Dancing_Doll, please be my life coach!
Zaren, I wonder how many people have a different interpretation of "Friends With Benefits"? Maybe when you started off with the lass she already had something a bit deeper in mind, and was hoping you might too? So it may have been something she has been thinking of for a lot longer than just her feelings developing over time, which means she will be holding out a lot more hope than you think. Sometimes I agree with people about certain things, whilst secretly hoping there will be something more, even though I don't express that. Maybe she is like that too, only she was open about it.
I do commend you for being clear with yourself about what you are and aren't ready for, as that is half the battle won already, in my opinion.
Good luck!
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Shylass
Over 90 days ago
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Gingerbread Lover
Quote by sprite
if i walk into the store and see a 20 red and white generic looking pairs of sneakers and one that is bright pink with glow in the dark shoe laces, you think i'm going to pick thru the 20 identical pair or go straight to the pink ones and try them on?
I HATE shopping, but... I NEEEEEED THOSE SHOES!!!
If I see somebody without an avatar, I reckon they have something to hide (in a bad way), or they're laaaaazy, or pooter illiterate. The latter two are both things that can be solved. The former makes me think they're a politician (Very Bad).
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Quote by littlemissbitch
the answer i came up with is FAITH. and, ok, faith in god or higher power..universe..thought, whatever word you want to put on it.
That's a bit of a bugger if you've lost your faith and don't have the other stuff too.
Thank you so much for sharing, everyone; please continue if you'd like, as I'm finding this interesting. I did think about asking the guys too, but I don't know if it's too "girly" a question for them.
. If you are not talking to me, I have eated the cake as well. 
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Quote by RealAtlantaGirl487
Hey, I'm just wondering what's going on. I didn't know anything about this website until I received an email advising me that someone had commented on a story of mine (at this site). Although I have posted a few stories about my husband and I on XXXXXXXXXX (under my name of "AtlantaGirl", I have NO idea as to how all my info made it to this site. Can anyone enlighten me? Thanks.
I just had a look at the profile in question (listed as AtlantaGirl487) and can see no story listed under it. Unless there is one I have missed in the search?
Perhaps a mod could help you out? Have you tried contacting the Lush Team?
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Quote by gypsymoth
LOL! I should also add the request that authors only change them one at a time, pretty please? Otherwise it seems as though the story queue is quite back logged.
Sorry, I thought it'd be 'armless.
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I'm either very boring, or very good at it - average just under a minute, sometimes just under two. I only do it for one reason and I don't enjoy taking ages over it. Not alone, anyway. I either feel like it or I don't, but I sometimes do if I'm having trouble sleeping, as it helps me relax. It's a means to an end for me, not a thing in itself.
I either feel like it or I don't, but I sometimes do if I'm having trouble sleeping, as it helps me relax. It's a means to an end for me, not a thing in itself. 
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Quote by gypsymoth
About the disclaimer...
Please don't try and put a statement that includes the Lush URL or even Lushstories.com if you do edit your stories. The system knocks out any URL or even Lushstories.com automatically as a means of preventing spammers to include links to other sites in stories.
Something like Available only on Lush Stories, or This story available only on Lush Stories would work.
I've corrected a couple of edited stories already because the authors tried to include the Lushstories.com portion of the web site.
Ah, that's why! I did update mine, and wondered why it only included stuff without the link! I will update them again, then! Thanks for that.
I don't mind about the copyright so much, I just wanted it to be posted where I chose - here. 
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Everything I have is in the "commercial" proportions that are generally accepted as "curvy" - i.e. big boobs, small waist, big hips. Unfortunately, there is so much of it that I hide it wearing the biggest clothes I can find because I get less "you're fat" comments if I wear the baggy stuff than if I wear the fitted stuff, and I hate for people to look at me. Plus, I always hear people saying things about lasses my size who DO have the confidence to wear smaller clothes than I, and I'd rather keep covered and not be seen.
But oddly, I find beauty in everybody else in some way, I just seem to be the exception to my own rule. So no, I am not happy with my own figure, but if it was somebody else's figure, I would think it lovely.
But oddly, I find beauty in everybody else in some way, I just seem to be the exception to my own rule. So no, I am not happy with my own figure, but if it was somebody else's figure, I would think it lovely.
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But how do you know it is or isn't true just because a lass hasn't actually experienced the squirt? Because they may be able to, but just haven't got themselves to the point of it yet.
