Ok, i never know if this ever posted before.. I'm curious how you guys think..
How would you show that you're serious when approaching a girl?
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Hm, with serious what do you mean?
Do you mean he's not very funny, but a serious type of man.
Or he's seriously trying to lay you down?
Or he's serious in taking you out on three dates, meet your mother, get married, make you pregnant and not leave for the next 18 years of your life?
Or just that he's really into you?
Do you mean he's not very funny, but a serious type of man.
Or he's seriously trying to lay you down?
Or he's serious in taking you out on three dates, meet your mother, get married, make you pregnant and not leave for the next 18 years of your life?
Or just that he's really into you?
Matriarch
I haven't the foggiest idea what question you are actually trying to ask.
Can you write it again so it makes sense please, then you might get some decent replies.
Can you write it again so it makes sense please, then you might get some decent replies.
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Ok, after checking out your profile, I can see that you are still learning the English language, so rather than ridicule you for it, I'll make an attempt to answer you question seriously. Guys go about showing interest in a variety of different ways, and have varying degrees of interest from curiosity to huge crush, and purely sexual to romantic. The one commonality in most approaches is talking. Even the shyest guy will find a way to talk to you if he is interested in you. Now, if he's shy, or coy, he may not actually admit he likes you, but he will go out of his way to talk to you.
I happened to talk with a friend of mine today who was telling me about some of his moves with the women at the gym when he was doing his training. On one instance, he saw a woman training on an exercise bike, and approached her in an assertive yet helpful manner and offered advice on how she could get more out of her workout, since he could tell that she was new to working out. That turned in to a 5 minute conversation, just from him offering one piece of advice. The second situation, he saw a woman doing stretches, specifically the splits. His training for hurdles includes a lot of flexibility training, so he walked over, and jokingly challenged her to see who could do the splits further. Personally, I generally don't go quite as theatrical as he does when it comes women I'm interested in, but I will find things to talk about. School gives a lot of opportunities since there's always a test or an assignment to mention, or ask what she thought about it.
The more he seeks you out, listens to and remembers what you tell him, the more serious his intentions are. If he's just looking for a little fun, he's not going to put in all that effort.
I happened to talk with a friend of mine today who was telling me about some of his moves with the women at the gym when he was doing his training. On one instance, he saw a woman training on an exercise bike, and approached her in an assertive yet helpful manner and offered advice on how she could get more out of her workout, since he could tell that she was new to working out. That turned in to a 5 minute conversation, just from him offering one piece of advice. The second situation, he saw a woman doing stretches, specifically the splits. His training for hurdles includes a lot of flexibility training, so he walked over, and jokingly challenged her to see who could do the splits further. Personally, I generally don't go quite as theatrical as he does when it comes women I'm interested in, but I will find things to talk about. School gives a lot of opportunities since there's always a test or an assignment to mention, or ask what she thought about it.
The more he seeks you out, listens to and remembers what you tell him, the more serious his intentions are. If he's just looking for a little fun, he's not going to put in all that effort.
Wild at Heart
Hold out. Don't have sex with him for a while... like two days at least... Just kidding. Hold out for like a month. That will really help you filter out the guys looking to get laid and the guys that are more serious. Fuck it, hold out longer than a month. If he really likes you for you than he is happy to be spending time with you. Making you laugh, sharing meals, going to the movies, cuddling, kissing, all that good shit. I mean if you have sex too soon he might not get a bond with you and he'll move on. (Unless you're his only option... Look out for those too, that could be a nightmare.) A guy looking to just get laid will get frustrated quick.
Don't wait too long though because then it will be awkward most likely. If your'e gonna hold out a long time, do make sure you don't act like friends all the time because you'll be just that.
So I would say don't rush into sex.
Don't wait too long though because then it will be awkward most likely. If your'e gonna hold out a long time, do make sure you don't act like friends all the time because you'll be just that.
So I would say don't rush into sex.
Wild at Heart
Quote by Jebru
. The second situation, he saw a woman doing stretches, specifically the splits. His training for hurdles includes a lot of flexibility training, so he walked over, and jokingly challenged her to see who could do the splits further.
Your friend sounds like a damn cocksmith! Last time I tried some shit like that I got the 'let me exercise in peace you fucking creep watching me stretch look'. I was embarrassed and ashamed.
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. The second situation, he saw a woman doing stretches, specifically the splits. His training for hurdles includes a lot of flexibility training, so he walked over, and jokingly challenged her to see who could do the splits further.
Your friend sounds like a damn cocksmith! Last time I tried some shit like that I got the 'let me exercise in peace you fucking creep watching me stretch look'. I was embarrassed and ashamed.
Sorry about that Felix, I don't like it when guys stare at my ass when I'm stretching... Can't a girl wear tight white yoga pants rolled down below the hip bone to the gym anymore? Jeez...
