So, if you are out at a bar, party etc, and you see a guy that you are attracted to... Do you approach him? Or do you prefer him to come up to you?
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Predator or Prey?
Quote by Necho
I like being approached!
I must admit, I love the whole 'being approached' and sussing each other out part, its really the only reason I go to clubs, not much of a dancer or drinker. Its funny to see what a guys 'game plan' is.
Yeah, I think all girls like being approached. (Wait now and someone will respond saying "That's not true! I approached my husband and blah blah blah...) Okay. Most women like being approached.
Unfortunately most guys like to be approached as well. I love it. It eliminates all question of whether the girl is into you or not. I can't even remember the last time I approached a girl at a bar. However, I have noticed that really good looking women rarely approach guys.
Quote by eroticwriter26
I like being approached for two reasons. One that I like a man who is forward, who has no problems saying or showing that he's interested. Two I'm incredibly shy in person, so the idea of approaching a man I'm interested in is really scary for me.
Welcome to our world! Its horrifying. Especially after approaching a girl and having her tell you to "fuck off" before you even say a word. That's why I prefer to be approached.
Alpha Blonde
Typically I prefer a guy to approach me, but I will definitely make it easier on him by establishing flirty eye contact and a few smiles first. I'm overt enough with it that he always know that I'd welcome his attentions if he crosses the space between us to introduce himself.
The only issue with this is that when you send out the "flirty energy", the man almost always responds, and then its up to you to determine if he is actually single...LOL... I have done this a few times, and ended up accidentally catching the married/attached ones, that come over regardless. These days you often have to ask up front to qualify their single status unfortunately... assumptions can't be made if you start flirting first.
I can probably count on one hand the number of times I've approached a guy myself... (and those times have been after I've had a few to drink). I'm not sure why I don't make it habit. I don't consider myself a shy person at all, but somehow its been ingrained in me that the man is supposed to be the one taking that long, brave walk across the bar.. LOL.
The only issue with this is that when you send out the "flirty energy", the man almost always responds, and then its up to you to determine if he is actually single...LOL... I have done this a few times, and ended up accidentally catching the married/attached ones, that come over regardless. These days you often have to ask up front to qualify their single status unfortunately... assumptions can't be made if you start flirting first.
I can probably count on one hand the number of times I've approached a guy myself... (and those times have been after I've had a few to drink). I'm not sure why I don't make it habit. I don't consider myself a shy person at all, but somehow its been ingrained in me that the man is supposed to be the one taking that long, brave walk across the bar.. LOL.
Artistic Tart
Quote by DamonX
I figured I would post a new topic to divert some of the animosity from the other threads.
So, if you are out at a bar, party etc, and you see a guy that you are attracted to... Do you approach him? Or do you prefer him to come up to you?
I have never really approached a guy, but I can make it damn obvious that I want to see more of him. I like that part of it, looking at him, walking by a certain way. It's a game that is fun to play.
I have to approach guys in my job so I really dont have any interest in approaching guys outside of that.
Active Ink Slinger
Quote by Necho
Okay, you know whats really sexy.
When you have a little flirting session before he actually approaches you.
Oh do I ever agree there. It builds up suspense. Kind of like waiting to unwrap that one gift under the tree!
Most women, at least that I know, love to be approached and pursued. Is that not true in most of the animal kingdom.
But at the same time, if smiles and eye contact does not send the signal that I would be receptive to his approach, I have not problem making the first move. An opportunity lost is lost forever.
But at the same time, if smiles and eye contact does not send the signal that I would be receptive to his approach, I have not problem making the first move. An opportunity lost is lost forever.
Active Ink Slinger
Well I like to hunt down my men when I'm a bit buzzed, I'm bolder. But I love when guys come up to me. There are those who stutter, blush, and those who have there approach all thought out until you say one thing and they're completely thrown off their stool. And of course there are the guys that just make me swoon!
Lollipop Girl
I have always been too shy to go up to another guy...
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Sassy
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Active Ink Slinger
They aways come to me i never go to them
Empress of the Moon
I like being approached, but there are ways to encourage men to approach.
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Cock Connoisseur
I am definitely more prey then predator. But with a little liquid courage, okay maybe ALOT of it, I might be inclined to approach first.
Internet Philosopher
I love having a woman give me that little half smile when we make eye contact. It isn't hard to spot when she's receptive. I prefer to be the one who crosses the room first and I don't mind taking the risk of rejection but whether or not the male is in truth the preditor I remain unconvinced. There are roles to be played in the game and it is usually the woman who decides how far the game will be played. That doesn't seem like being the prey to me...
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Active Ink Slinger
I'm so used to being approached, and while it's nice- I like the thrill of being the one to approach a guy I'm into just because it's usually unexpected for a girl to make the first moves. I like being in control at times, but not too dominant. I want the man to flip the tables once my work is done and show me what kind of man he really is.
