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how do i get my wife to do anal if she is really tight
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It takes a lot of prep and gentleness. But be sure she is willing before you try
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Take things slow use plenty of lube and maybe even start by using a small butt plug
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Find a guy with a smaller cock to break her in!! LOL
Come on, all women that havent done anal are pretty tight back there. First thing she has to want to do it. If she is into trying it, you should first start off with inserting a well lubed finger, go slowly. Actually it would best if she did this herself so she can control it. Once she is comfortable with this, try a small toy and then gradually move up to a bigger one. And if she likes this, then you can try to enter her. Make sure she is very relaxed, turned on and well lubed and enter her very slowly. Again it will be best to try a position where she is in control of how fast you enter her.
Anal sex is wonderful but it isnt for everybody. If she ends up not liking it, dont push her into doing it. There are many existing threads on first time anal in the forum. Do a search and you will get much more excellent advice, especially advice from the resident Lush Anal Exper., Anal 101 is always in session, HAHA!!
Good Luck and have fun!!
Come on, all women that havent done anal are pretty tight back there. First thing she has to want to do it. If she is into trying it, you should first start off with inserting a well lubed finger, go slowly. Actually it would best if she did this herself so she can control it. Once she is comfortable with this, try a small toy and then gradually move up to a bigger one. And if she likes this, then you can try to enter her. Make sure she is very relaxed, turned on and well lubed and enter her very slowly. Again it will be best to try a position where she is in control of how fast you enter her.
Anal sex is wonderful but it isnt for everybody. If she ends up not liking it, dont push her into doing it. There are many existing threads on first time anal in the forum. Do a search and you will get much more excellent advice, especially advice from the resident Lush Anal Exper., Anal 101 is always in session, HAHA!!
Good Luck and have fun!!
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Communication is key. Anal requires lots of trust. If this is her first time, then if anything goes wrong, it'll be a really long time until she's willing to give it another go, if ever. Let her clean up in a way that's she's most confident. If she feels clean, she'll feel less self conscious. Lubrication is extremely important. Start off any anal play with gentle lube, even if you're just using your finger. When she gets more comfortable with anal, you can use your saliva as lube, which makes great foreplay. Begin slowly...massage her gently with a finger until she's used to the intrusion. Then maybe you can add another finger, depending on how thick your fingers are. TAKE.YOUR.TIME. I can't stress this enough. Anal isn't something you can rush. Also, stimulate her clit as well...this will help her relax, which will loosen her up, so to speak. And by loose, I mean more receptive and less constricting. A dildo can also be added to the mix. This will prep her even further. Let her get used to being stretched. But if you're gonna use a dildo, get one close to the size of your cock in width and length to yours...maybe a bit bigger if it's not too much. And then have her let you know how it feels throughout the entire process. Then when it's finally time, let her feel like she's in control. She'll be more relaxed and trusting if she feels like she's a part of the orchestration. So have her look back at you. Give her a few reassuring looks and nods and such. Have her spread her ass cheeks for you...it's exciting. And then again, take your time. Go in slowly...don't start pumping like a mad man. In fact, once you get all the way in hold still for a bit. Let her adjust...and let her muscles back there mold to your cock. It'll be a great sensation for the both of you. Slow, long strokes are much better than a series of quick pumps, especially this first time around. As time goes on and anal is something you want regularly, invest in a butt plug. These help immensely in reducing resistance. Have her wear it for a period of time throughout the day, and she'll be ready when you're ready.
Approach anal with caution. It isn't one of those things you can just go in and do like you see in porn. It takes time, preparation, and trust. If she feels the least bit uncomfortable, it won't be an enjoyable experience for either of you. And as Nikki said, anal isn't for everyone. That's why communication is important. If she says she doesn't like it, then that's it. If she doesn't like a finger, she won't like a toy, and if she doesn't like a toy, chances are she won't like your cock. It's up to you to make this a great experience for her. I know that's a lot of pressure. But if you're willing to invest the time, control, and patience, it'll be well worth it.
Happy humping!
