Happy birthday you cantankerous old bastard. x
I hope it's a good one for you and you get to celebrate in style. (Do I detect a 'true story' post coming up?)
Take care of yourself. A man of your age might not have many left to celebrate! Make the most of it! You never know!
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Lupus
Over 90 days ago
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Quote by stephanie
I read this and feel you.
All I can say is this.
To LOVE once means that YOU CAN LOVE.
And THAT means you can love again.
Dark days follow a broken heart.
Brighter days follow still. Honest.
xx Steph
Here speaks a man who knows - as with your previous post.
Listen to the wisdom of age, people. (Like, serious age. x)
Everything you've said is spot on, sir. Love never leaves you - or the impression it leaves on you as a person. It's always there. You might think you can never love again, but the fact that you can do it once proves that it's always capable again. Love isn't a feeling or an emotion so much as a scar on your soul. It's not necessarily a bad scar, but just the remnant marks of something that once was. IT doesn't leave you, it just manifests in new ways.
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Awww. I really never expected anyone to notice my birthday, so this is quite a lovely surprise. 
Thank you everyone. It really means a whole lot to me to get all of these lovely well wishes.
I might be a bit late to suggest it, but it's still my birthday for a few hours, so if anyone has any... 'gifts' they wanna share (belated or not!), feel free to send 'em over. *Chuckles*
Really, thank you to everyone, those who know me and those who don't. (I don't bite, y'know? Unless you like it.)
Thank you everyone. It really means a whole lot to me to get all of these lovely well wishes.
I might be a bit late to suggest it, but it's still my birthday for a few hours, so if anyone has any... 'gifts' they wanna share (belated or not!), feel free to send 'em over. *Chuckles*
Really, thank you to everyone, those who know me and those who don't. (I don't bite, y'know? Unless you like it.)
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Quote by stephanie
Benji Lupus came on The Mod Squad during MY TENURE... A more CHARMING and QUALIFIED guy I've never met. (And I say that despite the fact he NICKED all My Girls...)
And it's His Birthday today!!!!!!!!
(He's like 19 or some shit... No SERIOUSLY... I have COATS older than Benj...)
If you have ever dealt with him as a Mod, you'll know he's a credit to us... If you're a GIRL and have ever dealt with him then I probably haven't spoken to you in 18 months...
You know, given his Albinoism, the Dwarfism, his drug problems, the drinking, the TOTAL lack of personal hygine, his "IT'S KITCH!!!!!" fashion sense, that FUCKING moustache, the Cuban-Heeled boots he wears and the TOURETTE's.......... He does alright for us.
Happy Birthday Mucker Lad.
xx Stephen
Really, with all of my deformities, it's a wonder I ever managed to take any of... *Coughs*... Your girls, isn't it? *Laughs* I'm afraid my panty collection must surely be lacking a bit, though, compared to yours. Still, I have plenty of time to add to it. I'd like to say the same for you, too, but...
Thank you, Steph. You've always been a real influence among the mods and it's always guaranteed to put a smile on my face when you speak so highly of me, as well as my friends. If only you weren't such a bastard the rest of the time. x
I wanna say it's not the same without you around, m'lad. Where would the world be without crazy, melodramatic, capitalising, abrasive, incorrigible, big-hearted bastards? x
Thanks again, Steph. It means a lot.
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Quote by stephanie
Yaaaay me!
xx Steph
Me: "PRINCIPESSA!!!!!!!!!"
Her: "Steph, it is never going to happen. (I WOULD have if you were still a Mod...) It would have been so good for you too... But you are not."
Me: "You are A BITCH! I could PRETEND to be a Mod?"
Her: "You did that while you were a Mod, Stephen."
I swear you'll celebrate your 10,000th shit one day, man. Any excuse.
Just kiddin' with ya. Well done to you. People might joke, but it just shows how much time you've invested in this site and its people.
Wouldn't be the same without you.
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Quote by Dani
Sprite is correct. Females here and anyone in general appreciates a well-written story.
And we can't tell one way or another if an author has sexual and/or relationship experience.
Sprite can.
She has this 'slutty radar' she uses that picks up promiscuity. It doesn't work too well, though. Her own signal interferes with it, so it just goes haywire.
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I came third? 
That was unexpected! I... Thank you so much. Everyone. Everyone who's helped to get me here and put this grin on my face. (The rest of you can fuck off for not reading my story. x)
I kid. I'm genuinely very humbled to be a part of what we all know is a wealth of writing talent here at Lush. To even be considered is an honour and great surprise to me. Thank you all.
Except that redheaded lesbian. Damn her. Who'll take my prize money to finish her off?
That was unexpected! I... Thank you so much.
Everyone. Everyone who's helped to get me here and put this grin on my face. (The rest of you can fuck off for not reading my story. x)I kid. I'm genuinely very humbled to be a part of what we all know is a wealth of writing talent here at Lush. To even be considered is an honour and great surprise to me. Thank you all.
