This shouldn't have to be said in multiple threads throughout the site: If you have a personal issue with someone, take it up in private.
The OP asked if anyone has a disfigurement fetish. Either you do or you don't. The browbeating and chest thumping is getting old.
fe·tish
noun \ˈfe-tish also ˈfē-\
: a strong and unusual need or desire for something
: a need or desire for an object, body part, or activity for sexual excitement
: an object that is believed to have magical powers
Just because you don't understand it, it doesn't mean it's wrong. A fetish by definition is an objectification of someone or a particular part of their body. As Ashleigh said above me, who gives a flying fart in space what two consenting adults are into? There are women and people in general who don't mind being objectified. Just because you personally wouldn't be into it doesn't make it wrong. Shit.
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I really wish I hadn't read this thread ... *sighs* All it did was get me pissed of at certain members.
As far as the OP goes ... I know of the butterface fetish, but I don't know many with it, but a girl friend of mine has a butisface fetish ... Her man's built like a brick shithouse, but has a damn ugly face. But I ain't hating. I've had a couple exes like that, too.
I always say it takes all kinds of parts to make a ship stay afloat, and not one of em works the same as another. We've all got out kinks, be it spankings, tickling, BDSM or disfiguration. To each their own!
"Good writing is supposed to evoke sensation in the reader - not the fact that it is raining, but the feeling of being rained upon." -E.L. Doctorow
I don't have a major issue with the "butterface" fetish. If a guy likes a chick with a smoking body, But-'er-face... that's his prerogative. I think the issue that may arise from someone having this particular fetish is thinking that a guy is doing a "butterface" a favor by sleeping with her.
It's really no different than someone being a "chubby chaser" or into "midget" porn or being a size queen. The problem comes about because the focus and naming of some fetishes is on a negative aspect of a person. So it tends to bring up body and emotional issues.
All of us have needs. I knew a guy that was into "big" women because he said they were better in bed. Said they'd do more to satisfy him than "skinny chicks" who thought it was his honor that he got to fuck them. Sadly, there may be some truth to that, and it could easily apply to "butterface" women (and men). A woman that isn't the best looking woman but has a slamming body may use her best asset to get a man/bf/husband. If she's great in the sack, willing to fulfill all his (whoever he may be) desires, maybe he'll stick around longer. Or she may dress provocatively, showing off her curves and body in order to attract a lover.
We all do that to some degree. Not much different than a guy with a little dick being a master pussy licker/eater. He knows he may not be able to fuck her hard and deep, so he'll make damn sure he eats her out like a champ. No different than a wealthy butterface or overweight dude that spoils his gf/wife with stuff. His money is his best asset so that's what he uses to his advantage. How else can anyone describe some ugly dude like Jeff Garcia dating hot Playboy bunnies.
My first exposure to butterfaces was the Howard Stern show. I always felt so horrible for the women in his Butterface Beauty Pageant. These poor women would come out in bikinis, smoking bodies, but with paper bags over their heads. The "panel" would say how hot their bodies were, until they took off the paper bags. Then the panel would gasp and torment them for being so ugly. Those poor women would be so down and out in life that they'd humiliate themselves just to win whatever monetary prize for "winning". And to win you'd have to have a great body but the ugliest face. How brutal.
Butterface fetish as liking a woman whose face isn't as "hot" as her body... yeah okay. If that's what turns you on, fine.
Butterface as a way to demean, ridicule, or humiliate a woman? Nah, that's just being an asshole.
When the debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the loser. Socrates I hadn't heard of 'butterface' until this thread - the phrase I was familiar with was BOBFOC - Body off Baywatch, Face off Crimewatch...
People make sweeping generalisations all the time, snap judgments, decisions based upon experience or desire - the OP is entitled to his "fetish" and who are we to judge? Sometimes I think that these phrases are really just abbreviations that help us to express how we feel, without having to go into great detail about what they are - for example, I might say that I like a guy who looks hispanic - you would know that in saying that, what I meant was tanned skin, dark eyes and hair, without me having to explain that fully. Or Nordic might be your thing - tall, fair, pale eyes - it doesn't mean that everyone looks that way, but we understand what they mean by that.
So, butterface/buthisface simply lets us know that the OP prefers someone with a great body, but a less attractive (to him) face - I do think that his initial example was rather extreme, but it certainly raised some hackles while getting his point across, didn't it? Maybe he has issues about his own looks - would be scared to "punch above his weight" looks wise - in making a choice for someone who would be considered less attractive than him, perhaps he thinks he would be guaranteeing her faithfulness to him - that she would be his and not stray, that no man would want her? Of course, I believe that DD has posted about this in some detail (and artiiculated it WAY better than I ever could) in other threads...
Sure, this thread descended into a bit of a mud-slinging match, which is a pity, because it's actually quite an interesting premise that could have (or perhaps still could) have led to an interesting and serious debate about the things we like...
It's not a fetish by any means, but to give you an example, I think it's adorable when people have their two top incisors a little lower than the rest (I don't mean like rabbit teeth or anything lol, that would be a fetish all on its own hahah) - just something that I notice and think is cute as fuck. Dimples, I LOVE dimples when someone smiles... Sooooo adorable!! And while neither of these things are necessary in a potential partner, I do notice them and like them....
Anyway, all I really have to add to the debate is, thank goodness we all have our own specific tastes - otherwise some of us would never find a partner...
Vive la difference!
butterfaces are normally sluts. Which one reason I like them haha
I wish I didn't click on this I truly do
I am hey whatever makes you happy..enjoy go for it
but the picture of that woman who was born with a awful facial deformity
that upset me...
and I seriously doubt YOU are all that
if you feel the need to degrade a woman
to make yourself better then you are a sad sad man
disturbing is THE word
I wonder if this topic hits a little too close to home for some of the more fired up chicks in this thread.
actually felix having been told all my life I have a beautiful face ....no it didn't
I got upset for the picture he posted of a woman with the facial deformity
not his fetish... only the way he said it
some people do value beauty over substance
having read all the posts
I do think even me did perhaps got upset over what is actually a very honest post
some men do value the body over anything else..perhaps some women
so maybe we all including MYSELF need to look within
we all can be a bit superficial at times
me I am a brain and humor snob
if you looked like Bradley Cooper and couldn't make me laugh I wouldn't give you the time of the day
so after reading all of this
perhaps I looked within..a bit..more
There was a girl in high school everyone thought was ugly. A few years later, I was out her way,(she lived in the boonies). I was working on a neighbors place. She walked by wearing super short, shorts. I had always admired her body. I called her over. After a few minutes of talk, she invited me to come over when I was finished with my work. I went over, she handed me a mason jar full of clear heat. This woman fucked the hell out of me and we never once stepped in the house. We spent several hours on the back porch and I was still drunk!
