Hello girls. If you had to borrow money and there were two male friends available, friend number one is just a man you feel nothing for, and friend number two is a man you feel something for.
Which one would you ask money from?
My theory is that a woman would ask money to friend number one, because she would not mix money and feelings. If the money thing becomes a problem (she can not return it, or the male friend changed his attitute towards her, etc), then she would mess a friendship with a non potential sexual partner, but she would not risk a frienship with a friend she regards as a potential sexual partner.
Do you agree? Comments?
Is she does not mix money and feelings that explains my wives. They asked for money all the time.
The only man I would ever ask to loan me money is my daddy. And I don't loan money to men either.
Unless it's a close family member, significant other or your long-term BFF, money loans are a very bad idea... and even in those cases it can be 'iffy'.
People that feel comfortable asking for loans from casual friends and acquaintances usually aren't the type to place high importance on paying the money back. I would rather get a loan from the bank than hit up some 'casual guy friend' or even a boyfriend for any substantial sum of money. $20 here and there, no problem... if we're looking at something that involves writing a cheque and an I.O.U note, uhm no thanks. Drama is always around the corner.
For freeloaders, social parasites, con artists and gold-diggers... they all know how to spot an easy target and groom them with friendship, flirtation and/or sex for a fast cash payout.
You just end up being a free credit card to them with no interest and no credit risks/damage. If your relationship is disposable (which most relationships are, let's be honest), then you are pretty much fucked when they walk away.
I don't think loaning a girl I've been with for a while money means she's a gold digger... In fact, I wouldn't loan it. I would just help her. It's not like she's been hanging around me and doing shit for me for six months just cause she's planning to hit me up for a couple thousand. I would just help her with some cash of actually justsend the payment myself. It's not like all the things woman do for men aren't worth anything because she isn't actually spending money. If a girl has spent countless hours organizing my stuff, giving me rides when drunk, fucking me, cleaning my place, cooking for me, comforting me... Then what mind of a dick would I be if she owes her rent and she's a bit strapped for cash... I'll just pay it for her and move on. Just cause it's a gesture that involves money doesnt make her shady. It makes her comfortable enough with you to accept it.
On that note, I do not loan casual friends money. I don't enjoy 'going over there' to make my presence known and get my muthafuckin money.
i have to say i would borrow money for the guy i know better and care for ot some guy i dont give a shit bout. but i dont borrow money unless it s like emergency or if i need money for a cab if im drunk or something