Everything you are about to read is based on true life events. Treat the feelings you find here with curiosity and respect. The woman could be your mom, your sister, your kid, your hair stylist. You never know what someone is going through; but it sure is fun to find out.
It all started with a feeling. Or lack thereof. I was like every average mom and wiife: regular job, bills, chores. Except I am in no way normal. I had been married to my emotionally-abusive and distant husband for almost thirteen years. The best thing to come out of the relationship is a four-year-old daughter.
We were at that stage in life where anything that could go wrong, already had. And we were done trying to be nice and play it off. Our relationship failed -- on my part for always being wrong, and his part for drinking and controlling and ignoring. After our first miscarriage, something changed. Maybe I snapped. Maybe I was done, and my body killed the baby to try and kick my head and heart into gear to get out of this life. I don’t want to say midlife crisis, I wasn’t even thirty yet, for Christ’s sake. The second miscarriage, I felt next to nothing at all. All hope had left me at that point and I think that kept me mildly sane.
It was winter when I left. Another cold lonesome winter. But, let’s be honest, my mind had wandered long before I left. All my life, my mind had wandered. There must be more to life than just one man; the house, the kid, the job. All so mundane. So, I willed my mind to wander. I had fascinations with men in my head. Men I worked with. Male cashiers that were oh so nice. Random strangers. What would they feel like? What would they taste like? What would they do to me and how? Wander, wander, wander. All to escape the hell I lived with daily. I never once cheated. I thought about it, and maybe that counts. Your eyes can wander but never your hands. What about your mind? Your soul?
About two years ago, I found the best type of wanderer. And instant connection. A co-worker at the time, such a mysterious find! It's almost like I’ve known him my entire life. How unique! I lusted. Hard. But also, I wanted to learn abput him. Know his life history, listen to the details of his day, get excited about whatever he was into, with him, as equals. This was a different type of wandering and I think we both knew it. So much more than sexual desire. A meeting and merging of the souls. That’s when I really got into trouble.
So, I began to fantasize. My life became divided. At work, I was a funny, flirty, amazing woman, and then as soon as I got home, I was the responsible mom. Do laundry, clean, vacuum, wash dishes, laundry, cook dinner, bath the child, get everything ready for the next day to avoid any unnecessary hassles. Maybe find an hour for myself; used to secretly plot ideas of how to see mystery man again. Get disciplined for doing stupid things wrong. Let the husband drink until he passed out after making me feel worthless for all the imagined affairs I never had, or the chores I did wrong. I would think, if he has four beers he may pass out early and then I can be amazing work person, not the overcontrolled bullied mom.
The first time I fantasized about my wandering mystery man, I had run into him in the hallway at work. He always walked so fast, all the way to one side of the hallway, staring at the floor. It screamed repressed to me. And my soul ached to find out if he faced the same horrors as I did when he clocked out. I worked in a room called the fishbowl due to the large windows all the way around. Every move I made, anyone walking by would see. I danced and sang as I worked, my back turned to the windows, putting on a fabulous show to most of the world, whether they liked it or not.
In front of me, there was a two-way mirror. I would stare into it constantly, waiting for him to walk along the hallway. Creeping to the extreme. I imagined the day I could pull him into this exhibitionist's fantasy room and let him have his way with me on the table. How thrilling it would be! His tall lean body leaning against the table as I pull down his pants and suck the very life from him. Or him, creeping in behind me as I am dancing, pushing me down hard onto the table and fucking me from behind.
I began to fantasize at night about him. And in the shower in the mornings. Wide awake and needy, I masturbated in the hot steam just thinking about what was beneath his buttoned shirts and lying buckled in his pants. I would wait in my car after work just for another glance at his beautiful face, going home to his own personal hell, hardly able to keep my hands from sliding into my wet panties and pleasing myself right then and there.
I assumed that he was completely ignorant. Ignorant of my heartbreak every time he cancelled plans. Ignorant of my flirtatious demeanor towards him. Ignorant of me in general. Nevertheless, I tried. Continued to try. To get to know him. To get closer to him. I had to. My soul could feel his, wanting to find its mate even then.
We were a big, mildly related group of friends; all nerds. Under the guise of large co-workers geeking out to new superhero movies, we would find our way to each other. Timing was never our thing, but we always tried. The first time we went to the movies, it was a boy’s night that I could get away from the house for. I knew I would face hell if my husband ever found out I was having a boy’s night -- and I did. I wasn’t allowed out of the house for a while after. But it was totally worth it.
We had tickets to see Star Wars Force Awakens. He almost had to cancel, and I bought his ticket. He had to buy another and I was so happy he could make it. I made it my plan to look my best and sit by him. We got to the theater and did the small talk thing. We both hated small talk. Soon it turned to talk of spouses and divorces and other such crazy life changing stories. It was amazing. He sat to my left. The whole movie I wanted to touch him, hold his hand, let this urgent need from my soul reach out to his and see what it would find. I giggled every time I saw the millennium falcon and he tried to touch it in 3-D.
It was quite an amazing night. I remember walking back to my car, hot, happy, and knowing I was going to have to fuck someone to get this horniness under control. Not knowing then that it was just him making me feel that way. Not the standard excitement of a new crush. Not the hotness that comes from watching a new geek movie. It was him.