Or do you mean if we think it IS possible everybody can? Or can't? Or...
I'm confused. I do have a pump action Supersoaker water pistol, if that helps?
Or do you mean if we think it IS possible everybody can? Or can't? Or...
I'm confused. I do have a pump action Supersoaker water pistol, if that helps?
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Once in college I started to think about it, but after the conversation between all my mates after the first lesson with him, I couldn't stop the image of one of the more (let's call her "well travelled") getting in there first and ensuring he needed a trip to the doctor. Completely ruined a lovely fantasy! 
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Quote by LittleBambi
Not knocking you for asking, don't worry.
Click here for the similar topic... ...I won't link the one that was posted at the same time in the girls forum because it was.....quite something.
Ah, go on. Let's face it, Lush is a total learning experience. Besides, it will save people a job repeating themselves! Off to read the other one now.
Ta muchly.
*EDIT* Having just read two threads about this, blimey! I didn't think people could be so... people-ish about it! Thank you for the link, LittleBambi, and I like your thinking.
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I was bullied all through school, and regular as clockwork, at least twice a year somebody says something in the street to me.
The worst I have ever had (from an adult stranger) are, "You are so fucking fat and ugly, why don't you do us all a favour and kill yourself" and from my First Kiss lad,"(I lied about loving you because) nobody else will and I wanted you to feel like a normal person for once".
The worst I have ever had (from an adult stranger) are, "You are so fucking fat and ugly, why don't you do us all a favour and kill yourself" and from my First Kiss lad,"(I lied about loving you because) nobody else will and I wanted you to feel like a normal person for once".
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I like equality. That's not to say I won't ask for help to carry a heavy box (I used to do it myself before a back condition), or help doing stuff to my car (I can only top up the oil and screenwash), nor would I mind if a lad needed help from me with "girlier" type stuff.
But I do believe in treating each other with respect and sharing costs.
I love to buy my friends presents and treat them to things like lunch or a beer (very difficult due to my present work situation, but I do what I can), but I hate for them to do the same for me. I feel really bad that they would spend their money on me, and I have to tell myself that it's my opportunity to let them be happy the way I am happy when my friends let me spend money on them.
In all fairness, I don't know anything about being in a relationship (although many of my girl mates think the lad should pay and treat them all the time) and I wondered, what do you guys think about a lass wanting to pay her own way, or at least alternate the costs of trips/meals, etc? Lasses can feel free to answer too, if they want.
Thank you in advance.
But I do believe in treating each other with respect and sharing costs.
I love to buy my friends presents and treat them to things like lunch or a beer (very difficult due to my present work situation, but I do what I can), but I hate for them to do the same for me. I feel really bad that they would spend their money on me, and I have to tell myself that it's my opportunity to let them be happy the way I am happy when my friends let me spend money on them.
In all fairness, I don't know anything about being in a relationship (although many of my girl mates think the lad should pay and treat them all the time) and I wondered, what do you guys think about a lass wanting to pay her own way, or at least alternate the costs of trips/meals, etc? Lasses can feel free to answer too, if they want.
Thank you in advance.
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Quote by nicola
Yes, nothing to worry about.
I'm not actively looking to find sites that plagiarise our author's work, it's a never ending battle which we won't win.
Personally, I think you and your team deserve a huge pat on the back for creating and running a site so many people have to nick from.
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Quote by DLizze
That's the advantage of being a third or fourth-rate writer, like me. No one wants to steal your dreck! LOL
At LEAST one of your stories is on hot-porno.nl, if not more! :d/ I could have searched the others but you have so many!
*EDIT* I just thought... maybe you posted it there yourself...
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They still haven't banned me yet. Maybe even the owners reckon it's crap and can't be bovverred to go on?
I hope you don't mind, but I had a few minutes spare, so I made the profile picture the Lush Stories logo (sorry I nicked it), and I filled in all the fields to say www.lushstories.com. And in the quote bit, I put "THIS SITE STEALS FROM www.lushstories.com"
I hope you don't mind, but I had a few minutes spare, so I made the profile picture the Lush Stories logo (sorry I nicked it), and I filled in all the fields to say www.lushstories.com. And in the quote bit, I put "THIS SITE STEALS FROM www.lushstories.com"
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Quote by GemGeekett
I think they're ripping stories off "Lit" as well...I'm over there now and there's a story titled 'What I learned on Lit"
In the interest of "All for One, One for all" of "actual" writing sites, should we let them know??
