All of us go through good days and bad days. I really thought I was on a long-term upward swing recently (recovery progressing, more energy, back to work) and then, wham, darkness intrudes again.
Last weekend was very tough. Pre-migraine, insomnia, forced early retirement (while developing training for my replacement), bruised feelings at work with everyone asking me to "fix it", and the slow motion observation of my relationship ending all fighting for space in my small head. My best friend is struggling with her own challenges, so I couldn't go where I sought perspective in the past. I could only offer my small solace. Distraction was my friend. The kitchen has been deep cleaned and all the laundry is done, folded and put away.
I seemed to have gotten through it with some help from a couple Lushies. Sometimes just a note is enough...
If I irritated you when I was in my dark space, I am sorry.
Verbal,
Congratulations! I'll join you for a puff and a drink
There seems to be a plethora of threads about this topic.
I have nothing against the Gay and Bi Guys, but how many times can you ask the same thing and expect a different answer? Some of us are just straight and there is no negotiating it.
The definition of insanity...
I wore white after Labor Day
I'd love acup of that cajun brew. I seem to be moving kinda slow this morning.
Unwanted groping is reprehensible no matter which gender does it.
I have been groped by both genders and the truth is that I don't react well to it. I immediatly go red and aggressively get in their face. I never had to fist fight anyone over this, but I did get close a couple times. Maybe not my shining moment.
Unfortunately, women have it worse than men here. I think that Sprite articulated it well. No one has the right to touch me or anyone else like that without permission.
When rolloing my eyes across the table, I never orgasm.
What is up with this eye rolling craze anyway?
Love Hurts. I think I might have heard it as a board mix. I probably had it as a cassette from back in the day. I'll look for it.
For sad songs, I nominate:
Love in Vain - Rolling Stones' version of the Robert Johnson song
Love Reign O'Er Me & Behind Blue Eyes - The Who
Almost Blue - Elvis Costello
Brass in Pocket - the Pretenders
Please, I would love a strong cup of coffee sir. If the spoon stands straight up, so much the better. Thanks
If it were my call, I'd say add "Outdoor." But realistically, we have a lot of categories. I'm not convinced that more would not be less.
The Handmaiden. It is by the the director of Old Boy. Sort of Rashomon crossed with The Grifters in Korean (subtitles, obviously).
Lots of well done lesbian sex. (Not really my cup of tea, but they are necessary to the story. To be clear, I have nothing against Lesbian sex. Just isn't a turn-on for me. But the women were very pretty).
I recommend it!
Are you interested in slow torture? Just let me go. I'll find my own happiness, thank you.
Hi guys!
I have a ripping headache. What do you have to ease the pain?
Depends upon the time of day.
But there is one thing I consistently want after sex, water!
If I have sex during the day, I like to laze around for a bit and then we go do something (maybe more sex). At night, she lays on my chest and falls asleep. I fall asleep afterwards.
Mine:
Playground equipment in a public park at night
Under the moonlight at a lake in Wisconsin
In an alley in Chicago
In a kids treehouse at night
On the beach (sounds better than it lives, sand gets everywhere)
In a car (what a cliche)
Mountain top after a climb
Third story deck with people partying below
Happy Anniversary you two. Now get a room!
Congratulations, Jennifer! It is well deserved.
Reuben Sandwiches, vegetables, and garlic / horseradish mashed potatoes
I like both. I don't really want to choose, just experience both!
Of my partners, only two performed oral sex on me. Almost all had me perform it on them. No particular reason, just the way it was.
For fashion and for general truisms, I am not fond of panty lines.
However, I must confess that I have thought long and hard upon what kind and color of panties on women to whom I was attracted.
Entreat
(I hope to get laid tonight)
Liz,
Interesting on the strings. Over time have they retained your favor? The bending tension sounds interesting and might be helpful. I hit the strings pretty hard when playing my songs. Much lesss so on some session work and acoustic that I do.
Currently, I am running regular EB Regular slinky on my Teles. John Pearse on my acoustics. I'd like something different for my Les Paul (preferably a little darker). I set up my own guitars these days (with a little repair / setups for others). I also have built a few guitars. So I don't break strings often due to challenges with the guitar. However I pull things out of tune on non-hardtails. And slide the bridge on my archtop. (I said I have a heavy touch at times). I despise coated strings. The tone dampening does not appeal.
I notice substantial differences in technique and quality in acoustic string brands. However I haven't seen the same care / innovation in electric strings. I will try your suggestion.
If you don't want to be my partner tell me. I am tired of being treated as a cook, cleaner and walking wallet.
I had to think about this a bit.
Right now I am in a committed monagamist relationship. We promised to be true to each other. That said, I would never deny someone their feelings or desires. Everyone should be who they are. I would need to ask if she intended to try this out.
Everyone has desires that may or may not be met by their partner. Though I am completely straight, I certainly am attracted to and would welcome sex with other women I know. I don't act upon it as I made a promise. We both had several / many partners before we committed. So virginity doesn't enter into it. If she said that she needed to act upon her desire for women, I would probably suggest a separation timeframe where she could explore these feelings. Afterwards, she could inform me if she wanted to remain committed. If she did, great. If not, then we would need to determine whether to break up or go to a non-managamous relationship. That would be complicated.
If on the other hand we were dating exclusively, then I would suggest non-exclusivity. She could explore her desires, and I wouldn't feel trapped in the situation. The possibility of a threesome is interesting. This possibility might be complicated as I would have stronger feelings for her. I have had threesomes (both FFM and MFM) in the past (before we were a couple), but I was always the third party in another's relationship. I am not sure how I would deal with my partner with others.
My point is that depends upon the context of the extant relationship. Committed relationships seem different than steady but not pledged relationships.
In either case, I would wish her the best and allow her to do what she feels is best or necessary for her. What I would do is my choice. I am not sure I could be managamous with a partner who is not.
