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Ruthie
Over 90 days ago
Heteroflexible Female
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Yah me. Sexiest of them all.
Empress of the Moon
I looked up cosmetic surgery for the pussy, because I am a through researcher, and found that one of the options offered is botched labia revision. The fact that this is offered is proof that the procedure has failures. Who wants to run the risk of a botched pussy? Men have been using the old unimproved version for hundreds of thousands of years. Maybe, if I was going to make a living selling pictures of mine on the Internet, I might give it a try, but even then only if everyone I showed pictures of my pussy to said things like, "That is the ugliest pussy I've ever seen. Who would want to fuck that?" If you Google pictures of vagina's you will find a whole lot of variation. Pussies are like snowflakes. Why would anyone want every snowflake to be the same?
I'd like to know how many of the women on Lush have ever been turned down for sex on the grounds of having an ugly pussy.
I haven't had any complaints about my pussy so far. I would be afraid of cosmetic surgery though because of the way plastic surgery has made some people look. Think of Michael Jackson. Do you want Michael Jackson's face between your legs? Vaginal aesthetic surgery is evidently a bigger thing that i though because there are a lot of people doing it. Performing it, I mean. The fact that there are so many doctors doing that surgery means that there are lost of women dissatisfied by the appearance of their pussy. We have been taught to try to achieve physical perfection, movie star beauty.
I'd like to know how many of the women on Lush have ever been turned down for sex on the grounds of having an ugly pussy.
I haven't had any complaints about my pussy so far. I would be afraid of cosmetic surgery though because of the way plastic surgery has made some people look. Think of Michael Jackson. Do you want Michael Jackson's face between your legs? Vaginal aesthetic surgery is evidently a bigger thing that i though because there are a lot of people doing it. Performing it, I mean. The fact that there are so many doctors doing that surgery means that there are lost of women dissatisfied by the appearance of their pussy. We have been taught to try to achieve physical perfection, movie star beauty.
Empress of the Moon
Quote by eocpez2
I don't think I explained correctly. I'm not having an issue on knowing what I'm doing. And I'm not asking advice on how to be a master. What I'm asking is, with a sub who has had a violent past, what are some good ways to show her that I'm not that person. She wants to be fully commited. But based on her past, sometimes its hard for her to seperate thinking I'm being a master and thinking I'm just another guy who will hit her. I don't have an issue with what I need to do to be a master. I have an issue with showing her I'm not gonna be one of the guys who acts nice then turns into an abuser.
Don't start with a 24/7 relationship. Start out slowly, and keep your sex life and your regular life separate. Any bdsm play you do should be just that, play. Don't order her around unless it's part of your sex lives together. Needless to say, never hit her in anger. You can be stern without appearing angry. Sternness coupled with calmness is very sexy. Eventually, when you're both ready, you can expand your relationship.
Being a sub requires total surrender of the self. She will surrender to you when she's ready. Do scenes together for awhile. Let her know that you are her friend as well as her master. The most important thing is that you aren't that other guy. Keep the slave play and the day to day life apart. Show her that you are not abusive on a day to day basis.
You don't have to start out with whips and chains. Show her that getting a spanking is not the same as when her ex beat on her. Make it fun for her. Let her decide how far to go. Tie her lightly with scarves. Satisfy her desires. Make her want to give herself over to you completely.
It seems to me that the most important thing you two can do for each other is to trust each other. Once you do that, it will all come easy.
Empress of the Moon
I prefer over the knee, bare bottomed, and I'd rather have a hand. The hand is more intimate. I have had the cane, and it leaves welts. If you want some welts to show off to your friends, the cane is the way to go. I am spanked as a part of sex, and like shawnababy, it is usually in the doggie position. I also have my bottom smacked when I'm on top a lot, and love that. There is one position where I lie with one leg inside my lovers leg, and one outside, with his cock in me, a little bit sideways. When he lifts one leg, (the one inside mine), he can really grind against me, and I'm in a perfect position to be spanked. I sort of discovered that position when I was eighteen or so, and have taught it to almost every guy I've had sex with since.
I'm sort of fond of belts and paddles too, straps and floggers. Any of those are good for getting me in the mood, but the traditional across the knee, skirt up, panties down spanking is my biggest turn on. If it's punishment, of course, I don't get a say in it. Real punishment spankings, which are thankfully rare for me, are usually done with a strap or a belt. I'm not meant to enjoy them, but I do anyway.
