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Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 155
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...my favorite ice cream sundae: Vanilla bean ice cream, with caramel, hot fudge and strawberry toppings, crushed Heath bars and Oreos sprinkled on, real, homemade whipped cream and a big cherry on top with a long stem that I can tie into a knot with my tongue. (Yes, I can really do that.)
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Just realized that I misunderstood this game. I played a game by the same name in another place where the idea was to say whether the above statement was true for you, not for the person who said it, which in my opinion makes more sense, since in this game, you may never get any feedback about if you were right or not.
I'd say true. (Mine was false, BTW, I HATE chocolate ice cream, but LOVE chocolate. Weird, right?)
I'm going to bed as soon as I finish writing this.
I'd say true. (Mine was false, BTW, I HATE chocolate ice cream, but LOVE chocolate. Weird, right?)
I'm going to bed as soon as I finish writing this.
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OK, the idea here is we start at 500. If you are a man, add 1 to the number in your reply. If you are a woman, subtract one in your reply. If we reach 0 the women win, if we reach 1000 the men win. The only restriction is that the same person cannot post twice in a row.
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Well, in general, I think the basic premise here (that women don't like anal) is a bit faulty to begin with, but beyond that, I generally agree with the sentiments expressed here. To paraphrase and expand:
You can't expect to shove your cock into a girl's ass right away if she's never tried anal before. You have to build up to that point. I generally suggest starting with other forms of anal stimulation, especially rimming and gentle digital stimulation (without insertion). If she responds positively to this over several sessions, try proceeding up to the insertion of a (well lubed) finger or other small (and I do mean small) object into her ass. It should be noted that while the initial penetration of the anus can be accomplished with just a bit of pressure, the interior muscles will tend to tighten reflexively at this intrusion (even for a practiced receiver of anal sex). Giving these muscles a chance to relax is vital to proceeding without undue force (and therefore possible pain). If she is still enjoying things after several sessions of this, gradually increase the diameter of the penetrating object, ideally until it is at least as big as your penis. Even after you progress to putting your cock inside her, but sure to proceed gently until you know how she will respond to more vigorous activity.
That being said, some women [I]really[/I] don't like anal sex. They may not like the way it feels, or they may think that it's dirty or in some case even unnatural. In the case of actual physical discomfort, you might be able to sooth some of that with a lot of good lube, but if she’s uncomfortable or even indifferent to having something in her ass, you should probably just forget it, since she will not be receiving any pleasure from the act, and may in fact be turned off or even hurt by it. In general, unless your partner is a sexual masochist, sex should be mutually pleasurable.
If the issue is a mental or a moral one, you can try talking about it, but be sensitive to the fact that sometimes all the rational arguments in the world are not going to change a girl’s mind. If you do manage to convince her to give it a try, proceed as above and do your best to minimize discomfort and maximize her pleasure during all stages of the process. Combining anal stimulation with simultaneous vaginal or clitoral stimulation can sometime be a big help there.
So if all of this seems like a huge amount of work, it is. True, you might get lucky and find a girl (like me, for example) who loves anal sex. I knew from the first time my husband touched my ass that I was eventually going to want him inside it. However, the best advice I can give is that if anal sex is important to you, discuss the subject before you ever reach the bedroom. It might feel awkward, but finding out how she feels about the subject right from the very beginning may save you from a lot of unsatisfied longing.
Vita @->-
You can't expect to shove your cock into a girl's ass right away if she's never tried anal before. You have to build up to that point. I generally suggest starting with other forms of anal stimulation, especially rimming and gentle digital stimulation (without insertion). If she responds positively to this over several sessions, try proceeding up to the insertion of a (well lubed) finger or other small (and I do mean small) object into her ass. It should be noted that while the initial penetration of the anus can be accomplished with just a bit of pressure, the interior muscles will tend to tighten reflexively at this intrusion (even for a practiced receiver of anal sex). Giving these muscles a chance to relax is vital to proceeding without undue force (and therefore possible pain). If she is still enjoying things after several sessions of this, gradually increase the diameter of the penetrating object, ideally until it is at least as big as your penis. Even after you progress to putting your cock inside her, but sure to proceed gently until you know how she will respond to more vigorous activity.
That being said, some women [I]really[/I] don't like anal sex. They may not like the way it feels, or they may think that it's dirty or in some case even unnatural. In the case of actual physical discomfort, you might be able to sooth some of that with a lot of good lube, but if she’s uncomfortable or even indifferent to having something in her ass, you should probably just forget it, since she will not be receiving any pleasure from the act, and may in fact be turned off or even hurt by it. In general, unless your partner is a sexual masochist, sex should be mutually pleasurable.
If the issue is a mental or a moral one, you can try talking about it, but be sensitive to the fact that sometimes all the rational arguments in the world are not going to change a girl’s mind. If you do manage to convince her to give it a try, proceed as above and do your best to minimize discomfort and maximize her pleasure during all stages of the process. Combining anal stimulation with simultaneous vaginal or clitoral stimulation can sometime be a big help there.
So if all of this seems like a huge amount of work, it is. True, you might get lucky and find a girl (like me, for example) who loves anal sex. I knew from the first time my husband touched my ass that I was eventually going to want him inside it. However, the best advice I can give is that if anal sex is important to you, discuss the subject before you ever reach the bedroom. It might feel awkward, but finding out how she feels about the subject right from the very beginning may save you from a lot of unsatisfied longing.
Vita @->-
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Welcome to the site Vita.
Interesting idea. Are there any sites at all dedicated to, or have sections for Erotic Roleplaying? It's a new one on me.
A note to readers, this is not a competition sponsored by lush, it is a personal one set up by Vita.
Nicola,
Indeed there are some, although site rules would prevent me from mentioning or linking to them here.
As for the contest, sorry about the need for the disclaimer, I should have thought to mention that myself.
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Quote by WellMadeMale
Don't forget these standard bearers, either.
Schlong
Weiner
Rod
Fuckstick
Johnson
Shaft
Prick
Unit
Stiffy
Dong
Boner
Manroot
Cumspitter
Throbber
PulsatingPissSnake
Mantool
PussySplitter
Erection
DiamondCutter
Pecker
When in doubt....make one up.
No offense intended to WellMadeMale, but I find the use of most of the list above or any of the countless other euphemisms for cock (or pussy, or tits for that matter) to be a BIG turnoff. In my own stories I tend to use cock, unless I've used it several times in a row and I feel the need to change it up a bit, in which case I use dick or sometimes even penis. Referring to it as a shaft (as in "he slid his hot shaft into me") is also OK on occasion. And as other's have suggested sometimes just inferring it is good too, if you feel you are overusing any one word (such as "I sucked him into my mouth."). But please don't use euphemisms, just the thought makes me shudder.
