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You are in the friend-zone. And the girl you are chasing is gay.

Any fondness or cute-flirty comments she makes to you are purely in jest and part of your friendship. Do not read into them or try to decode things that aren't there.

If a girl is into you, it will become very obvious.

Be a buddy to all of them (as you have been in the past) and move on to the next letter of the alphabet.

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This may sound strange, but stop thinking so much. Assuming these questions are sincere (which I give you the benefit of the doubt on), you're so far inside your own head that it's no wonder you're not having much luck. I agree that it's hard to convincingly fake confidence, but what you can do is focus on whoever you're interacting with, and not on your own performance. So maybe you'll never be the big swinging dick that walks into the room with all the right body language, all the right moves, and a knack for making a girl smile- so what? You're not that guy, but it doesn't mean you won't find people to connect with. Not every girl responds to 'that guy' anyway, and you're probably not a good match for most that do.

Be yourself, but don't use that as an excuse for being socially inept. You seem reasonably smart, which means you can watch others and learn, even if your social instincts aren't good. It probably will take practice, but learn how to relax around girls. We are just people, and aren't looking to judge you at every move. Once you relax a little, you'll find that just that bit of progress means you're allowing yourself to have confidence in who you are.

Is there a difference between a big swinging dick and big dick swinging? I think I'd rather be the former of the two.

Dude, all it's going to take is to find that one girl who digs you. That one girl who thinks you hung the moon. Even if it is a short lived romance, one girl that thinks your morning breath is a turn on and you'll get a little bit of confidence and swagger. If you are one of those guys that constantly gets put in the "friend" category, don't let that happen. If you meet a/some women keep your distance. If you become their best buddy then she won't see you as a sexual being. You don't have to be the cock of the walk to get a girl. Very few of us are THAT guy that can have any woman he wants. Take you time, find your niche. It will happen. But women (and men) can smell the desperation/fear on someone from a mile away. Even if they don't realize it. Chill out and let it come to you. It's kinda like the Force.. you just have to let it be what it is.

Sorry, I know this is for the women to answer.

I agree with EVERYTHING posted above. FFS!!! Get a grip!! You've done nothing but bitch and moan on the forums, blogging, and to anyone who will listen. Calling yourself a loser makes you seem just that. No one can give you confidence. I'm sorry, they can't. There are things you are good at, so focus on those things. Find women who enjoy those things as well. You need to stop letting this consume you. You are NOT less of a person, because you don't have a GF. which is something you need to realize. Sorry, but the self pity shit is wearing on my last nerve.