The times that I have been spanked by other women have been a turn on for me also. I prefer older women to spank me, because my bi-fantasies are about older women, and most of the members of our munch are older.
I'm sort of fond of belts and paddles too, straps and floggers. Any of those are good for getting me in the mood, but the traditional across the knee, skirt up, panties down spanking is my biggest turn on. If it's punishment, of course, I don't get a say in it. Real punishment spankings, which are thankfully rare for me, are usually done with a strap or a belt. I'm not meant to enjoy them, but I do anyway.
The times that I have been spanked by other women have been a turn on for me also. I prefer older women to spank me, because my bi-fantasies are about older women, and most of the members of our munch are older.
Empress of the Moon
Traditionally masters were trained by other masters. My first master had been a sub before he was a top, that was the way of life for him. He introduced me into TTWD just as his mistress introduced him to the lifestyle. Many of the people I know who are masters and mistresses were trained as subs first. It is like an apprenticeship. It's true that everyone in the lifestyle doesn't do this of course. Some people just want to be masters and that's all they want to do. He would have said that if you have to ask for help you aren't ready to call yourself a master yet. You should be working with a master to help train his slaves, learning by experience. It isn't fair to your sub to be ignorant of what a master does or how to deal with a sub. If it's a lifestyle for you, you need to know what you're doing before taking on subs of your own. A sub isn't just for your amusement. You also have a responsibility toward her.
I'm a sub, and will never be a mistress because that is my nature, so I can't advise you on how to act as a master. That would be presumptuous on my part and would be grounds for my own master to punish me. I can only speak for what works for me as a sub.
First of all she needs to respect you. Having you ask for help on Lush would make me lose a certain amount of respect right there. (That's what Lush forums are for, I know, to ask questions and learn, but I'm only speaking for myself.) She needs to know that you are the boss. That is an important part of her need. You can't just go into a relationship with some one new to the lifestyle and go at it full tilt, of course. You both sound like you're learning as you go, and that's fine.
She has to learn if this is what she wants. I knew that it was what I wanted even before I started as a sub. It had always been part of my fantasy life. You might begin by just talking to her and see what her fantasies are like. She probably needs to get used to the idea that your are her master. If she is anything like me, she needs to know that you own her, that she is yours to do with as she pleases. I can't speak for her, of course. That's something you'll have to learn for yourself. Find out how far she wants to go, and gently push the envelope from there. Use a safeword. Take no for an answer. Stop when she wants you to stop, using the safeword, of course. If she's really into the lifestyle she won't use it very often, but respect her when she does.
I'm not sure what you mean by slowly easing her into it. Are you talking about punishing her for misbehavior or just BDSM as recreational sex? My first full night with my first master I was stripped naked in front of guests and spanked, then tied up and blindfolded. I had a safeword but didn't use it. I was ready. The most important question is whether she's ready.
I'm a sub, and will never be a mistress because that is my nature, so I can't advise you on how to act as a master. That would be presumptuous on my part and would be grounds for my own master to punish me. I can only speak for what works for me as a sub.
First of all she needs to respect you. Having you ask for help on Lush would make me lose a certain amount of respect right there. (That's what Lush forums are for, I know, to ask questions and learn, but I'm only speaking for myself.) She needs to know that you are the boss. That is an important part of her need. You can't just go into a relationship with some one new to the lifestyle and go at it full tilt, of course. You both sound like you're learning as you go, and that's fine.
She has to learn if this is what she wants. I knew that it was what I wanted even before I started as a sub. It had always been part of my fantasy life. You might begin by just talking to her and see what her fantasies are like. She probably needs to get used to the idea that your are her master. If she is anything like me, she needs to know that you own her, that she is yours to do with as she pleases. I can't speak for her, of course. That's something you'll have to learn for yourself. Find out how far she wants to go, and gently push the envelope from there. Use a safeword. Take no for an answer. Stop when she wants you to stop, using the safeword, of course. If she's really into the lifestyle she won't use it very often, but respect her when she does.
I'm not sure what you mean by slowly easing her into it. Are you talking about punishing her for misbehavior or just BDSM as recreational sex? My first full night with my first master I was stripped naked in front of guests and spanked, then tied up and blindfolded. I had a safeword but didn't use it. I was ready. The most important question is whether she's ready.
