I've read some of this thread, not all of it, so I apologize if I repeat anything. I have read some great advice here, but I have something to add. It's my opinion, and I'm not trying to state this as fact. There is no friend zone. It's a myth. A pervasive urban legend, really, and one which was created by two groups of people: those who have asked once or twice or a few times, and been turned down in a less than definite manner, and those who simply don't have the courage to ask in the first place.
Yes it's true, both women and men have been known to change their minds. That doesn't mean you were trapped in a different zone. It means they changed their minds. If somebody is actively keeping you in their 'friendzone', then you're barking up a really bitchy tree. It's okay though, everyone does at some time or another. The actual point I'm trying to make is that thinking of your lack of progress as a special prison-like zone is a self-confining attitude, and you won't have any luck as long as you stay behind those walls. If you've already asked your potential partner out before and he or she has declined, then you have to give them a reason to change their mind about you. If you haven't asked, then just fucking ask already. For anybody who's nervous about that process itself, I say the following. Do your best not to stutter, stand up straight and don't worry about the outcome, because one way or another, you're going to know what your next step is.
It really depends. There can be weeks where I don't, and other times when it's way, way too much. Not that I think orgasms are bad for me, it just gets out of hand sometimes and compromises my productivity.
Above, but I'm happy to follow up with whomever comes along below me.
Drinks and date. See where she takes me.
Coffee. Fortified with whiskey.
The same nothing I usually wear.
This is not an unfamiliar phenomenon to me. I experience this all the time. Sometimes I'm forced to reallocate characters or stories to my non-erotic work if and when they get a little too 'real' for my Lush work. By the same token, for my characters that just get a little too randy for my non-erotic writings and publishings, I send them here. It's kind of a revolving door, honestly. I have to make sure not to get confused and of course to shuffle some names and personal details around in case of a switch, but if they're not working here, it's time for them to move on, and if they aren't working anywhere else, maybe they should hang out here for a while.
At a practical level, I'm a big proponent of recycling your own work. I keep a scratchpad, a scrap folder, and a misfits folder. Invaluable tools, if you ask me. Hope that helps.
14 times, with 10 confined to a two hour period. I had just been through quite the break-up.
Yes. By my girlfriend, or by guest stars in my/our sex life. Selectively by strangers, but I don't like to encourage random ass grabbing, so I usually won't show it. To be clear, for the random ass-grabbers out there, even if I'm in the mood to be playful, I'm still turning around slapping you. Or at least giving you a piece of my mind very publicly. I've gotten off track though. I like being spanked, yes.
Happy to oblige. Maybe you'll return the favor?
I do, but I like to cook also. It's fun to cook together.
I don't usually do it to pass the time. Maybe occasionally. It's more typical if I just haven't had an orgasm in a while and I think my body could use one.
Fuck for a solid 24 hours. Not sure I have a week in me, Tara! :P
