I have sworn to never use my "leftovers" trick, so last night was homemade Mongolian grill with chicken, mushrooms, onions, carrots, peppers and mushroom sauce. It's hard to do when the restaurant's grill is 600 degrees and mine only goes to about 450. Tonight however, is fresh, homemade halibut and chips. I got a first class deep fryer for Christmas, and this old family recipe is about to get used! I'm even going to cut my own fries up. Tomorrow? We're eating out. Sorry hubby, but two nights of home cooking in a row? You married a psychologist, not Racheal Ray.
One small piece of advice as a reasonably recent mommy. Joking about "trying for number 2" while driving her and the new baby home from the hospital will get you punched. In the face. And you will have no one to blame but yourself.
Just an FYI.
This is something I hear a lot in my work. If you have circumstances that aren't so good, like being unemployed because you slugged your boss, well, yes, that's one you'd like a re-do on. However, everything in your life that is wrong or bad as well as everything in your life that is good and wonderful are a result of the choices we've made along the way. Had I taken the first job I was offered out of school I would have moved back to California and made much more money at first. Sounds good, but then I would never have stayed here and met my husband. See where I'm going folks? It's nice to wonder what if (and I love the alternative history genre of books), but really, is your current life so bad?
Doesn't appear that anything of mine has been stolen, however, I never, ever knew they published erotica!!! I can certainly try and see if some of my longer story ideas might fly there, and with an assumed pen name, I needn't worry about getting into trouble at work!!!
Spoke too soon, I was Googling titles, I tried text and found several of my stories on other erotica sites, but luckily not for sale. Most have been taken down, but there's someone claiming that they wrote Girl With A Secret, except their publication date was five months after mine. Nice try.
I prefer him to come inside of me. It just feels....secure and warm and comfortable.
Gloria Jean's Hot Chocolate with a shot of Hibiscus syrup. Yum!
AS were doing some roleplay, I suppose I did, but, no, not really.
How easy is it for us to go out of our comfort zone as far as writing? I've done (mostly) true life stuff about my husband and I, some girl/girl stuff and a few bits. I had someone request something VERY different after reading my story Blurring The Lines, but I have as yet been unable to make it work, as the subject (gay men) isn't something I seem to be able to write. Three months trying and nothing useable yet. I'd like to be able to try just about everything, but I'm stuck in a rut!! How easy is it for the rest of you to try entirely new story ideas, and how do you motivate yourself to go outside your usual realm of writing?
Sounds odd maybe, but hubby and I would IMMEDIATELY start on child #2 as our only hesitation has been money issues. I'm not getting any younger here!! Then I suppose my girlfriends and I would take the greatest shoe shopping trip in recorded history on my dime. THEN the usual charity, family, new house, etc.
Heck, easy one, any of the women that Errol Flynn swept off their feet while buckling a swash better than anyone in history.
69 SS Camaro, black with orange rally stripe, 396 and would it freaking fly. Got my first speeding ticket on the way HOME from getting my license. Don't let anyone tell you girls don't like to drive fast! Sold my 69 after I started my current job, and because it was in excellent shape, I bought a new 96 Sunfire GT convertible and put 6 grand in the bank. Got rid of that after a few years of marriage for a black Pontiac Solstice, which was....traded in for a new Camaro, black, with an orange rally stripe when the upcoming baby made me get rid of my two seater. We're currently looking at getting the new Buick Encore AWD if I like the looks of it, as AWD in northwest winters isn't a bad thing. I may be a careful and loving mother, but when my daughter's NOT in the car with me, I still push it to it's limits because I looooove to drive fast...
Interesting that so many pick Lord Of The Rings, but in actuality, it's three novels of a trilogy. Heck, Return Of The King wins hands down then, but I still have a soft spot for Daughter Of The Empire by Raymond Feist and Janny Wurts. I would love to be Lady Mara, ruling her family and playing the Great Game of the Empire...
I AM a good girl 100% of the time...why is having a sexual side and an imagination considered "bad"? That's 50% of the problem in this country, we're so far repressed that simply being honest about your sexual desires and needs is "wrong", "bad" or "dirty"? Nonsense. There's a time and place for everything yes, I wouldn't loudly discuss blowing my husband in a church, but the fact that I do it and enjoy it is in no way "bad".
In fact, he thinks I'm quite "good" at it. So there.
Gave up completely on grooming it, it's "Jeeves, fetch the weed-whacker" down there now. Dank, ragged and quite a bit frightening...
