I had dressed up since I was a teenager but it was only occasionally. Usually, it was just lingerie and it was always for me and just for masturbation. It was about ten years ago that I decided I wanted to go further and start using makeup and breast forms and wigs etcetera.
Quite by chance one day, I rang an old friend just for a chat. I found out that he had rented his house out while he was travelling. The person on the other end of the line was a woman, or so I thought. We got talking and I discovered that it was another old friend who had gone through a full sex change. I had no idea at all that he had done this as it had been kept private.
She had renamed herself, Sarah. She asked me if I would still talk to her now that I knew. I said yes, of course I would and that I didn't have a problem with it. Secretly I had another motive.
I remember thinking about it incessantly over the next few days. The secret, lonely life I had was fun but was still frustrating. Here was someone who had had the same issues and desires. By far the biggest fear I had at that time was that someone might find out, disapprove and tell everyone.
I did feel shame because of the way society viewed cross-dressers and transvestites. There were also many ramifications with this being common knowledge, my business, my children, and violent bigots etcetera. If only it was possible to talk openly about such a lifestyle. I didn't want a sex change but love dressing up.
I realised that this was the first time I had actually talked with a trans person and was desperate to tell her my secret and the frustration I was experiencing. Inside I had this burning desire to tell someone about it. This seemed to be my chance knowing that she would understand.
I nervously approached the subject and asked if she had started with cross-dressing. She had. The conversation went on for a little while and I was trying to act as if I was just curious. Sarah told me that I was very accepting and it was refreshing to find someone who didn’t judge or rebuke her for being what she wanted to be. This was the moment when I knew that I could tell her, but still, I resisted. She was obviously aware that something was a bit untoward but refrained from commenting.
As I went on I approached the fact that it must be difficult to admit that one was a crossdresser and to tell anyone. Sarah assured me that if such a revelation was going to be admitted, it was far better to talk to someone who had gone through the same experiences. Bang! this was my chance.
For a few seconds, I stayed silent as my mind panicked. All sorts of emotions percolated every cell in my head, ‘tell her, admit it, own up, say you crossdress and have done so for years and you love it, and try not to get too emotional and cry, but do it, do it do it!’
Well, I did.
“Sarah. I am a crossdresser. I have done it for years and no one knows. It’s been my lonely secret. Can we talk about it?”
Sarah was wonderful and very understanding. She told me that she did suspect as the conversation was very revealing. She knew how hard it was to come out and say it.
“Be proud that not only do you dress but that you have admitted it to me,” Sarah said supportively. “It’s ok, really it is. You are not alone. There are many people who do the same.”
She told me that I had to pick a girly name for myself as that was what ‘we’ do. I started thinking about it and then decided that I liked the name ‘Lucy Lou.’ We also talked about certain aspects of the whole cross-dressing thing. How and when I started, what I wore, and was there ever any sexual element to it. It was uplifting and I felt so relieved. We decided that we would talk in a day or so after I had got my head around the fact that I was no longer alone.
I put the phone down and sat there dazed for about five minutes. I actually felt really turned on that my dressing had gone up a stage. I immediately went to my bedroom and opened my case with my clothes in it and started to dress. All I had at that time was a wet look basque, a pair of panties and fishnet stockings but it still felt invigorating.