Quote by sphxpoolguy
It's been since June 2014 that my wife and I had sex. I'm an early to bed, early to rise guy and she has turned into a night owl. In addition she is always taking on new projects that take up all of her free time. I've come to spend a lot of time here on lush and have become very intimate with my hand. I've brought up the lack of sex and she doesn't want to talk about it. Any advise from my fellow lushies? It's gotten to the point that I will probably sleep with the first person I have the chance to.
Many of us have been down this path and have experienced the same frustration. Sometimes talking to your partner helps and things get back on track once you understand what the underlying issue is and life goes on. Sometimes things are good for a while then you are back on the same boat. When it comes to sexual issues people clam up. They can talk about any subject with their partner except for that particular one. I tried to have that conversation many times and he would not deal with it, could not talk about it. We finally sat down one day and I said, I'm not going to judge, I just want to understand. I listened, and based on that conversation, set a plan in motion. I did everything on my end and for a while we were on the same page and then, we were back to square one. His lack of trying and his lack of making me a priority changed our relationship. Although there's love and respect, that connection is forever lost. I've resigned myself that for the time being this is what it is.
She needs to consider how she would feel if the roles were reversed and out of respect, she needs to be honest with you.
She's telling you a lot without saying a lot. Taking on new projects that occupy her time, staying up late and not making you a priority are red flags. Keep trying to have the conversation, the sooner it happens the sooner you can get to working on things but whatever you do, please don't blame yourself. I know that's easier said than done, but it's her, not YOU. That's the attitude you need to take until this is resolved.
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