What is it that lads like about "The Chase"? I once asked a question about being too understanding, and I never got a reply when I questioned this response:
I don't think it's about being too understanding. It's about being too available. There is thing inside humans that makes us naturally bored with things that are too easy or not a challenge. It's more satisfying to make a 3 pointer than a layup. I think this is inherent in every human and it is there with EVERYTHING we do. We like to be challenged. Something about girls that are too clingy, available, helpful etc. pushes me away for some reason. It's just a reaction I can't help.
I like a challenge, but not in relationships. When it comes to getting to know somebody, whether platonically or romantically, I know that it takes time. I would be happy to give that time for somebody I felt I could trust, because it's an investment. For me, there is always something more to know about somebody I care about, or things to excite or challenge them with, and to enjoy together. To my mind, knowing them better would only enhance the fun of being with them (I'm speaking in a non-romantic setting here, as I haven't had a full-on sexual relationship before).
But I have had male friends who just drop the lass once they get the physical stuff they were after. I know some people who got what they wanted from me (various things) that just stopped being in contact with me.
Why? Are most lads like this? All? Only some? What is it about the chasing of a woman that makes it interesting? What is it about when you've finally got the physical thing you were after, that makes you stop? Is it too much hard work to maintain a relationship? Did you find she wasn't as fit as you reckoned once she's got her kit off? Was she crap in bed? Did she moan about sleeping in the wet patch? Did you know her so well by then that you couldn't be arsed, or didn't like her? Or was it just another notch on your tally, and you'll be concentrating on the next trophy?
I'd really like to know, please.