Except that redheaded lesbian. Damn her. Who'll take my prize money to finish her off?
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Quote by stephanie
LAUGHS!
The FIRST one went to a deserved co-writer...
The SECOND one shouldn't be even still up!!!!!
Milik, I LOVE that you get the jokes, fond, respected brother!
XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
Steve.
It's not happening, Steph, it's not. I'm sorry. It's not happening. Just let it go, dear.
You're not alone in this, don't worry. x
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Quote by Mazza
I think he does!!
Your audio was nice, not what I expected. I'd like to hear more, but you should listen to clum's one above (lazy Sunday) he did an outstanding job!!
Maybe we should make this a "what are your favourite audios?" thread...
It would be nice to see them get more recognition as they're a popular part of the site...
This one's had over 45k listens
Job well done
Typical Jocks, ganging up on the Englishman. *Tuts*
Not what you expected? I am curious now, about what exactly you were expecting. More? I don't know about more. There is talk of an audio in progress, but we'll see in time. I don't know just how many more I'll do. I'm still nervous and unsure about the whole thing. I can't possibly have a voice for audio.
There are definitely some brilliant audios out there, that a lot of work has been put into. It's a big deal around here. Not many of us men do them, though, which I hear a lot of people complaining about. That is something that might interest me in doing more. For now, no plans, but I might do something in future. I'm not doing London's Burning. It's 9,800 words. Ain't nobody got time for that.
A few writers do just one audio and then abandon it, sadly. My personal favourites? Jayne33, obviously, she's too big to ignore. I have listened to a few of yours, they're very good. I love the way Saga reads her work, which is always beautiful. Naughtygrl73's audio is just about as close to perfection as you'll find. We could make quite a list, couldn't we?
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Quote by clum
When people ask me to do things, I don't tend to say no. I find myself getting involved in all sorts of things. As a result, my life becomes very busy and sometimes I have a lot less free time than others. I can imagine that becoming quite irritating for someone I'm involved with.
One problem I had with my ex, although I probably had more of a problem with it than her, was that she was really extrovert and I really wasn't. Anywhere we went she would either meet people she knew (because she knew EVERYONE) or she'd make new friends, and I'm not a very sociable guy so I probably seemed a bit awkward in those situations. Like I say, I think it bothered me that I was like that more than it did her.
This is kinda me a T, too.
My own problems? I can sometimes go missing. I'm still there and I'll always be there for my friends, but occasionally I'll just go into 'downtime' and disappear for a while before coming back. It's nothing against anyone I'm with, it's just that I sometimes need my own time and space, which obviously isn't good for some people.
Oh and I've had issues in the past with knowing the other a little too well. That might sound strange, but I have a great memory (for the most part) and I pay attention to things people do and say, so it doesn't take long to get into their head. Sometimes it's been an issue for others, with me knowing how they'll react or what they'll do. I guess they like the mystery.
*Whispers* Mystery's scary.
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Quote by clum
EDIT: Also, a fun game: For those of you who have been writing a while, go back and read something you wrote maybe a year ago and ask yourself, "Does this reflect my best work? Would I give this a 5? What could/should I have done differently?"
Be your own critic, and fuck the rest. Literally.
Why do you hate me, sir? *Pouts*
Call it a talent perfected through years of writing actual essays. You learn to drag a topic from anything, don't you?
Or maybe I'm an opinionated cunt.
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I can't input here much more than has already been said, so I can only give my own account of things. As I see it, agreeing with others in this thread, the scoring system is inherently broken and it really is rarely used as it should be. There is an expectation to give fives (I've seen plenty of complaints over fours too) or give nothing at all. I understand why some people feel this way, but it is counter-productive to actually improving as a writer.
There are lots of factors to take into account with scoring sex stories, obviously, although not everyone may feel the same way. Personally, I would rate your story far more on the way it was written and presented than how much I may have enjoyed what was going on. You can write a scorching hot scene, but if it's presented badly then I will think poorly of it. Others, I know, look past such things and focus only on the content. It's the culmination of these things that results in a good story; you need the precision, the flair and the content to provide a work that people can't help but enjoy. If they don't enjoy the sex or the content then you can't help that, but you can go a long way towards it by writing your story to the best of your ability. This is just a generalisation, of course, but this is what we should all be aiming for; this is what brings good stories into great stories that receive RRs and EPs.
