Why is it so difficult for some people to believe and/or accept that somebody can be a virgin in their 20s/30s+?
There are lots of reasons for it which I don't think we need to go into, but seriously, why is it such a problem for a lot of non-virgins?
Some of them say there is something wrong with them, others say something must be done about it, and quite a few call them liars.
I know being a virgin is a problem for a lot of virgins too, and it would be nice to read your thoughts on how you feel about your virginity, and how others react to you (PM is fine if you don't want to post!), but for all those of you who aren't a virgin, are you bothered about people who are? Is it hard to comprehend/understand? Do you really think they're lying? I would love to know your thoughts.
Thank you in advance.
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Shylass
Over 90 days ago
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Here are some I love that I took near where I live, mostly when I've been fishing:
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Quote by charmbrights
The email address is quite correct, as are the logo, telephone number, snail mail address and Post Code (=UK ZIP) for the University of Manchester.
They missed out the "e" in Manchester, made me think either somebody mocked a letter up as a prank, or somebody else used the address before the uni had chance to claim it themselves.
Either way, it still makes me giggle.
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Quote by JesseS
This is one of those questions that can generate pages of philosophical, psychological and even religious turmoil. However, I think that what should be critical to you is the simple to ask, yet difficult to answer, questions of, 'am I happy' and/or, when presented with options, 'will this or that make me happy.' The quickest road to discontent is to try to please others against the desires of self. If one finds a complimenting partner, great. If one does not find said partner, they are at least better off than if they tried a force fit.
Thank you for replying.
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Quote by WellMadeMale
I stand corrected Shylass...after viewing the University Letter image you recently posted...perhaps you really are ready for the definition!
Please...carry on.
I'm thinking it just sounds rather messy.
I suppose on the one hand (eeewww), it would be kind of flattering that somebody liked what they saw, but on the other hand... It just needs mopping up, really.
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Quote by WellMadeMale
I would venture to guess that you really do not wish to know. Some things are better left unknown...like Arab Straps, tributes and Vegemite and figging.
Fugs has just answered the unfortunate question. Brings a whole new meaning to the thought of the Muppets' Tribute to Jim Henson...
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Massive apologies if you've seen this already, it just gave me a big giggle. I don't know if it's real, judging by the e-mail address being wrong, but still...
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Good grief! I am beginning to think myself very, very lucky.
The worst I have ever had, having never dated, was in college, when a bloke I'd been listening to the woes of for the last three months asked me if I would be his long-term girlfriend. I thought about it, and said yes, thinking that for once, somebody actually liked me and fancied me! I was all happy and excited, until he informed me that he had to go and sort something out with one of my female friends. Being the trusting little pillock I am, I said alright.
An hour later, he still hadn't reappeared, and so I went up to my friend's room, to find her standing behind the desk and him sitting on the bed. He couldn't get out of the room fast enough after I appeared, and I found out from my friend (who had a boyfriend) that he'd tried it on with her. Turns out he asked me out so he could get closer to her.
But having read all your stories, I believe I really am luckier than I thought.
The worst I have ever had, having never dated, was in college, when a bloke I'd been listening to the woes of for the last three months asked me if I would be his long-term girlfriend. I thought about it, and said yes, thinking that for once, somebody actually liked me and fancied me! I was all happy and excited, until he informed me that he had to go and sort something out with one of my female friends. Being the trusting little pillock I am, I said alright.
An hour later, he still hadn't reappeared, and so I went up to my friend's room, to find her standing behind the desk and him sitting on the bed. He couldn't get out of the room fast enough after I appeared, and I found out from my friend (who had a boyfriend) that he'd tried it on with her. Turns out he asked me out so he could get closer to her.
But having read all your stories, I believe I really am luckier than I thought.
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Thank you for the replies. I was wondering because I know quite a few women who say big cocks are better, and were mean about lads with smaller ones. But I wondered if actually, it wasn't the blokes with small willies after all, but them with slack vaginas.
I just wonder why they couldn't have had fun working out what made them feel it more. Diversity can be fun, I reckon.
Like I said, thanks for the replies.
I just wonder why they couldn't have had fun working out what made them feel it more. Diversity can be fun, I reckon.
Like I said, thanks for the replies.
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I admit, I'm not the usual kind of lass. But something about the use of the word "Baby" when given to a grown woman or a man makes me want to throw up. There's something very Wrong about it in my head, I can't separate it from... well, a baby. "Babe" is marginally better, but still not great. I most often hear it when used to denote one's sexual partner, and it really grosses me out. Sorry.
I have nothing wrong with the use of nicknames, or things like lass, and lad, bird, mate, etc. But baby? Bleurgh.
Do you use the term baby/babe, and if so, why? Many thanks in advance to any who respond and help me to understand.
I have nothing wrong with the use of nicknames, or things like lass, and lad, bird, mate, etc. But baby? Bleurgh.
Do you use the term baby/babe, and if so, why? Many thanks in advance to any who respond and help me to understand.
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Quote by JustJohn
I would like your thoughts, I am a father to 4 wonderful children who i have regular access with and will like every other parent come first, i am currently unemployed (not through choice) I am a bit of a loner but would describe myself as a decent guy who does his best to please and although i know im no brad pitt i wouldnt say that im ugly, I am lacking in confidence and wondered if you lady's think a man like this is date able and if so any advice and if not why not? I look forward to any reply's that you can offer Thankyou in advance any one who reply's.
As somebody who is incredibly lacking in confidence myself, I also understand a lot of the issues surrounding it. I would say that people like us are often viewed very differently by the outside world, and as the others have said, concentrating on the positives (even if we don't actually believe them!) is a good thing.
