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SeaSiren
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female
0 miles · Alabama
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Oh you've hit a nerve for me as I have experienced this!
Something else you might want to take into consideration: Just because men have the inner drive or desire to be a Master, or have a dominant persona, that doesn't mean they are born knowing how to do it. Men have to learn how to Master a woman, in the same way that women have to learn how to serve a man. In the same vein, I might have a really strong desire to cook, but unless I read a few cook books or watch my grandmother cook or go to cooking school, I'm not liable to do a good job of it. The problem is that most men have trouble admitting (to themselves as well as to others) that they need help learning to do something. You know the old saying: When in doubt, read the directions?
Warning Signs of the NonDominate:
1) Controlling behavior due to fear of losing their partner.
A) Isolating the submissive from family and friends
B) Discouraging self sufficient behavior
C) Not allowing any social interaction which does not include the dominant
D) Out of control jealousy
2) Explosive temper
3) Behaves like a spoiled child when not getting his/her way
4) Abuses drugs/alcohol
5) Does not take responsibility for mistakes
6) Uses unhealthy behavior to gain control over the submissive
A) Emotional blackmail
example: Keeping the submissive in a constant state of fear that the relationship will end if they don't get their way.
B) Emotional Withdrawal
example: Using the "silent treatment" or physically withdrawing and cutting off all contact rather than communicating and taking responsibility for the situation.
C) Withdrawal of affection
Refusing any/all intimacy as a punishment which can be quite damaging and reinforces the fear that the submissive will lose the relationship unless he/she gives into this type of blackmail.
Something else you might want to take into consideration: Just because men have the inner drive or desire to be a Master, or have a dominant persona, that doesn't mean they are born knowing how to do it. Men have to learn how to Master a woman, in the same way that women have to learn how to serve a man. In the same vein, I might have a really strong desire to cook, but unless I read a few cook books or watch my grandmother cook or go to cooking school, I'm not liable to do a good job of it. The problem is that most men have trouble admitting (to themselves as well as to others) that they need help learning to do something. You know the old saying: When in doubt, read the directions?
Warning Signs of the NonDominate:
1) Controlling behavior due to fear of losing their partner.
A) Isolating the submissive from family and friends
B) Discouraging self sufficient behavior
C) Not allowing any social interaction which does not include the dominant
D) Out of control jealousy
2) Explosive temper
3) Behaves like a spoiled child when not getting his/her way
4) Abuses drugs/alcohol
5) Does not take responsibility for mistakes
6) Uses unhealthy behavior to gain control over the submissive
A) Emotional blackmail
example: Keeping the submissive in a constant state of fear that the relationship will end if they don't get their way.
B) Emotional Withdrawal
example: Using the "silent treatment" or physically withdrawing and cutting off all contact rather than communicating and taking responsibility for the situation.
C) Withdrawal of affection
Refusing any/all intimacy as a punishment which can be quite damaging and reinforces the fear that the submissive will lose the relationship unless he/she gives into this type of blackmail.
