I remember hearing about the carpet matching the drapes, when I didn't understand what it meant. I’d overheard my older brother talking to a friend of his about his girlfriend, and her carpet didn’t match her drapes, but I had no idea what it meant until an older girl explained it was a way to tell the old money people from the new rich. The old money people used decorators, and the carpet always matched.
When I went to friends’ homes, I looked to see if they were new or old money, but it was confusing. Sometimes there were hardwood floors, so there wasn’t any carpet to match. I guess I was a light on a dimmer switch that was always on half-bright.
When I discovered that I’d been told a fairy tale, I was in bed with Gale. She had light brunette drapes with an almost black carpet. I remember saying, “That’s what that means. Carpet and drapes, Beth had been making fun of me.”
When Gale tried to understand what I’d said, it took a good ten minutes interruption before I was able to restart our … Actually, she ended it there. From then on, I was always looking for evidence about a woman’s decorating skills.
It became an obsession for me. I was always trying to check out the girl’s, um, women’s, decorating skills. Sometimes I discovered they weren’t satisfactory because of their small bikini bottoms. Other times I got a more traditional bedtime check. Unfortunately, not as often as I wanted, though.
In college at UC Davis, I started a club called Carpet and Drapes in my dorm. We kept a spreadsheet with all the girls’ names and looked for reports on their decorating skills. Bonus points for pictures that showed both. We had a few hundred girls’ names, and there were fifteen to twenty other guys that were participating in our survey. Actively participating, at least. Others offered us information as they learned it.
After college, I gradually quit playing those kinds of frat boy games, but I never quite lost my interest in women’s decorating habits.
I was working at Metro Insurance and was supervising about twenty people when I was at our favorite bar when I met Stephanie. Beautiful, I thought. She was funny and intelligent, and I wanted to get to know her. Unfortunately, she was cool-to-cold with me; Steph and her friends were all cool. She was friendly and nice with my friends and the other guys I saw her talk to. But I was different for some reason.
This went on for some time—several months—until I was able to get her alone. When I asked her, she denied it for a while until she said, “Alan, I guess you don’t remember me. I went to Davis too—actually on the women’s floor in the same dorm you lived in—and I heard about your ‘Carpet and Drapes Club. Misogynist much? I hated you and all your friends. It was so, so … um, just so.”
I cringed but replied, “I can explain.” I paused but continued, “Um, well, it may not be a very good explanation, but it's what I have, and it’s how it got started. Can I try at least?”
She just looked at me for a while, then nodded and said, “Okay, give me what you’ve got. I’ll listen."
It took a minute before i could get it out, “It’s embarrassing, but it started when I’d heard my older brother say, um, he’s about seven years older than I am, and he said that about his girlfriend, and I didn’t understand, and I’d been eavesdropping on him talking to a friend. He said something about her carpet that didn’t match her drapes.