Come on people, why would he post it under somebody else's forum window? Let's have a lil compassion and instead of blasting a person and making them feel unwelcome, offer them a hello and a lil bit of advice in how to find one on this site. As many of you can see, Lush isn't anything like other sites.
BTW I soooooo have to agree...really???? no limitations...do you like scars? do you like to be belittled or humliated, do you like to be passed around a group of strangers pleasing everyone (if that is what is expected of you), do you want to be whipped, do you want to have things pushed inside of you...see where i'm going with this..as mentioned by Ecopez2...you need to have a lil idea on what limitations you do have and you can always explore more with your Mistress. With no limitations that opens the door to some extreme situations. Seen it to many times and saying you have no limitations will chase away anybody really worth knowing.
Use the first few conversation as kind of an interview, find out what she is into, see if your interests are compatible. If they aren't then that is a quick way to end a relationship.
Edit above and add in how long have you been in the lifestyle. Have you had a rl relationship or online before. You need to sell yourself as there are many others here looking for a Mistress too. Make her see your forum post and want to talk to you. Don't make people guess as it might be a turn off or thinking that you are lazy and looking for the first one to appear.
Hope that helps and good luck on your search.
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Quote by CleverFox
Why not get her a stair master and enroll her in Weight Watcher's while you are getting her the ben wa balls? Also tell her that her breasts are too small and she should get a boob job.
It's not like he asked if he should buy her a sweeper or new pots and pans. He asked if he should buy her something that is suppose to please her, stimulate her and for her. If he gets pleasure from it as well then it's a good gift for all involved.
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What is wrong with buying them? I say talk to her first and see if that is something she wants to try and if she does then you could also get a small egg and put them in after the balls are in and enjoy the show. That is something to work up to though. Nothing wrong with changing things up and keeping it exciting.
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I love tats..love the arm sleeve one the best...but it has to be done in a flow for me .. sometimes there are no reason to them and looks like..ooo here is a good place for one and the flow is off...that is just me but i do find tats sexy..and a good pick-up line to start asking about them...
Only you Jersey Girl could come up with a thread like this 
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Quote by TheDevilsWeakness
This was a long time ago. My Dom, at the time, was learning the art of rope tying and he was getting quite good at it.
I was strung up and tied down in all kinds of positions.
The funniest was when he said, "You know, if you just moved to the left, I'd be able to do this easier."
That's when I pointed out it might be a little difficult to do so... He had me strung from the ceiling.
ok that is just too funny...thinking he was concentrating a lil to hard and not thinking..
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*Please post with permission if you need it, not worth risking a punishment*
This is meant to be funny not malicious so if that is your intent please refrain...
Just curious..what is the funniest thing your Dom/me has said to you.
This hurts me as much as you....um...no..it's my arse that is burning not yours....
This is meant to be funny not malicious so if that is your intent please refrain...
Just curious..what is the funniest thing your Dom/me has said to you.
This hurts me as much as you....um...no..it's my arse that is burning not yours....
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I could be wrong but we have told members if they make their own room that they can kick or allow whom they want in, whether it's right or wrong. People have the right to go in them or not, it's their choice. I'm not trying to be harsh but if a member makes a room as long as it falls in lush guidelines, it's their room.
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Oreo, at some point we have all disappointed somebody. So was it a smart thing that you went to another, nope What i think you failed to understand is once you accept your Master then you need to discuss limits. Things like are you exclusive, is this online or is this part phone/cam and making it more personal. Until you have an understanding of what is expected in some basic ways you will mess up. Now if he had told you, you will not private/play with another then yes you broke a rule and need to be punished for it.
Of course you can be better we all can be better. The key is to discuss your limits and know where you stand with what you can and can not do, what is permitted and what isn't permitted. A true Master will not con you into forgetting you belong to another. That is just wrong and means he was probably a wanna be just wanting you to get his "rocks" off. I have found in this lifestyle people want to help they want to talk about their experiences and even mistakes they have made in their journey to learn.
Read the BDSM forum some very knowledgeable people post there and give their input and ideas, ask questions after your Master has cleared it to talk to others, if that is his wishes. There is so much to learn and not everybody has every single answer. This lifestyle gives a lot of individuality as well as letting you custom build your relationship with your Master. The important thing is you learn from your mistakes and keep constant lines of communication open with your Master as once that trust and communication breaks down, so does the relationship.
