Quote by Nikki703
Smoke and Mirrors? Sounds like the start of a great party!!!
Quote by funnyguy
Well to all of the ladies of lush i just want to say sorry on behave of all the guys i know most of you girls out the are being harrased to just get in a private chat and noticed most of you tend to avoid the chat rooms all the time just remember not all guys are like that.
now will the ladies of lush forgive the guys or try and give the nice guys a change
Quote by Kinkme
I personally have found this to be a very confusing line to walk sometimes. Many of the women of lush, as in life in general I guess, are sometimes very difficult to "read." Some want to "talk," and be intelectually stimulated, and others expect to be bent over their chair right now and taken! We, as men, have approximately 3 black boxes to figure this out and get it right before we are either labeled arrogant pricks, or boring nice guys! And heaven forbid we accidentally stumble on a woman listed as "Bisexual"...inferred that she may be open to chatting with either sex about items in her profile, who is actually a full blown lesbian and HATES all men with a passion! Yes they are here.
Bio's are sometimes helpful, but sometimes I'm convinced someone else wrote them! It's stressful being a REAL "nice guy who also likes some horny talk with a great lady too once in a while" on lush i've found.
Glad this came up. Am I alone?
DJ
Quote by funnyguy
Well to all of the ladies of lush i just want to say sorry on behave of all the guys i know most of you girls out the are being harrased to just get in a private chat and noticed most of you tend to avoid the chat rooms all the time just remember not all guys are like that.
now will the ladies of lush forgive the guys or try and give the nice guys a change
Quote by Dancing_Doll
I don't do random online chats anymore but when I first joined Lush I did a few. It's easy to reject the obvious "R U horny" type conversation-starters and for the record guys should strive to avoid this, especially in the first few black boxes. The only time these openers work is if one is posing as a 19 yr old lesbian supermodel and is looking to chat up someone with a similar profile. I've found the lesbian supermodels on here to be pretty sexually aggressive.
There is another type of guy though - the 'nice guy' as you call him that is pretty hapless with conversation starters as well. While I used to be more open returning blackboxes initially, I was amazed at how many men use this bizarre self-deprecating "woe is me, I'm such a nice guy and girls pass me over for assholes. I'm not very confident and I'm painfully shy. I can't get dates, my college girlfriend just dumped me, I'm so sad, blah blah". I think the point is - even if these things are true - don't lead with them. Nobody wants to be a psychological dumping ground for a stranger's problems right after you say hello.
Girls like confidence, witty conversation, a clever sense of humour, a bit of sarcasm, and conversation that is FUN. That will land you the hook that *might* get you further if you play the game right. If you're not making her smile, you're not going to get her panties wet... that's the best advice I can give.
If someone is looking for fast-cyber, then I think the chatrooms are your best bet, although I haven't really done that scene so I'm more just assuming.
It's not hard - but you gotta know your target audience. Read her profile and figure out the type of person she is. If she's a writer and has a semi-conservative bio, you're probably not going to get anywhere with a sexually aggressive approach. If her bio says "I'm a whore-nee fuckslut that wants 2 get banged all da time!" then you can probably move things along a little faster to the 'what are you wearing right now' stage.
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
Quote by BigShyPussyKins
I only joined the other day and instantly got bombared with requests from men! Some I accepted, some I didn't. Some of those I accepted I have to be honest and say I'm not 100% sure about :/ I'm kinda embarrased about joining still and have almost deleted my account. I joined to make friends as much as anything else and to explore the inner me which I don't let out in public.
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
Quote by sprite
you really do have 3 black boxes to impress me. btw, i don't do cyber here, but i do converse. if, by the third box i'm bored, i'll start looking for an excuse to say 'later'. don't use 'lines' on me. don't ask me about the weather. say something witty or original or creative or interesting. read my bio first, figure out what we have in common. don't ask me about the weather, tell me you are horny, or just lead with 'wanna chat?'
oh, and don't cal me "babe".
Quote by sprite
the new girls always get a lot of attention - when i first joined i could barely do anything cause of all the Black Boxes. it slows down with time - also, i keep my status on 'away' to hide a little - i have a regular group of friends that i talk to and they know that if they send me a BB and i'm around, i'll reply. strangers, it all depends on what they send, tho.
Quote by lafayettemister
Hey Babe, let's sneak off behind the trees and have a quick fuck to work up a nice sweat in this blazing weather. And keep your mouth shut, we aren't going back there to chat. Just to satisfy my horny needs. Got it? Good. You lead so I can watch your ass while you walk.
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
Quote by sprite
and they wonder why i only date girl?
Quote by Kinkme
I personally have found this to be a very confusing line to walk sometimes. Many of the women of lush, as in life in general I guess, are sometimes very difficult to "read." Some want to "talk," and be intelectually stimulated, and others expect to be bent over their chair right now and taken! We, as men, have approximately 3 black boxes to figure this out and get it right before we are either labeled arrogant pricks, or boring nice guys! And heaven forbid we accidentally stumble on a woman listed as "Bisexual"...inferred that she may be open to chatting with either sex about items in her profile, who is actually a full blown lesbian and HATES all men with a passion! Yes they are here.
Bio's are sometimes helpful, but sometimes I'm convinced someone else wrote them! It's stressful being a REAL "nice guy who also likes some horny talk with a great lady too once in a while" on lush i've found.
Glad this came up. Am I alone?
DJ
Quote by overmykneenow
Once you've read a profile though, three black boxes is usually more than enough to de-cypher what personality type you're dealing with.
To be honest, if you haven't got a conversation going by box three it's only ever going to be hard work for either you.
It has to be remembered that most people do actually come here to engage with other people and not block conversation because they get some kind of kick out of it.
PS The type of "Bisexual" lushers you refer to are usually men faking it anyway.
Quote by lafayettemisterl
Who said anything about dating? That's too long term. I'm talking about 10-15 minutes, tops, of your time.
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
Quote by BigShyPussyKins
I only joined the other day and instantly got bombared with requests from men! Some I accepted, some I didn't. Some of those I accepted I have to be honest and say I'm not 100% sure about :/ I'm kinda embarrased about joining still and have almost deleted my account. I joined to make friends as much as anything else and to explore the inner me which I don't let out in public.
Quote by crazydiamond
You deciphered me after 3 boxes! BOLLOCKS!
You are still deciphering me ;)
Quote by crazydiamond
You are still deciphering me ;)
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
Quote by overmykneenow
I believe the conversation went thus....
Quote by overmykneenow
Have a great time on Lush, you probably won't find what you think you're looking for but you might discover something even better.
Quote by overmykneenow
The thing about messages and BBs is that this isn't work and you won't get in trouble if you don't reply to them - let them slide.
Friends requests to my knowledge, don't expire; if you're not sure you want to add someone just let it sit in your requests inbox until you do decide. ANd if you add someone and decide it wasn't a good idea block+delete is very satisfying.
Relax and enjoy your time on here and don't feel pressured by the attention you get (however well intentioned it may be). It's a bit of a tired lush cliche but it's also very true: you're here for your enjoyment, not anyone else's!
Have a great time on Lush, you probably won't find what you think you're looking for but you might discover something even better.
just like sometimes girls are princesses,and bitches. 
It's awesome when people apologise for things they are sorry about, but I also hope they don't feel guilty for things that aren't their fault, or assume everybody else will think they are guilty because they have a willy too (or a pussy, or whatever).
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Quote by Dudealicious
Please speak for yourself, I have never harrassed any woman on Lush so I am not sure why you would apologize on behalf of me. But I appreciate you reaching out to the women of Lush. There are some great guys here, but thanks for snowballing us.
Cheers!