Seriously though... I do not recommend your friend's tactics Jebru. I am actually one of those girls that gets super annoyed when guys bug me at the gym with dumb comments like that. That's why I have my ipod buds in my ear at all times and try not to make eye contact with anyone when I'm working out. There is always some guy that thinks the gym is a social free for all, and it's a total turn off. Talking to a girl as she's leaving is fine, but I would discourage any males out there from hitting on women when they are in workout mode or even worse, adjusting your own work-out so that you can stalk her through the gym and stare creepily at her from afar no matter where she is. It's not cool.
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. The second situation, he saw a woman doing stretches, specifically the splits. His training for hurdles includes a lot of flexibility training, so he walked over, and jokingly challenged her to see who could do the splits further.
Your friend sounds like a damn cocksmith! Last time I tried some shit like that I got the 'let me exercise in peace you fucking creep watching me stretch look'. I was embarrassed and ashamed.
Sorry about that Felix, I don't like it when guys stare at my ass when I'm stretching... Can't a girl wear tight white yoga pants rolled down below the hip bone to the gym anymore? Jeez...
Seriously though... I do not recommend your friend's tactics Jebru. I am actually one of those girls that gets super annoyed when guys bug me at the gym with dumb comments like that. That's why I have my ipod buds in my ear at all times and try not to make eye contact with anyone when I'm working out. There is always some guy that thinks the gym is a social free for all, and it's a total turn off. Talking to a girl as she's leaving is fine, but I would discourage any males out there from hitting on women when they are in workout mode or even worse, adjusting your own work-out so that you can stalk her through the gym and stare creepily at her from afar no matter where she is. It's not cool.
I didn't mention him as a suggestion for guys of what to do. It works for him, more because of his confidence, charisma, and the fact he seems to have an innate ability to read what approach will work with a girl. I was mentioning him because he is an extreme, and therefore very clear example of male behaviour, which the thread was asking about. A demonstration that guys will try and talk to girls they are interested in, and if they are serious, they will talk more, and also listen.
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I didn't mention him as a suggestion for guys of what to do. It works for him, more because of his confidence, charisma, and the fact he seems to have an innate ability to read what approach will work with a girl. I was mentioning him because he is an extreme, and therefore very clear example of male behaviour, which the thread was asking about. A demonstration that guys will try and talk to girls they are interested in, and if they are serious, they will talk more, and also listen.
If he's having success by picking up and dating women from the gym (and not just succeeding in random conversation because let's face it, we are always going to be basically friendly to these guys because there's nowhere to escape when you're in the middle of a workout), then more power to him. He obviously has that 'rare magnetic appeal'. I was commenting on that approach in general and indulging in some mild threadjacking.
I agree that yes, talking to a girl is a good signal of interest.
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If he's having success by picking up and dating women from the gym (and not just succeeding in random conversation because let's face it, we are always going to be basically friendly to these guys because there's nowhere to escape when you're in the middle of a workout), then more power to him. He obviously has that rare magnetic appeal. I was just commenting on that approach in general and indulging in some mild threadjacking.
Heheh...you were a lot more humane (here) than I was thinking of being, just a few moments ago.
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Quote by WellMadeMaleQuote by Dancing_Doll
If he's having success by picking up and dating women from the gym (and not just succeeding in random conversation because let's face it, we are always going to be basically friendly to these guys because there's nowhere to escape when you're in the middle of a workout), then more power to him. He obviously has that rare magnetic appeal. I was just commenting on that approach in general and indulging in some mild threadjacking.
Heheh...you were a lot more humane (here) than I was thinking of being, just a few moments ago.
I was giving 'the friend' the benefit of the doubt that he was actually able to collect digits (that weren't wrong numbers) from these girls. Who knows, maybe this exceptional and much fabled gym lothario exists out there, and it isn't just defensive stalker chit-chat by a cornered girl.
I'm sure Jebru knows the difference.
Wild at Heart
Quote by Jebru
I didn't mention him as a suggestion for guys of what to do. It works for him, more because of his confidence, charisma, and the fact he seems to have an innate ability to read what approach will work with a girl. I was mentioning him because he is an extreme, and therefore very clear example of male behaviour, which the thread was asking about. A demonstration that guys will try and talk to girls they are interested in, and if they are serious, they will talk more, and also listen.
Is your friend George Clooney? He might get away with challenging girls at the gym to a splits competition...
Also if it's an extreme, how is it a clear example of male behavior Jebru? That's like me saying. "I know this girl who will grab my dick when she has a couple of beers because it works for her every time. This is extreme and a clear example of female behavior."
Some girls like Dancing_Doll make sure to put an extra roll in their yoga pants and do the downward facing dog when hot guys walk in yes, but that is also an extreme and still it might be tough, maybe impossible to challenge her to a splits contest...
