Hi guys,
Was just wondering what your views were on this.. I have a 23 year old brother who really likes this girl. She is stunningly beautiful, like a model and is 20. My brother is sleeping with her but only when her and her boyfriend break up. I told him that she is using him and I dont want him to get hurt. He is grinning and saying that he doesnt mind helping her out! The thing is he works with her and her boyfriend and at work pretends that everything is normal. I told him that he will end up falling in love with her and she will choose her boyfriend everytime! I guess I was just wondering, would you guys not get attached to her and see her as belonging to someone else and just enjoy it? I just dont want him getting hurt and I am probably being too overprotective of him!? What do you think?
Hi Emma. Firstly, welcome to Lush.
This is quite a hard question to answer, as, I think it really depends on your brothers persona how he can deal with things emotionally. He may end up getting hurt, he may not. He might know himself that it is only sex with this girl and, who at his age, wouldn't be willing to take a risk about being emotionally hurt by a stunningly beautiful women? But, he may be thinking to himself that this woman will eventually ditch her other half and fall for him.
I think that maybe the best thing to do would be to talk openly to him and see how he feels and if he understands the consequence if this doesn’t work out.
Also, it's always nice to read about family members looking out for each other, so fair play to you on that part.
Your very welcome. I hope it helped a lttle.
The fact that they work together and he acts as if noting is going on tells me he knows exactly what he is doing: Getting a little while the BF isn't looking. Leave him to his musings. It will soon be over and he will be on to the next thing. Further more, he will have a story he can publish here on Lush.
Some have said it already, but the one thing to watch for is the on again off again boyfriend. That type of relationship can be a domestic dispute waiting to happen. I've seen a couple relationships like that, and they all ended badly. Someone is probably going to get hurt, so your brother needs to know when to get out before it blows up in his face. Especially if all these people work together.
I think he knows that this is just sex. But if they are hanging out and doing date-like things, texting, and going out when they're not having sex, then he might have some feelings for her. Also what's your brother like when this model is back with her boyfriend? Is he down? Or is he seeing other girls?
I would also be concerned about the boyfriend's reaction to this because your brother is around both of them a lot.
What exactly is your brother hoping for should be the question. If it's anything other than a taste of forbidden fruit then he is setting himself up for disappointment probably. Even if he ends up with her he ends up with a woman that apparently has no issues with cheating. Then again, who are we to keep him from learning this painful lesson?
Your brother is grown up. You cannot protect him from getting hurt. Let him experience his own life. If he gets hurt, he'll learn something about life.
He is going to get burned and could end up hurting his standing at work. He is being used but I think on some level he knows that. In the end though he will have a good memory and maybe will have learned a valuable lesson. Some people have to burn their hand before learning that a fire is hot.
He will live through it and 10 years from now he will likely be glad he did it. I say leave him to his fate, whatever it may be
Just be there for him when or if he gets dumped! That is all ya can do? He sure will not listen to ya.
Let him have his dream but prepare him for reality just be there
This is something I struggled with my own brother. In the end all you can do is let him live his life the way he wants and just be there for him no matter what happens.
its very much appreciated :) xx
