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Nikki703
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 57
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Actually it was both. It was a 3some with someone I love and someone we met. Was an absolutely mind blowing experience!!
Have you ever had really great sex with someone but never called again because you knew it would be a mistake to have a relationship with the person?
Have you ever had really great sex with someone but never called again because you knew it would be a mistake to have a relationship with the person?
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First let me say the thought of sex with a virgin is neither a turn on or turn off for me. and except for my first sexual experience with a boy when we wre both virgins, I have never been with a virgin to my knowledge.
I can look at two ways.
1- Being someones first sex partner can be very rewarding since you are teaching them pleasures of the human body,how to make themselves and their partner experience all that is wonderful about sex. And they will always remember you as the person who opened them up to this amazing new experience.
2- On the other hand, being someone's first sexual partner is putting a lot of pressure on yourself. If you do not handle it just right, you may make them feel inadequate and hurt their sexual development. You need to be able to read them and go at a pace that is right for them. You have to remember, they are new and inexperienced. Its like they say in baseball, a great hitter doent necessarily make a great hitting coach.
Something that is a turn on for me is being a woman's first woman, showing her the pleasures that only a woman can give to another. She is not technically a virgin, but you have to handle it the same way to make it special for her!!
I can look at two ways.
1- Being someones first sex partner can be very rewarding since you are teaching them pleasures of the human body,how to make themselves and their partner experience all that is wonderful about sex. And they will always remember you as the person who opened them up to this amazing new experience.
2- On the other hand, being someone's first sexual partner is putting a lot of pressure on yourself. If you do not handle it just right, you may make them feel inadequate and hurt their sexual development. You need to be able to read them and go at a pace that is right for them. You have to remember, they are new and inexperienced. Its like they say in baseball, a great hitter doent necessarily make a great hitting coach.
Something that is a turn on for me is being a woman's first woman, showing her the pleasures that only a woman can give to another. She is not technically a virgin, but you have to handle it the same way to make it special for her!!
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Quote by pixiedust65
All this leads me to believe that you have been in an abusive relationship. Maybe you being as you say " needy" is causing you to take the first thing that comes along. Just a guess. As for you being any less of a man, of course not.
I agree. If you appear to needy, you may attract women who just want to take advantage of your good nature. I know you want someone really bad, but dont settle. The right one will come along. Have faith!
And of course it doesnt make you less of a man.
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Quote by JohnC
I am not a gal, but if I might......
While the physical things do matter, I suggest guys not think of foreplay as something you do directly before you want to have sex/make love. To me foreplay is a 24 hour a day thing. It begins with a smile in the morning, a kiss, a pat on the rear, a comment about how beautiful and alluring she is, and on and on. That "look", a wink, a note in her lunch or on the mirror, an email at work telling her you are thinking about her, and on and on. Sex, and more so making love, is mental on so many levels. If you neglect that, you are handicapping yourself.
That is just how I think about it, others may disagree.
I totally agree. But a really talented tongue and a willingness to use it never hurts either!! LOL
