I keep getting messages from my ex boyfriend asking me to have sex and give him blowjobs. I am not interested AT ALL. And I have told him this time and time again. He just keeps telling me "I'll be in and out, no one has to know.."
How should I tell him to basically "Fuck off!" only nicely? I have a hard time being mean...
thanks guys!!
Rei♥
p.s. I love those new att commercials with the "Charlie and the Chocolate Factory" music... so cute.
haha. anyways.
thanks.
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You might as well tell him to fuck off. Or just simply don't respond to his messages.
I'm just like, always too nice to tell people to fuck off! I recently had the same with my ex and the only options you have is to tell him straight to get bent or just ignore him. If he doesnt get a reponse from you he'l soon get bored and leave you alone.
I had an x that used to always call me too. Until once quite late he called talked to me and I handed the phone to my boyfriend. My boyfriend had a few words with him and voila, no more calls from the sausage.
Show him plenty of apathy, that's the healthiest thing you can do for yourself. At this point, do you really care about him at all? If so, you will continue to converse or communicate with him, and that only encourages him to keep up the banter.
Ignore him, and he'll go away, eventually.
People who carry on and on and on with former partners or spouses are, in fact, still having some type of relationship with that person. And really, if mutually biological children are not involved, there is no reason to keep that thread intact, is there?
It's one thing to remain on friendly terms with a former/ex...I've enjoyed a few former partners...as friends only, with no hint of possible sexual play in our futures. It can be accomplished. But the moment any of 'them' begin to beg, grovel, tease, pester, etc...I cut off communications and they soon drift off to never-never land.
Problem solved.
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I agree with WMM, unless you have kids together, there is no reason to stay friends with exes, unless you are interested in taking the relationship down to a casual sex situation. That doesn't mean you wouldn't be pleasant/friendly if you see them out in public or when mutual friends get together... but if you're in constant contact it's hard to sever the ties. Guys know this too. Many guys will try to keep you "in the emotional bullpen" (as I call it), in case they decide they want to call you up to bat again in the future.
Not sure how your relationship ended, but there is nothing wrong with saying "No, I'm not having sex with you. I've moved on and you should too".
Rayne I'm the same way I'm too damn nice....But I would tell him to leave you alone....
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The nicest thing you can do for him is to completely ignore his messages. If he gets no reaction at all, he'll soon grow tired of trying, like WMM mentioned.
If you keep answering him, you're showing him you still care in some small way. He'll just think if he keeps trying long enough he'll eventually wear you down. Give him no hope at all and he'll move on.
It seems that this isn't going to be a situation where a nice response will work. You can be firm, but not mean.
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Tell him 'No, and this begging you keep doing seals it.'
thank you guys for all the responses!!!
I will definatley take ALL of your advice in mind before I deal with this guy.
Rei♥
Tell him to:
piss off
go to hell
eat shit(oh wait not so nice) but hey that's just me
or I'll suck your dick whe HELL FREEZES OVER!!!!!! and even then not gonna happen.
or like others said just ignore him if smart he might go away then get nasty with him
Personally I would just be straight up blunt with him but then aain I know everyone thinks I am a nice guy but piss me off I can be a mean little motherfucker. LOL
Tell him that your present partner is so great in bed you don't need anyone else. He's the best you have ever had and no past affairs can compare. That may frighten the little prick off.
I tend to be like Lloyd from Dumb and Dumber. If you tell me there's even the smallest chance, I still have hope. So if it was me you were dealing with, I would say, make it absolutely clear that there is no chance. Don't leave any room for hope just to spare feelings. Make sure there is no room for misinterpretation.
"I'll be in and out"? Are you just a device for his pleasure? Dump this loser. You already told him no a few times. Take it to the next step and stop all communication.
IGNORE HIM. If you give him more and more attention and you're thinking too much what you say to him, you were like still on the rush to talk to him even with those simple replies when he message or call you. So if you don't want the person getting false hints, just say nothing and cut off all communications. An ex is an ex, so leave him out in the past.
tell him you have BIGGER and better things to do... some egos are the weakest points
Or you could do what I do with people I don't really want to hear from anymore - I let technology take care of it. I signed up for Google Voice (it takes a while to get the invite, but it's worth it). All you do is give people your google number as your regular number, and then you can forward all the calls to where you want them. You can even record special greetings for each caller ID number.
So, he could just get shunted right into voice mail all the time.
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Ignore him...... (Why did you EVER go out with such a Dick in the first place????:-)!!)
Tell him you are not interested anymore. That you have to move on woth your life and that he should be adult enough to do that as well. You can also mention that if he keeps bothering you that it is in breach of anti stalking laws and you will make a complaint if he doesn't back off & give you some space.
Good Luck.
Its only kinky the first time.
hope everything works out.