I understand that some people post out of spite, though, with low scores. You can only ignore them and move on - it is more of a comment on themselves than it is on you. Lower scores, though? 2, 3, 4? They're honest scores, for the most part, by members who felt the story was lacking. Perhaps they're right, or perhaps they're in the minority. Personally, I would like Lush to be more honest and open with criticism and feedback. There is too much expectation of good scores. I admit to feeling the same way when I first started to get lower scores on my stories; I asked why and got a bit angry. I realised, though, that it was what I needed. A few times in my time on Lush, I've been reminded by scores, by moderators or by my friends that my quality has slipped, or could be improved upon. Yes, it's hard to take at first. It feels personal and violating. It's not, though, it's for the best and I thank all my friends and the mods who have been so honest with me in the past to help improve my quality and standard (which I feel has improved a lot).
DD and the others are right. It's easy to hold to your words and find them precious. Nobody wants to admit that their writing could improve, or should improve, but feedback like this should be the insight we sometimes need to re-evaluate your work, take a look at it and wonder where it's lacking. We should always be looking to improve as writers and as people. Critical feedback is a part of that. Maybe you won't agree with criticism you receive, and it's up to you to decide whose word to take and how much to think of it, and it will be hard to accept, but in doing so you can only ever improve and strengthen.
For me? I'd rather people were honest. If they don't enjoy my stories, I'd rather it was said and brought to my attention so that I might learn from it for the future, so that I can improve. And I want to say a thank you here to Dirty_D who has been helping to give me an honest, outsider's opinion of my writing recently. It really does help to see it through another person's eyes; we become far too attached to our own words.
(If any of you give me less than a five, I will kill you, though. Just sayin'.
)
There are lots of factors to take into account with scoring sex stories, obviously, although not everyone may feel the same way. Personally, I would rate your story far more on the way it was written and presented than how much I may have enjoyed what was going on. You can write a scorching hot scene, but if it's presented badly then I will think poorly of it. Others, I know, look past such things and focus only on the content. It's the culmination of these things that results in a good story; you need the precision, the flair and the content to provide a work that people can't help but enjoy. If they don't enjoy the sex or the content then you can't help that, but you can go a long way towards it by writing your story to the best of your ability. This is just a generalisation, of course, but this is what we should all be aiming for; this is what brings good stories into great stories that receive RRs and EPs.
I understand that some people post out of spite, though, with low scores. You can only ignore them and move on - it is more of a comment on themselves than it is on you. Lower scores, though? 2, 3, 4? They're honest scores, for the most part, by members who felt the story was lacking. Perhaps they're right, or perhaps they're in the minority. Personally, I would like Lush to be more honest and open with criticism and feedback. There is too much expectation of good scores. I admit to feeling the same way when I first started to get lower scores on my stories; I asked why and got a bit angry. I realised, though, that it was what I needed. A few times in my time on Lush, I've been reminded by scores, by moderators or by my friends that my quality has slipped, or could be improved upon. Yes, it's hard to take at first. It feels personal and violating. It's not, though, it's for the best and I thank all my friends and the mods who have been so honest with me in the past to help improve my quality and standard (which I feel has improved a lot).
DD and the others are right. It's easy to hold to your words and find them precious. Nobody wants to admit that their writing could improve, or should improve, but feedback like this should be the insight we sometimes need to re-evaluate your work, take a look at it and wonder where it's lacking. We should always be looking to improve as writers and as people. Critical feedback is a part of that. Maybe you won't agree with criticism you receive, and it's up to you to decide whose word to take and how much to think of it, and it will be hard to accept, but in doing so you can only ever improve and strengthen.
For me? I'd rather people were honest. If they don't enjoy my stories, I'd rather it was said and brought to my attention so that I might learn from it for the future, so that I can improve. And I want to say a thank you here to Dirty_D who has been helping to give me an honest, outsider's opinion of my writing recently. It really does help to see it through another person's eyes; we become far too attached to our own words.
(If any of you give me less than a five, I will kill you, though. Just sayin'.
) 
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Quote by Raven_Star
If you're talking about someone being placed somewhere by someone else, then you say:
"He was stood by the usher in the appropriate area to await processing."
If no one placed him there and it's happening in the present, then you say:
"He was standing in the appropriate area awaiting processing."
If no one placed him there and it happened in the past, you say:
"He stood in the appropriate area and awaited processing."
You can only "be stood" by someone else. A beer can be stood. A plant can be stood. A person can be stood, by someone else.
I'll grant you, the use of "was stood" in the manner in which you indicate is a regionalism, a.k.a. slang, in the UK. Since we like for our stories here to be as universally appealing as possible, we don't often allow slang regardless of where it comes from. The one caveat is if a speaker in the story is speaking in slang. Say he or she was telling a story and the author wanted to imply a specific locational accent or colloquialism. That's when often the slang is allowed.
"Picture this, lads. I was stood at this tiny, crowded pub, waiting for the barkeep to pull me a pint, when this gorgeous Geordie walks by..."
That's my best shot at British colloquialism. No, it's terrible, I know. You get the picture, though.
*pats Raven_Star's back for trying, shaking head*
