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poizenivy
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 57
United States
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Clum, you are correct. He is assuming that she is hetero which is unrealistic because we have several people in our family that are gay or bi. He is also assuming that there has to be a romantic relationship in order for there to be sex because he believes they are not separate. And yes he is not her father.
Snoop, I understand what you are saying. When the kids start dating someone I have always, and now we, meet the parents and discuss boundaries, etc. Every time it has been the other parents that bring up sleepovers and being ok with it. I have worked in community corrections for years and am very familiar with our laws around that. But you are correct that that is a concern.
I do appreciate everyone's insight and feedback. Thank you.
Snoop, I understand what you are saying. When the kids start dating someone I have always, and now we, meet the parents and discuss boundaries, etc. Every time it has been the other parents that bring up sleepovers and being ok with it. I have worked in community corrections for years and am very familiar with our laws around that. But you are correct that that is a concern.
I do appreciate everyone's insight and feedback. Thank you.
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Family reputation....not the issue as we recently moved to new town and the sleepovers didn't happen regularly, actually were quite rare.
What do you mean legal ramifications? Where I live the same laws apply whether or not it is a gay or straight interaction.
No I know things are happening as my kids and I talk openly and they know they can come to me about anything.
I honestly think he is just stuck on the whole boy/girl issue because he won't let her spend the night at her friend's house and that boy is flaming gay but has no problem with her staying with her lesbian friends.
Thanks, for you input Snoop.
What do you mean legal ramifications? Where I live the same laws apply whether or not it is a gay or straight interaction.
No I know things are happening as my kids and I talk openly and they know they can come to me about anything.
I honestly think he is just stuck on the whole boy/girl issue because he won't let her spend the night at her friend's house and that boy is flaming gay but has no problem with her staying with her lesbian friends.
Thanks, for you input Snoop.
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My hubby and I watch porn together, it only adds to and doesn't cause any problems...I think that it is harmful when one person doesn't want to and is pressured into watching or when the porn involves something extreme that hadn't been discussed before hand, or when watched in secret away from the other half.
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So I have a 17 year old daughter, she is my youngest. Her older siblings were allowed to have their boyfriends and girlfriends stay over on occassion or to stay at their house. This was when I was a single mom. I am not married to a VERY straightlaced man...and he doesn't believe in that kind of thing. So here is my question...why is it wrong to allow her to stay over at her boyfriend's house but not over at her lesbian friend's house? But he doesn't see it as the same thing.
I would welcome people's views on this. Is he being terribly niave to think that nothing will happen at the girl's house or do you think he is just narrow minded?
By the way, I know that several people will not agree with my allowing me older teens sleepovers but that is not what this is about...I am trying to figure out my husband's thought process and yes I have asked him, all he will say is it's not the same.
I would welcome people's views on this. Is he being terribly niave to think that nothing will happen at the girl's house or do you think he is just narrow minded?
By the way, I know that several people will not agree with my allowing me older teens sleepovers but that is not what this is about...I am trying to figure out my husband's thought process and yes I have asked him, all he will say is it's not the same.