Of course you can be better we all can be better. The key is to discuss your limits and know where you stand with what you can and can not do, what is permitted and what isn't permitted. A true Master will not con you into forgetting you belong to another. That is just wrong and means he was probably a wanna be just wanting you to get his "rocks" off. I have found in this lifestyle people want to help they want to talk about their experiences and even mistakes they have made in their journey to learn.
Read the BDSM forum some very knowledgeable people post there and give their input and ideas, ask questions after your Master has cleared it to talk to others, if that is his wishes. There is so much to learn and not everybody has every single answer. This lifestyle gives a lot of individuality as well as letting you custom build your relationship with your Master. The important thing is you learn from your mistakes and keep constant lines of communication open with your Master as once that trust and communication breaks down, so does the relationship.
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There has to be trust by both parties. Talk to him find out what he is thinking. If you don't have communication then your miserable and distant from the one you should feel closest to. When you talk to him remain respectable but tell him what your feeling and try to get him to tell you what he's feeling and see where it goes once you have an open channel for communication.
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If you don't feel the connection to him even from a distance, then maybe he's not right for you. As a submissive you should always feel the need to please him, to make him proud to call you his. Striving to please him even from a distance.
Now with all that said, if you don't feel that and only feel the need to be good when he's with you or feel that connection when your with him, then you need to stop and think if he's the right one for you. A submissive should always be honest good or bad with her Dom/me. Even if you know you will be punished and yes even from a distance you can still feel his displeasure.
There are all sorts of punishments from you spanking yourself to having to write essays to being banned from chat, kneeling on dry rice for a period of time, no contact with him for a period of time, plus many many many other things as many know. Most Dom/me's are very creative in their punishments to ensure you realize they are displeased and that you think twice before doing whatever infraction you did do.
YOU have to want this. Nobody can make you do this this has to be a want and personally i don't know how long a Dom/me will tolerate a misbehaved sub. Training is only part of this you have to have the need and want to do this. You can always find a Dom/me that's easy but to have a true connection is special Treat it as if it's special. Don't take it for granted.
Now with all that said, if you don't feel that and only feel the need to be good when he's with you or feel that connection when your with him, then you need to stop and think if he's the right one for you. A submissive should always be honest good or bad with her Dom/me. Even if you know you will be punished and yes even from a distance you can still feel his displeasure.
There are all sorts of punishments from you spanking yourself to having to write essays to being banned from chat, kneeling on dry rice for a period of time, no contact with him for a period of time, plus many many many other things as many know. Most Dom/me's are very creative in their punishments to ensure you realize they are displeased and that you think twice before doing whatever infraction you did do.
YOU have to want this. Nobody can make you do this this has to be a want and personally i don't know how long a Dom/me will tolerate a misbehaved sub. Training is only part of this you have to have the need and want to do this. You can always find a Dom/me that's easy but to have a true connection is special Treat it as if it's special. Don't take it for granted.
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First, tell us more about you..what are you looking for...for instance online only or rl or both. What interests you. Why would a Mistress choose you when there are others out there. You need to sell yourself as being the one that a Mistress would want. What are your limitations what do you seek in a Mistress. So many things need to be addressed here other then just saying your looking for a Mistress.
Have you been in the lifestyle before? Do you have an understanding what it entails what is expected from you? Have you read the BDSM 101 thread? On your profile you need to fill it out about your bio and let us know something about you. You have no pics that would let somebody see what interests you nothing filled out.. Plenty of questions for you and plenty of things for you to do in the mean time while you look for a Mistress.
Keep in mind to just jump into a BDSM relationship without a true understanding is scary as many things can happen. First learn about your needs and what you can do to please a Mistress...it's not all about sex and if you think it is then read and do more research. Never just jump into a relationship, make sure your compatible and that you feel you are a good fit with the Mistress you choose.
Have you been in the lifestyle before? Do you have an understanding what it entails what is expected from you? Have you read the BDSM 101 thread? On your profile you need to fill it out about your bio and let us know something about you. You have no pics that would let somebody see what interests you nothing filled out.. Plenty of questions for you and plenty of things for you to do in the mean time while you look for a Mistress.
Keep in mind to just jump into a BDSM relationship without a true understanding is scary as many things can happen. First learn about your needs and what you can do to please a Mistress...it's not all about sex and if you think it is then read and do more research. Never just jump into a relationship, make sure your compatible and that you feel you are a good fit with the Mistress you choose.
