We finally have some sunny weather here, but instead of getting it on, we're taking little Julia for her first time out in the woods for a short hike. Yes, she'll be in hubby's baby carrier on his chest, and she won't really understand much, but we want her to see some nature. Naturally as a mommy, she's got SPF 12 million on, a hat, and sunglasses...:-)
OK, as a woman of 5'10", I've dealt with this a bit, my first serious bf was 5'7", but he was one of the most confident men I've EVER met, hubby included, so it was no worry. I used to ask him if he wanted me to wear flats, and he'd say "no way, you have great legs, show 'em off!". As far as a taller man making you feel safer, nonsense! He would have whooped anyone that gave me the slightest impertinence, and he wasn't a muscular guy, once again, it's the confidence. Hubby's taller than me, and with certain heels, I'm taller than he is, but he doesn't mind, and I certainly don't. In fact, last weekend we went to a party and he begged me to wear my "hooker boots" with 6 inch heels, and I towered over him, but he didn't care at all. The heels however had me in agony after about an hour, how the hell do strippers and actual hookers wear those damn things?
None. I can't juggle at all, and none of them have been light enough for me to even dead lift them, let alone juggle them.
Even with the baby, I find an easy way to burn a few extra calories is not worrying and wasting time trying to find a "close" parking spot at the mall or grocery store. I simply park immediately, and WALK the extra, yes, the stroller makes it tougher, as does getting both the stroller and the groceries, packages what have you back to the car, but you DO burn some calories doing it. Before the baby, I also would return my cart to the store, hey, extra fifty yard of walking, that's a few more calories you burn!
Nuts are good, and lately, we've gotten into all kinds of soy snacks. Pretty tasty stuff...although hubby actually asked the girl at the store if they had a soy based whipped cream...for um, non meal purposes.
If he initiates it, I'm fine. If she starts it, I'm insecure enough to worry still. I need to work on that, I mean, ten plus years, happy marriage, he's never strayed, we've been incredibly happy, and I still get that way from time to time. Now he loves it when I flirt with guys. I have one co-worker that we routinely plan running away to Tahiti, Fiji, what have you. He's all of 24, and his girlfriend could be a model, but we both have a good sense of humour and enjoy the banter and back and forth.
Words? Not so important to me or hubby. In fact one guy made a rather crude comment a few years ago, and hubby just laughed at him and said "Jealous much?" A minor touch or grab, in a crowded place is harder to deal with. One time I felt a hand flat out grab my ass in a club we were at watching one of my favorite bands. I let it go, but afterwards I asked hubby about it and he busted out laughing. It was an all ages show, and he told me it was a kid of about twelve or thirteen years old!! Hubby said he was laughing too hard to do anything. If a guy makes a serious grab or something? Hubby can take care of himself fairly well and will stomp the guy. In his book, there are certain rules and limits we don't cross.
The funny thing is, in a reverse situation, I'm much more liable to fly off the handle and go for some woman making a comment about my man. If she dares to touch him? I'd probably kill the bitch. Yes, I'm way too possessive of my man and still insecure about myself.
Thank you for burning my retinas out. I appreciate it.
He'll go out with some friends maybe every three weeks, have a few, watch or go to a game, he comes home in good shape more or less completely sober and I have no problem with it at all. In turn, my female friends will all get together maybe once a month or so, with the intention of going out and having a few and getting rowdy, and now with me being the last one to have a child, we wind up discussing our kids, our husbands, and other stuff while having some drinks at a local "theme" restaurant. If we're lucky we might get together early enough on a weeknight to hit the mall and do some shopping with realistic people who understand why we need three pairs of the exact same shoes, just all in different colors. Hmmm...getting older is not as much fun as being younger was. Time was it'd be girls night out, the vodka and tequila would flow like water, we'd all be dressed to impress, wearing as little as possible, and looking for FUN! Be it male strippers, shooting pool with cute guys, trying to drive the younger ones wild, or just plain getting hammered. Ah...those were the days...