As far as dating goes, I never did that before, but if you asked me out and I liked you, of course I would. I got made redundant before and I know it sucks without a job! Money is not an issue for me, because I neither have any, nor am a person who expects handouts and looking after. I make do as well as I can, and naturally expect others to do the same. If I can treat people, brilliant. If I can't, that's how the gingerbread crumbles, and I wait for a better day.
I don't have children of my own, but every person comes with their own history and parcels and packages, some good, some bad - and you come with a family. A family is a gift. As far as I'm concerned, although I don't think I shall ever have my own children, it is a joy that my friends do, and I am welcomed into their lives. So a man who has his own children simply comes with more to love, and new people to enrich my own life.
Personally, I think the most important thing is to be honest, to be careful, and to enjoy getting to know people. And if you meet somebody you really like, there are three answers she can give if you ask her out. Yes, no, and sod off (or words to that effect).
It isn't always you and your circumstances that make you "dateable" in my opinion, sometimes it's how the person you want to date sees you and the world - two very different things. And if somebody says no to getting to know you better, most likely it will be her loss.
Just my opinion, obviously.
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Quote by gpjunk
To clarify here my wife actually asked for this to make up for the terrible one she says she got at her bachlorette party. I'm like most of you and would think a lapdance from a guy wouldn't be that sexy. That's why I asked for pointers.
Aw, that's sweet. The best advice I can offer is to watch this film and make sure you pay attention to what not to do!
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Admittedly I have barely any experience, but if a bloke tried to give me a lapdance I would be mortified! If he did it jokingly, I might chuckle but I would still not know what to do with myself. 
I'd much rather he went straight for the hands-on approach, personally. But we're all different, I guess...
I'd much rather he went straight for the hands-on approach, personally. But we're all different, I guess...
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Quote by terry20069
Sorry, but no. Going though a dry spell. And I never thought people would get into it like they did. But I'm actually glad. Nothing I love more than intelligent conversation. Keep it up, please.
Then I would say the dry times make the wet times better. Or something...
I see they are keeping it up well; it's impressive.
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I am wondering - when a woman says penis size matters, does it depend on the size of her vagina or the strength of her squeezing muscles as to whether or not it matters if the guy is big or not?
Having never experienced it myself, my eyes water whenever I look at any penis, and having read elsewhere size apparently matters to women, I wondered why that is.
Thank you in advance for your replies and thoughts.
Having never experienced it myself, my eyes water whenever I look at any penis, and having read elsewhere size apparently matters to women, I wondered why that is.
Thank you in advance for your replies and thoughts.
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I don't tend to look at people the way others do, physically or non-physically.
I can look at a lass or lad and "judge" them physically as the general commercial world would judge her, as to whether they are "beautiful" or not. But I often see things beyond what many do, I often find attraction towards peoples looks that others are scathing about. I think the human body is such a wonderful, amazing thing, and I love the variation, the forms and lines that can be so different from the next, and features of a person's face that spark up something within my brain that tells me that's attractive.
If I had to pick a guy's body type I like, it would be one with broad shoulders, who really likes his food. I find hard lumpy bumpy tummy muscles quite a bit of a turn-off.
And physically, other than that, that's about it. I have just narrowed my whole view of what I find attractive into one tiny aspect of a man.
Some people other find annoying or stand-offish, I can often see a bit deeper into them and read them slightly better. I can find greater strength of character than often others bother to look for. It just means, I think, I take a bit more time over a person and my interactions with them than a lot of my friends do.
For me, it is a combination of things that truly makes "beautiful", not just the instant "PHWOAR Factor". But somebody I found beautiful could have those bumpy muscles, and I would love it just as much, because they would be part of the whole - beauty for me is a multi-faceted thing, bringing together the less favourable parts to be just as attractive because they are part of the whole.
I was wondering, how do you guys view "beautiful"? Is it a nice ass (or face, or other body part) and forget the rest? And single look and you instantly know beauty? Or is it the whole physical package? Or, is it in different forms, and is more emotional, something that takes time to discover? Or can it be a combination?
Have you found your view of "beautiful" has changed with your age and/or experience?
I know it's a girly question, but I'd like to know what you guys think about it, please?
Thank you in advance for reading, and, hopefully, sharing, and I hope I haven't confuzzled you.
I can look at a lass or lad and "judge" them physically as the general commercial world would judge her, as to whether they are "beautiful" or not. But I often see things beyond what many do, I often find attraction towards peoples looks that others are scathing about. I think the human body is such a wonderful, amazing thing, and I love the variation, the forms and lines that can be so different from the next, and features of a person's face that spark up something within my brain that tells me that's attractive.
If I had to pick a guy's body type I like, it would be one with broad shoulders, who really likes his food. I find hard lumpy bumpy tummy muscles quite a bit of a turn-off.
And physically, other than that, that's about it. I have just narrowed my whole view of what I find attractive into one tiny aspect of a man.
Some people other find annoying or stand-offish, I can often see a bit deeper into them and read them slightly better. I can find greater strength of character than often others bother to look for. It just means, I think, I take a bit more time over a person and my interactions with them than a lot of my friends do.
For me, it is a combination of things that truly makes "beautiful", not just the instant "PHWOAR Factor". But somebody I found beautiful could have those bumpy muscles, and I would love it just as much, because they would be part of the whole - beauty for me is a multi-faceted thing, bringing together the less favourable parts to be just as attractive because they are part of the whole.
I was wondering, how do you guys view "beautiful"? Is it a nice ass (or face, or other body part) and forget the rest? And single look and you instantly know beauty? Or is it the whole physical package? Or, is it in different forms, and is more emotional, something that takes time to discover? Or can it be a combination?
Have you found your view of "beautiful" has changed with your age and/or experience?
I know it's a girly question, but I'd like to know what you guys think about it, please?
Thank you in advance for reading, and, hopefully, sharing, and I hope I haven't confuzzled you.