I posted a question on the "Ask the gals" of "would you date a garbage man?" For some women that might not be a problem but for many that would be deal breaker.
(What woman wants to boast she is dating a garbage man? )
However, not woman admitted it would be a problem for her. I got accused of being a snob, one woman even suggested I see a therapist!
So, guys have you ever been dumped because your girl found another guy, A guy who drove a better car, had a better paying or higher status job than you?
Surely I am not alone in this experience.
Absolutely. I have both been passed by and been dumped by women over my financial status.
I think it says more about them than me.
Not so much dumped, but rejected at the start.
Not properly 'dumped', but my 2nd girlfriend and I concertedly split up soon after she finished her university scholarship. The dynamic of our relationship drastically changed from me earning $16/hour at a warehouse job and her being a broke student living with her parents, to me still not having a proper diploma and her earning $30/hour. Our respective situations/ambitions suddenly weren't all that compatible anymore, so we mutually agreed to let the relationship go after 2-1/2 years.
A vaguely similar scenario occurred with my 3rd girlfriend, although the both of us more or less perceived our relationship as an informal/temporary thing from the start anyway; it was more of a casual 'exclusive fuck-buddy' type of deal which didn't last for much more than a year. I only got a proper diploma and a proper job at around 30-year-old by the way, so my current girlfriend is pretty much the first with whom I have genuine ambitions of settling down seriously.
A guy's job/status most definitely matters for long-term commitment (especially if kids are on the horizon), although from my personal experience I'd say that it has little to no impact for casual flings. Crude/risky/physical jobs or hazy ambitions can even work toward the whole 'bad boy' demeanor. Attributes that make for a 'great provider' or a 'great lover' can be vastly different (and even contradictory)... hence the widespread stereotype of the lawyer's wife cheating with the milkman or plumber.
MONEY ... or the lack of ... often plays into the dynamics of the relationship. And in this day and age, money is apparently most often equated with "job". Sad, but true ... and I can relate personally.
Her is my own personal story. Many, many years ago I went to a club started chatting up a girl. Asked her to dance. She said no. Chatted some more
and asked again. Same answer. Then I said "I have $10,000 credit limit on my credit card (which was true)." Her face lit up. . now she was interested.
Then I said, "You had your chance" and walked away.
Can't say that has ever happened. Guess I'm pretty fortunate that way
I've never had that happen to me but I have felt negative repercussions for a financial situation. In college (i.e. when I was perpetually broke) I dated a girl that was better off than me financially and had tastes for doing things that were quite a bit out of my price range. She paid for me often but never downplayed it, almost kind of holding it over my head. It didn't help that her job as a ski instructor was far more intriguing than my burger-flipping duties. Needless to say it didn't work out but after that experience I could easily imagine a gal dumping her guy because of the size of his wallet or the title on his name-tag although I will say that I believe that most women are above that kind of behavior.
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