For me its definitely eye contact. Like DD said, if I am interested it will be several glances with strong eye contact with each one progressively lasting a little longer. And when we are talking, I will usually touch my hair and his/her hand and arm a lot.
I also agree that I hate it when I make a random eye contact and a guy takes that a a sign that I am interested. It is hard to glance into a crowd and not make eye contact with someone!! Really hate that!
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Nikki703
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A hot guy wearing Jeans (preferably black), Boots and a Leather Jacket will usually get my attention. Especially if he has long hair!!
Oops!! I misread the question. If my same guy took off his boots, jacket and shirt and got on the bed in just his jeans and no shirt..............yeah, that'll do it!!
Oops!! I misread the question. If my same guy took off his boots, jacket and shirt and got on the bed in just his jeans and no shirt..............yeah, that'll do it!!
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I'm glad you enjoyed it. I still think it's hot, but I'm going to leave the situation alone and just carefully over time bring up the open relationship/swinging idea. As for texting...she doesn't go out like that much anymore because we moved to a new city for her job and she's busy...but when she was out and about we'd text back and forth sometimes. More so early on, and some of it was hot...why do you ask?
My reason for asking was that I thought perhaps her texting about what was happening could possibly be a smokescreen so you wouldnt think she did anything. But since texting you is a normal thing, Im sure she was just amazed at the things happening and wanted to share with you. Maybe to get you hot so you would be fired up and ready for when she got home!!
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Thanks...everyone's insights have been very helpful and confirmed some things for me.
@Dancing_Doll: I agree that I should keep the two issues separate...I feel like I've been having my fantasy cloud what really probably happened, and my hopes for opening things up influence those events. Also I agree saying "Hey it's totally cool..." does seem a little like a trap. I'd be wary, too.
@SITTING: Yeah, it's been my gut feeling to keep the two incidents separate...thanks for confirming.
@Nikki703: I guess I asked about BJ over fucking only because my female coworker suggested that it happened and that it would be the easiest. Either one could have happened. There was two hours where we weren't texting...
Thanks again...
I still think she didnt do anything but was just very turned on by the situation. One more question. Does she normally text you that often when she is out with her friends? I also agree that saying it is totally cool is a mistake. If it was me, I would think you are trying to get me to admit something so you can go off on me for cheating!!
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Why do you think it was only a BJ and she didnt fuck him? Not suggesting she did but just curious why!
I personally think your GF didnt do anything with this guy. Did she want to? Maybe. Did the idea of being with him make her hot? Most definitely! Celebs, especially if it is a big name have a way of making us excited, maybe because they seem so unattainable. But unless your GF is really stupid, I dont think she would have gone into such detail about what was going on at the party if she did anything.
As for getting into the open relationship, you can casually bring up ideas regarding it. Maybe something involving the famous singer like these guys usually are in open relationships since they are on the road so much and have women throwing themselves at them (be careful not to suggest she did that). See what her reaction is and then maybe ask if she could ever see herself in a relationship like that. Again be very subtle so it appears that you are just interested in her opinion and not suggesting it for her.
BTW, as someone who has been with a couple celebs (no one real famous, more D listers) they are no better in bed!!
I personally think your GF didnt do anything with this guy. Did she want to? Maybe. Did the idea of being with him make her hot? Most definitely! Celebs, especially if it is a big name have a way of making us excited, maybe because they seem so unattainable. But unless your GF is really stupid, I dont think she would have gone into such detail about what was going on at the party if she did anything.
As for getting into the open relationship, you can casually bring up ideas regarding it. Maybe something involving the famous singer like these guys usually are in open relationships since they are on the road so much and have women throwing themselves at them (be careful not to suggest she did that). See what her reaction is and then maybe ask if she could ever see herself in a relationship like that. Again be very subtle so it appears that you are just interested in her opinion and not suggesting it for her.
BTW, as someone who has been with a couple celebs (no one real famous, more D listers) they are no better in bed!!
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I have come across quite a few profiles as you mentioned, stating they are not interested in being a "sex object" yet have risque photos of themselves on their profile. Sends the wrong message and will attract what they are saying they do not want. Oh well it is what it is.
HAHA!! Face it girls, we all want to be a sex object in one way or another!
As for the original post, I dont really care if someone says "NO MEN" in their profile or anything else really. It is their choice. But I do take offense when they are nasty in the way they say it. If you have special rules that is fine, but why cant they be politely and respectfully stated. You are are asking for respect but you think it is OK not to show any. Cant have it both ways.
I have "special" requests in my profile but I think I have been respectful in how I asked. And if someone doesnt listen to my requests (yes, believe it or not it does happen, LOL), I will not come down on them, just ignore them.
For me, Lush is an escape from the everyday world and I want to have fun here. I am sure most lushies feel the same way. Dont let what others put in their profiles bother you. If you dont like it, just IGNORE it.
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I don't know about other "girls" ... but, I don't do it for "guys".
I mean, I like to be neat down there at all times.
If I wasn't able to keep it like I want for some reason .. It wouldn't prevent me from things.
Personally, I like it clean and neat.
It's hard to go back, once you've experienced it.... And, I don't want to.
And here I thought you did for me!!
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I really don't blame the women at all for being defensive and slow to let their guard down.. unfortunately some guys come in here and think it's a Kodak moment for body parts and a chance to use words and phrases they perfected with their buddies in high school.. and because of those less than mature guys the rest of us get painted with the same brush and must endure the gauntlet of distrust that comes from their deeds.. as in all things there is a comfort that develops over time.. courtesy and respect will open a lot of doors that are usually closed and locked.. and when they don't.. it's just best not to go where you aren't wanted..
This is very true!! But, there is always a but, when Lesbians, or people calling themselves lesbians get nasty with guys who are just asking to be friends and did not disrespect them in any way, well that is very wrng too. If you dont want to be friends with men, just politely say thanks but no thanks!! There is no need to get nasty if the guy is being polite!
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I am not a Lesbien or a Lesbian, far from it. But I do love women as much if not more than men. The reason I have many more female friends on Lush is that I get hit on a lot IRL by guys I have no interest in, I do not need that on Lush. The men friends I do have I like very much and they are very respectful to me. But I put some of them through hell before I added them, LOL!
But the guys who are rude, are only interested in cybering or showing me their(or one they claim to their's) cock, I have no interest in. And I think many other women here feel the same way.
And to be fair, there are a lot of women here who are as bad as the guys when it comes to only wanting to cyber and share pics. Not interested in them either.
But the guys who are rude, are only interested in cybering or showing me their(or one they claim to their's) cock, I have no interest in. And I think many other women here feel the same way.
And to be fair, there are a lot of women here who are as bad as the guys when it comes to only wanting to cyber and share pics. Not interested in them either.