When you are sex chatting a girl are you really masterbating? What turns you on the most? And what do you say to make her come?
I'm wondering what is your best talk f**k?
Hmm. Well, I learned to write erotica by enjoying sexy chat sessions or phone sex with my girl. It's basically the same thing, you create a mood that is sexually charged. You create a believable illusion of something that your partner (or reader) can connect with and build the tension at an even pace that neither leaves them frustrated or simply bores them. You have to be creative, well spoken and eloquent.
You have to have a dirty mind, but you need to be fun. You need to be able to get into their mind and stroke their imagination in a way that arouses them and makes them want to desperately be where you want them to be. To feel what you want them to feel. You need to get them so worked up that they are willing to set aside what may inhibit them and make them want to be your hands and your fingers for you. You want to be so passionate and so irrestible that they can only listen and whimper and long to come for you.
How you do that is by being a good listener and by being a good and inventive lover. But there is no magic phrase that can turn a woman on. No magic word that will make her come. Life and sex is not for the lazy or weak of spirit.
And do I masturbate during those most intimate conversations? It depends on what we are doing. I will nude, and I will be ready, but I may wait to the end before I try to cum. Sometimes, I will bring myself to orgasm afterward. There are no hard or fast rules.