I think it may be kind to. I didn't want another account, I'm not comfortable with stuff like this (Lush is more than I can handle already!), but if people already have accounts or contacts there, I think it would be good.
*Edit* Okay, so I posted in all the discussions. Waiting to be deleted now.
Maybe one of the (real?) members will see and choose a proper non-thieving git site. 
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Posted in the main forum http://9erotica.com/forum/discussion/17/this-site-steals-stories-from-www-lushstories-com#Item_1 :
Title: THIS SITE STEALS STORIES FROM www.lushstories.com
TheRealShylass 6:34PM Edit
I am the REAL Shylass, and many, if not every single author on www.lushstories.com has had work stolen from us by the thief who is running this site!
Members are seeking legal action.
Get a life, and try asking some authors for their work instead of STEALING it like an idiot!
WWW.LUSHSTORIES.COM - WHERE REAL AUTHORS POST TOP STORIES AS SOON AS THEY ARE READY!
Sorry I'm not as good at this as you guys, but I'm doing me bestest.
Title: THIS SITE STEALS STORIES FROM www.lushstories.com
TheRealShylass 6:34PM Edit
I am the REAL Shylass, and many, if not every single author on www.lushstories.com has had work stolen from us by the thief who is running this site!
Members are seeking legal action.
Get a life, and try asking some authors for their work instead of STEALING it like an idiot!
WWW.LUSHSTORIES.COM - WHERE REAL AUTHORS POST TOP STORIES AS SOON AS THEY ARE READY!
Sorry I'm not as good at this as you guys, but I'm doing me bestest.
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At least one of mine is still on, although I can't find the user who nicked my name (obviously).
http://9erotica.com/read/62377/?#32 I left this comment "THIS STORY HAS BEEN STOLEN FROM ME AND THE SITE IT WAS PUBLISHED ON AT www.lushstories.com!!!
STOP NICKING OUR WORK! LUSH IS THE BEST AND DOESN'T HAVE TO STEAL TO HAVE TOP STORIES!!!"
Knobheads. Them, not you.
Still working on the google reporting thingy.
http://9erotica.com/read/62377/?#32 I left this comment "THIS STORY HAS BEEN STOLEN FROM ME AND THE SITE IT WAS PUBLISHED ON AT www.lushstories.com!!!
STOP NICKING OUR WORK! LUSH IS THE BEST AND DOESN'T HAVE TO STEAL TO HAVE TOP STORIES!!!"
Knobheads. Them, not you.
Still working on the google reporting thingy.
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What do you about your Friend Requests?
I always look at the profile first when I receive a request, and if I don't think I know the person in real life, or they scare me to the point of running away (so far I have only ignored one, and I felt really bad about it), I add them.
I add people I have had no communication with before because I feel rude saying no. But I wonder why they asked me in the first place, and I don't want to appear rude and ask, "Why did you request me?", as it seems confrontational. I don't hear from most of them, and I am content to leave it at that, because... well. Who are they? If they were hoping to see my nipples or Happy Button once I accepted them, I am sure they are now disappointed. And yet, there they sit on my friends' list.
I like the people who send me at least one PM first, because all of them have been kind and I liked them enough to accept their request, as I am interested in what they have to say.
As a rule, I never request anybody (I did it once, and he left ).
So what makes you want to add people?
What do you do when you receive a request from somebody random?
Thank you in advance for any replies.
I always look at the profile first when I receive a request, and if I don't think I know the person in real life, or they scare me to the point of running away (so far I have only ignored one, and I felt really bad about it), I add them.
I add people I have had no communication with before because I feel rude saying no. But I wonder why they asked me in the first place, and I don't want to appear rude and ask, "Why did you request me?", as it seems confrontational. I don't hear from most of them, and I am content to leave it at that, because... well. Who are they?
If they were hoping to see my nipples or Happy Button once I accepted them, I am sure they are now disappointed. And yet, there they sit on my friends' list.I like the people who send me at least one PM first, because all of them have been kind and I liked them enough to accept their request, as I am interested in what they have to say.
As a rule, I never request anybody (I did it once, and he left
).So what makes you want to add people?
What do you do when you receive a request from somebody random?
Thank you in advance for any replies.