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I just found a vid of Jebru's friend:
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I just found a vid of Jebru's friend:
Dayum, after only watching 40 seconds of that, I almost want to fuck him and donate my briefs to his pantie collection.
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Thanks for your comments Jebru! I'm glad you could take time away from your stalkers anonymous meeting to enthral us with your insight into the art of picking up women. 
Oh wait...It was your friend who creepily approaches uninterested women at the gym and locks them into uncomfortable conversations... Because girls lllloooovvvveee that. But I guess since he didn't get outright insulted....Victory! I'm sure he's the toast of the town at the latest Dungeons and Dragons club meeting.
So you have a bud that is unassailable in his romantic attempts...and a cousin, who is apparently the smartest person on earth... any other family members that you want to thrust into the spotlight as the ideal for some desirable quality that you, yourself don't possess? Or would you prefer to continue living vicariously through the supposed achievements of others? They seem to be "intellectual strap-ons" for your own unattainable ideals and a crutch to conceal the withered, flaccid phallus of your own inadequate social skills.
But I digress..... I'm sure that the hot girl doing her post-workout stretching is enthralled by the pudgy, pasty, overly talkative, annoying loser and his insistence on making pointless and irritating conversation. (hint, hint...this is your cue to point out how hot and sexually attractive your "friend" is. )
Perhaps you should go to the gym and try your friend's tactics and post your results. (PS...that is not the only reason you might want to hit up the gym)
Now I'm posting this as merely an observer...I'm positive you have much more insight into the art of picking up women, so I will obviously defer to you on such concerns. As I will defer to you on the art of disposing of the ten year old condom that remains glued to the inner side of your wallet.
But in the meantime, please give all us other losers the advice that has made you such a woman-killing lothario. I'm about to go to the gym,...What was that line again?
Oh wait...It was your friend who creepily approaches uninterested women at the gym and locks them into uncomfortable conversations... Because girls lllloooovvvveee that. But I guess since he didn't get outright insulted....Victory! I'm sure he's the toast of the town at the latest Dungeons and Dragons club meeting.
So you have a bud that is unassailable in his romantic attempts...and a cousin, who is apparently the smartest person on earth... any other family members that you want to thrust into the spotlight as the ideal for some desirable quality that you, yourself don't possess? Or would you prefer to continue living vicariously through the supposed achievements of others? They seem to be "intellectual strap-ons" for your own unattainable ideals and a crutch to conceal the withered, flaccid phallus of your own inadequate social skills.
But I digress..... I'm sure that the hot girl doing her post-workout stretching is enthralled by the pudgy, pasty, overly talkative, annoying loser and his insistence on making pointless and irritating conversation. (hint, hint...this is your cue to point out how hot and sexually attractive your "friend" is. )
Perhaps you should go to the gym and try your friend's tactics and post your results. (PS...that is not the only reason you might want to hit up the gym)
Now I'm posting this as merely an observer...I'm positive you have much more insight into the art of picking up women, so I will obviously defer to you on such concerns. As I will defer to you on the art of disposing of the ten year old condom that remains glued to the inner side of your wallet.
But in the meantime, please give all us other losers the advice that has made you such a woman-killing lothario. I'm about to go to the gym,...What was that line again?
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When did the elephant in the room turn into the cow in the room?
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When did the elephant in the room turn into the cow in the room?
I think it was about around the time that the funny jabs turned into roundhouse swings... You know, in case we all forgot how insecure guys can get, it was a good reminder.
I could have posted pics of people throwing rocks, with giant glass windows behind their backs, but the cow pic was funnier to me.
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I could have posted pics of people throwing rocks, with giant glass windows behind their backs, but the cow pic was funnier to me.
Just curious...isn't it supposed to be a bull in a china shop??? I think I heard that one somewhere...
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I could have posted pics of people throwing rocks, with giant glass windows behind their backs, but the cow pic was funnier to me.
Just curious...isn't it supposed to be a bull in a china shop??? I think I heard that one somewhere...
Yes, Alan. You might notice the horns on the animal in the pic. It is indeed both a bull, and a china shop. ;)
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lol.. sorry for my bad english.. i don't mind corrections.. 
i mean, the guy that really into you.. and not just to get laid or something.. well, i won't say the end will be like spending the rest of our life together, it depends on how you cooperate with each other i guess..
i got the points.. and i agree with what doll say about guys staring and picking up like that.. :p
well.. thanks anyway..
i mean, the guy that really into you.. and not just to get laid or something.. well, i won't say the end will be like spending the rest of our life together, it depends on how you cooperate with each other i guess..
i got the points.. and i agree with what doll say about guys staring and picking up like that.. :p
well.. thanks anyway..
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If the guy is seriously listening to what you have to say, not just looking at you and smiling, and he can repeat a good portion of what you said to him, even the irrelevant parts, he's serious.
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