Interesting post and opinions. Damon's got the right of it though. Moderation is the whole key to it. We like to dine out but we try to pace ourselves and only "go for it" as far as steaks or really unhealthy things once in awhile. But don't let anyone tell you that "fast" food has to be unhealthy. I figured out a ton of healthy easy to make meals that take a whopping 3 minutes or so to make, far less time than sitting in the drive through, listening to the clerk attempt to make sense of your order through the .39 cent sound system! Take one of my favorites; Hubby and I both love a good Philly cheesesteak, however, they are horribly fatty and full of sodium. I take Morningstar's vegetarian "steak" strips and wrap them up in portions right out of the bag, take one portioned package, microwave for 55 seconds while toasting the whole wheat bun, place the strips on the bottom bun, put some low-fat or fat free cheese on top, add the veggies and microwave for another 20 seconds, add a low fat sauce (mayo, chipotle, whatever) on the top bun, and eat! Easy to prepare, quite healthy as far as fat and calories, and tasty. I figured it out that one sandwich costs about .93, too, much cheaper than a Big Mac. We could go for Mongolian Grill at 9 bucks a head, or I can prepare one myself for about 2 bucks a shot, using vegetarian "chicken strips", and I know there's no MSG added to MY sauce. Takes only slightly longer than the sandwich to make...put a little effort into reading ingredient lists and you can go healthier without spending a ton of time or money.
Dusk is good. Mid morning is also great. Late afternoon's been known to work. Early evening has been fun. Late night's nice. Dawn's always good. I do remember one time we were camping and for some reason we both woke up about 4 am, and figured, "What the hell?".
I'm sort of surprised that Tolkien hasn't been mentioned? I would have loved for him to have truly finished the Silmarillion and who knows what else he might have conceived? Although few people ever "got" what all the work was about, the tale of the elves fleeing Valinor when they should have followed the advice of the gods. The whole Hobbit and Lord Of the Rings was created to tell the greater story.
I've shared some actual stories about hubby and myself, as well as my first partner. Hubby finds it flattering and funny as well. I doubt he's ever told anyone else about my writing though. My first ever recently contacted me via Facebook to inquire if I was indeed "CastleQueen" as he'd found the site and had read the story, and it was kind of a pleasant rehash of the old days.
No stigma whatsoever. He's smart, confident, secure in himself, and does a damn good job of making ME feel secure about MYSELF. 51, yeah, and I wouldn't trade him for anyone.
Our bed is our favorite place by far, but for some reason, our bed when we visit his folks is LOTS of fun, maybe it's because we try to be so quiet about it. Our next visit is in a month, but I don't know about sex because the baby's crib will be in there with us. Just how much info can a 4 month old process?
Nooo...not going to try that. We have anal sex reasonably often, but it's never gone there. Don't know if I'd be comfortable giving or receiving...
We don't always talk dirty, but when we do, it usually transforms good sex into great sex as we both have pretty good imaginations. It's also good for spur of the moment role playing.
Hubby and I got interested in it with the arrival of the Seattle Sounders of MLS. It's a lot of fun, but there's some really stupid idiots who feel they HAVE to be thugs about it and have attacked fans of other teams. Not cool, we wouldn't dream of attacking, say, a Texas Rangers fan at a Mariner's game, or a 49'ers fan at a Seahawks game, but all of a sudden it's "cool" to beat up someone cheering against the team we've only had for two seasons?
Never been an issue, and I'd never do it. If his faith is more important than me, he's the wrong guy. Hubby might go to church every...eleven months or so, but he's never demanded it or even asked it of me. Just one of the many reasons I married him.
My vote goes for Seattle, relatively safe, lots to do, great food, good clubs, theater, if you're OK with the rain, you'll love it here!
If I've skipped shaving my legs, I'll wear them, which is usually most of the winter!! Come warm weather, bare legs, unless of course, I'm dressing up for hubby, then it's thigh highs, garters, the whole deal...
Doll's got the right idea. Letting her know you're attracted to her might be all you need and she'll take it from there. I've been approached once, and while I wasn't interested, it was easy enough to let her know how I felt. I was totally flattered of course, but not quite my thing...maybe one of these days I
ll try it.
Mine are already green, but I'd like them to be more intense. Once for kicks I used one brown and one blue contact. I was super-pissed that my bf at the time didn't even notice for 6 hours!!
As far as beating it once you've got it, I have nothing for you, but I take two ecchinacea tablets three times a week and I haven't had a cold for 19 years.