Hopefully that'll kill this kind of thread...lol
In recent years, I've found that I really enjoy dressing for the people around me. I used to be 99% for myself, but the confidence of being in a great marriage, being a mother, etc. have all allowed me to put more effort into looking good at work and around our friends, so 50/50 because despite putting in the effort for work, if it's a weekend with nothing big going on, it's jeans and sweatshirts, comfort, baby comfort!
ah... none of it matters as my Oakland Raiders are going to win it all. Count on it.
You got a month? Understanding the psychology of BDSM is not an easy subject!
We actually studied it in school for a bit and read Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism, which is an excellent book, in a continuing ed class. I don't know if his books are still out there but Jack Rinella has also written a number of how to/understanding books on the subject that are all uniformly excellent, more on the technical side, but he does cover the psychology of it somewhat.
There's far more to it than most people realize in that 90% of what you see and read about in books and movies in less than 10% of what actually goes on. The dom/sub relationship can be very far-reaching, but it can also be incredibly miniscule in what some might consider "kink". One partner might simply never let his woman be on top, and insist that she always be below him, that's actually a dom/sub thing if she's OK with it. They may not realize it for what it is, but it's real. She may insist on him being fully naked every single time, he might demand that she always wear lingerie, it's as much a part of the dom/sub relationship as her peeing in his mouth, but it's not as uh, titillating as the really freaky stuff.
It can also be incredibly useful as a therapeutic tool, yeah, I said it. People have recovered memories of abuse, , and molestation during BDSM scenes, which have helped them get the help they needed.
I suspect though, that your interest in the "psychology" of it is based on one I hear all the time; "Am I normal for wanting to do this stuff or am I some sick freak?" and the answer is NO, you are not some sicko, and YES, it's very normal. It's also not in the least bit harmful as long as both partners understand things like safewords and setting (and understanding) limits. You want to dress up in a leather Boy Scout uniform and have her tie you up while she force-feeds you Twinkies and grape soda while screaming at you in Swahili and slapping your ass with a wooden cooking spoon? Go for it.
Take pictures though, that sounds pretty freaky for those of us who enjoy watching that sort of thing, and we're a whole different equation there...
Yes, yes, Sean was the man, but really, Timothy Dalton was just fine....to the point of my bff in high school not quite understanding why I dropped her off so fast after seeing his first foray as Bond...I wanted to get home and into my bedroom as fast as humanly possible!
I'm going to reserve Sandra Bullock and Ryan Reynolds. That'd be fun.
Hubby's ten years older than I am, and right off the bat his maturity, brains and yes, experience made a huge difference. I'm reasonably certain had I made the mistakes I'd made with a younger guy, he'd have bailed, but this guy understood and let things develop over time, and now we're extremely happy. Now he's 50, but he's still MORE than capable of making me very happy on a regular basis.
Actually, there's a particular outfit that I don't think is all that hot or sexy on me, but whenever I wear it, I make sure to wear thigh-highs so as to make it easier for my husband to rip my panties off and fuck my brains out. Last time I wore it he had me bent over the breakfast table and sent me off to work with a nice tingly feeling.
We've done a lot of it; schoolgirl/headmaster, warrior princess/slaveboy, total strangers, spy/soldier (apparently I make a good Mata Hari), naughty nurse, and recently hubby came up with a new one where he got the stuff from a shoestore and set up about 20 pairs of my shoes in their boxes and was one HELL of a salesman...just keep an open mind and have a vivid imagination.
It's actually a pair, Nick and Nora Charles from the Thin Man movies...
One, I could face problems at work for it...
and TWO, there is no way in hell I'd be confident enough to do it!
Yes, I've lost most, if not all of the baby weight, but even before I would never have been comfortable with it. Hubby says I have nothing to be ashamed of and we did a boudoir shoot once that I feel is the best I've ever looked on film, but he's the only one that gets to see it.
Easy one.
Nanoseconds after I heard "Will you marr-" I was glued to his lips and he was locked onto mine. No words were needed.
You'll think I'm a sick, twisted lunatic for it, but look up an App called Dismount. Endless fun for the possible sociopaths.
When I showed it to several peers at a conference last year they all questioned why someone in my profession would use it.
I had no good answer for them other than it relieves stress wonderfully.
I did once, but that was only because I'm really ticklish and I told him to stop but did he listen? Noooo.....
