. I forgot a lesson my mentor taught me a long time ago, "never respond to anything when you are angry"! I'm sorry I let you down, Mr. D, but you also know I'm a bit of a firecracker. I swear I can see him laughing out loud, shaking his head, and throwing his hands up in the air.
No offense taken, but I'm glad I understand your situation and was able to speak my peace on where I am.
Regards,
L
and p.s. Lush is a blessing in many ways and a bit of hell sometimes. xo
Quote by VanGogh
It appears that many people believe that if your spouse or significant other does not know about the relationship, the intimacy between the two people, it is cheating.
Many people seeking relationships outside of their marriage are missing something in their marriage (obviously). There's always justification for seeking and finding what one is missing.
Lush is a blessing for many. Sometimes it helps clarifies what's missing or helps one figure out how to make things better .... and the route is entirely subjective.
So ... have at it. Absolutely no judgment on my part. It matters zero to me. I just wanted to clarify my initial post.
Best of luck,
Van
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Quote by Dancing_Doll
I got a small bottle of this recently - this is a great evening scent or something I'm going to be breaking out to wear in the fall/winter. It has notes of coffee, vanilla, orange blossom and cedarwood. I'm really liking it so far.
That has always been a favorite. It's so delicious, I want keep smelling myself. I am obsessed with Hanae Mori Magical Moon. Got it as a gift, it smells like white musk, vanilla and sugar cane. Another fave is Bvlgari Green Tea, which is just a dreamy scent.
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Audri noted the following:
Instead of sharing this rich sexual fantasy life with your partner, you are giving it to someone else.
What if you did all the rights things? What if you shared your rich sexual fantasy with your partner? What if you made your partner feel desirable, and wanted, and needed, etc., and your partner completely disregarded your emotional/sexual needs because he is completely selfish and doesn't care? What if you've tried everything and this person just doesn't give a damn? Isn't that unfair?
You meet someone here (and you did not come to Lush to get involved with anyone), you click, you are both in a similar situation, you like each other, you get into a relationship, without your Lush relationship interfering with your private life, despite the phone calls/text messages/long emails. As long as your family is not missing out on your attention, love, and care, I don't see how my Lush relationship is going to impact them. I am extremely careful, and my family always comes first, so I don't feel that I'm taking anything away from them. On paper, we have the perfect marriage, we love and care for each other, we are friends, we like each other, we are able to communicate without fighting, our life is nice, minus sex and intimacy.
Who is being unfair here? Who is being uncaring and not taking into account their partner's needs? I think it is unfair to judge based on a statement made out of frustration because you don't understand the entire situation.
There are many people here who see no problem in striking up a sexual conversation with a Lush member, who happens to be involved with another Lush member. They are not considering that person's partner, so isn't that cheating because they know that person is involved, but they do it anyway? If you're going behind someone's back, that's cheating, right? I think that's cheating, but are people not considering it cheating because it's just a "Lush" relationship?
Saying that I don't care what anyone thinks is not being flippant or dismissive, you are going to judge me no matter what I do. We need to step away and look at our actions before passing judgement on everyone else. If you've never done anything you should be ashamed of, I think that's amazing. I absolutely cannot say that, and I am capable of owning my mistakes, and feeling shame.
We don't know why a person is seeking love and affection outside their marriage/relationship. There are many people who cheat because they can, and because they like it, but not everyone is the same. Not everything is black and white, and I will deal with God when my times comes.
Peace.
p.s. (using one of my favorite things V and I always do when we tack on something to our emails) Why do I stay? Because my daughter is a happy and well adjusted kid, who is being raised in a happy home. I will not be selfish and leave my husband because I need affection.
nyth
Instead of sharing this rich sexual fantasy life with your partner, you are giving it to someone else.
What if you did all the rights things? What if you shared your rich sexual fantasy with your partner? What if you made your partner feel desirable, and wanted, and needed, etc., and your partner completely disregarded your emotional/sexual needs because he is completely selfish and doesn't care? What if you've tried everything and this person just doesn't give a damn? Isn't that unfair?
You meet someone here (and you did not come to Lush to get involved with anyone), you click, you are both in a similar situation, you like each other, you get into a relationship, without your Lush relationship interfering with your private life, despite the phone calls/text messages/long emails. As long as your family is not missing out on your attention, love, and care, I don't see how my Lush relationship is going to impact them. I am extremely careful, and my family always comes first, so I don't feel that I'm taking anything away from them. On paper, we have the perfect marriage, we love and care for each other, we are friends, we like each other, we are able to communicate without fighting, our life is nice, minus sex and intimacy.
Who is being unfair here? Who is being uncaring and not taking into account their partner's needs? I think it is unfair to judge based on a statement made out of frustration because you don't understand the entire situation.
There are many people here who see no problem in striking up a sexual conversation with a Lush member, who happens to be involved with another Lush member. They are not considering that person's partner, so isn't that cheating because they know that person is involved, but they do it anyway? If you're going behind someone's back, that's cheating, right? I think that's cheating, but are people not considering it cheating because it's just a "Lush" relationship?
Saying that I don't care what anyone thinks is not being flippant or dismissive, you are going to judge me no matter what I do. We need to step away and look at our actions before passing judgement on everyone else. If you've never done anything you should be ashamed of, I think that's amazing. I absolutely cannot say that, and I am capable of owning my mistakes, and feeling shame.
We don't know why a person is seeking love and affection outside their marriage/relationship. There are many people who cheat because they can, and because they like it, but not everyone is the same. Not everything is black and white, and I will deal with God when my times comes.
Peace.
p.s. (using one of my favorite things V and I always do when we tack on something to our emails) Why do I stay? Because my daughter is a happy and well adjusted kid, who is being raised in a happy home. I will not be selfish and leave my husband because I need affection.
nyth
Quote by AudriNichols
You stated: I'm having a rich sexual fantasy in writing with someone, and I keep that from my partner. This says it all.
Any time you are giving of yourself in any sexual way, physically, mentally, emotionally, to anyone other than your partner you are cheating. Instead of sharing this rich sexual fantasy life with your partner, you are giving it to someone else.
Quote by VanGogh
For those that state "I don't care what anyone thinks anymore, I do what I want" should really re-think their "real life" relationships and their online relationships. I would never get involved with anyone that has that type of mentality. It's more than selfish, it's damaging to all of the other people they are involved with ... because let me assure you, more than the cheater will feel the hurt .... eventually.
good luck to you all that think it's just online ... especially those that take it away from Lush .... chat on the phone, , , .... that is real life. I feel badly for your spouse/significant other.
Van
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Your wife may feel comfortable watching porn with you, but she may not feel comfortable expressing her interest in women, if there is interest. It's best not to push, and allow the person to open up when they are ready. I am straight, and very comfortable with who I am; however, I've had girl crushes, and a couple of experiences. Personality is what I find attractive and turns me on, not gender.
Your wife may have been turned on by the scene itself, and not the woman. However, if she was, and she enjoyed herself, then good for her.
Your wife may have been turned on by the scene itself, and not the woman. However, if she was, and she enjoyed herself, then good for her.