Approach anal with caution. It isn't one of those things you can just go in and do like you see in porn. It takes time, preparation, and trust. If she feels the least bit uncomfortable, it won't be an enjoyable experience for either of you. And as Nikki said, anal isn't for everyone. That's why communication is important. If she says she doesn't like it, then that's it. If she doesn't like a finger, she won't like a toy, and if she doesn't like a toy, chances are she won't like your cock. It's up to you to make this a great experience for her. I know that's a lot of pressure. But if you're willing to invest the time, control, and patience, it'll be well worth it.
Happy humping!
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Communication is key. Anal requires lots of trust. If this is her first time, then if anything goes wrong, it'll be a really long time until she's willing to give it another go, if ever. Let her clean up in a way that's she's most confident. If she feels clean, she'll feel less self conscious. Lubrication is extremely important. Start off any anal play with gentle lube, even if you're just using your finger. When she gets more comfortable with anal, you can use your saliva as lube, which makes great foreplay. Begin slowly...massage her gently with a finger until she's used to the intrusion. Then maybe you can add another finger, depending on how thick your fingers are. TAKE.YOUR.TIME. I can't stress this enough. Anal isn't something you can rush. Also, stimulate her clit as well...this will help her relax, which will loosen her up, so to speak. And by loose, I mean more receptive and less constricting. A dildo can also be added to the mix. This will prep her even further. Let her get used to being stretched. But if you're gonna use a dildo, get one close to the size of your cock in width and length to yours...maybe a bit bigger if it's not too much. And then have her let you know how it feels throughout the entire process. Then when it's finally time, let her feel like she's in control. She'll be more relaxed and trusting if she feels like she's a part of the orchestration. So have her look back at you. Give her a few reassuring looks and nods and such. Have her spread her ass cheeks for you...it's exciting. And then again, take your time. Go in slowly...don't start pumping like a mad man. In fact, once you get all the way in hold still for a bit. Let her adjust...and let her muscles back there mold to your cock. It'll be a great sensation for the both of you. Slow, long strokes are much better than a series of quick pumps, especially this first time around. As time goes on and anal is something you want regularly, invest in a butt plug. These help immensely in reducing resistance. Have her wear it for a period of time throughout the day, and she'll be ready when you're ready.
Approach anal with caution. It isn't one of those things you can just go in and do like you see in porn. It takes time, preparation, and trust. If she feels the least bit uncomfortable, it won't be an enjoyable experience for either of you. And as Nikki said, anal isn't for everyone. That's why communication is important. If she says she doesn't like it, then that's it. If she doesn't like a finger, she won't like a toy, and if she doesn't like a toy, chances are she won't like your cock. It's up to you to make this a great experience for her. I know that's a lot of pressure. But if you're willing to invest the time, control, and patience, it'll be well worth it.
Happy humping!
All very good info ,and right on the dial.
But i would like to add
You have to understand there is two muscles and one has its own involuntary spasm. It is not controlled by us and cant not be relaxed if the body isn't ready,that is why all the prep is needed and even then, it may take multiple times to go through this process until she is ready. Don't rush it.
Secondly when you do get to the stage of her wanting and able to take you in, get her to push out, this will allow herself to open up more.
Hope this helps a little.
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Although some may disagree with me here, my suggestion is desensitizing anal lube. But still use all the precautions; just because she's numbed doesn't mean you should jack hammer her in the ass, you can still cause damage.
She should first try smaller toys beforehand to loosen a little...and there's no such thing as too much lube, whatever kind of lube it is
I've used the numbing lube quite a bit and never had any 'injuries' for lack of a better word. Tears can still happen, so like I said, be slow and gentle and read her body language to know whether or not you should start to go a little faster.
She'll still be able to feel your cock in there, but it takes away the pain (for me anyway). And it depends on the cock too; a smaller cock wouldn't hurt as much as a bigger one.
She should first try smaller toys beforehand to loosen a little...and there's no such thing as too much lube, whatever kind of lube it is
I've used the numbing lube quite a bit and never had any 'injuries' for lack of a better word. Tears can still happen, so like I said, be slow and gentle and read her body language to know whether or not you should start to go a little faster.
She'll still be able to feel your cock in there, but it takes away the pain (for me anyway). And it depends on the cock too; a smaller cock wouldn't hurt as much as a bigger one.
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