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Cock Connoisseur
Quote by Mari84
No clue. BDSM I don't do.
May I ask, then why post in here? I can understand if you are curious but your statement does not sound like it comes from a place of curiosity or possible enlightenment.
Constant Gardener
Quote by Mari84
No clue. BDSM I don't do.
Let's play Boss. I'll be your hiring manager and play the part of lifelong Republican. You can be the liberal Democrat who believes that the world is your oyster.
Of course, since I will be the Republican...I will portray the cocksucker who is about to make you wish you were...
What was your safe word again?
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
Detention Seeker
Yes of course there should be it's a Dominants desire often to push limits. Even online that could cause mental harm to a sub.
Big-haired Bitch/Personality Hire
Quote by kyliekained
Yes of course there should be it's a Dominants desire often to push limits even online that can cause mental harm to a sub.
It's a dominant's desire to push limits that can cause mental harm to a sub? And that's OK?
"What is the quality of your intent?" - Thurgood Marshall
Her Royal Spriteness
Quote by slipperywhenwet2012
It's a dominant's desire to push limits that can cause mental harm to a sub? And that's OK?
actually, no. it's not. not ever. that's my stand.
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
Big-haired Bitch/Personality Hire
Quote by roymunson101
My safe word online is......Slipperywhenwet2012 - Online
Oh shit....thats my happy word.
My safe word online is.......shush?
That's it. Forum privileges revoked. Beginning immediately!
I'm sorry you had to see this folks...move along...nothing to see here.
"What is the quality of your intent?" - Thurgood Marshall
Wild at Heart
Quote by roymunson101
My safe word online is......Slipperywhenwet2012 - Online
Oh shit....thats my happy word.
My safe word online is.......shush?
Quote by slipperywhenwet2012
That's it. Forum privileges revoked. Beginning immediately!
I'm sorry you had to see this folks...move along...nothing to see here.
^^^Awwwwwww! This was the cutest, sweetest, thing I have ever read on lush. My heart can't take it. And in the BDSM section no less.
Wild at Heart
Quote by Ravyn
Really? Surely you can do this without those names.
Oh, that was my safe word. Just answering the question.
Detention Seeker
Quote by slipperywhenwet2012
It's a dominant's desire to push limits that can cause mental harm to a sub? And that's OK?
That was my own fault on how it was written I have re-edited to read correctly on what I was meaning. Drinking and forums can be hazardous!
Advanced Wordsmith
May I ask, then why post in here? I can understand if you are curious but your statement does not sound like it comes from a place of curiosity or possible enlightenment.
Good question. I got here through the scroll on the Lush Home page, and was simply curious to discover what question "Safe words online?" meant. And, yes, perhaps my response sounded a little flippant and even disrespectful, which I didn't intend. I was just stating my preference, not trying to disrespect yours.
Advanced Wordsmith
Let's play Boss. I'll be your hiring manager and play the part of lifelong Republican. You can be the liberal Democrat who believes that the world is your oyster.
Of course, since I will be the Republican...I will portray the cocksucker who is about to make you wish you were...
What was your safe word again?
How about "IWISWSOTH?"
As in, "I wish I were someplace other than here."
Empress of the Moon
Quote by slipperywhenwet2012
It's a dominant's desire to push limits that can cause mental harm to a sub? And that's OK?
No. That isn't what was said. You reshaped the sentence to make it suit your agenda. It is the desire of both sub and dom to push limits. We don't want to push the limits beyond the point where it would cause either mental or physical harm. That's why we have safewords.
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Cock Connoisseur
Quote by Mari84
Good question. I got here through the scroll on the Lush Home page, and was simply curious to discover what question "Safe words online?" meant. And, yes, perhaps my response sounded a little flippant and even disrespectful, which I didn't intend. I was just stating my preference, not trying to disrespect yours.
As is your right to do
and I appreciate your clarification. We all have our own kinks and quirks so to speak. One of the greatest things we have, is the power to learn, I personally love knowledge and can't get enough of it. Whether it be the vanilla world or that of the BDSM world, there is always room to learn, anyone who says any differently, is just plain full of shit. 
Big-haired Bitch/Personality Hire
Quote by CoopsRuthie
No. That isn't what was said. You reshaped the sentence to make it suit your agenda. It is the desire of both sub and dom to push limits. We don't want to push the limits beyond the point where it would cause either mental or physical harm. That's why we have safewords.
Incorrect. What I quoted was a typo before being corrected. The poster of the aforementioned comment has since then amended their comment. I quoted what was originally written, which was incorrectly interpreted by me at the time due to the fact that the original comment was typed incorrectly.
Quote by kyliekained
That was my own fault on how it was written I have re-edited to read correctly on what I was meaning. Drinking and forums can be hazardous!
I have no agenda. I reshaped nothing. Read things in their entirety before making assumptions.
"What is the quality of your intent?" - Thurgood Marshall
Empress of the Moon
Quote by slipperywhenwet2012
I have no agenda. I reshaped nothing. Read things in their entirety before making assumptions.
Oddly, I understand what was meant without any correction.
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Big-haired Bitch/Personality Hire
Quote by CoopsRuthie
Oddly, I understand what was meant without any correction.
Umm...congratulations?
"What is the quality of your intent?" - Thurgood Marshall
I prefer safe words, both on and offline, to be words that are easy to remember but not odd or that would sound strange when used. I prefer them to be able to be worked into responses naturally, and not just a random word. So "mercy" would be good as long as that is not a word the sub uses regularly. Or maybe, using a similar word but in another language. Kind of how they train dogs using German commands. It is so that the use of the word in normal conversation does not confuse the intent of the command. I am NOT saying subs are dogs though or being trained, only using that as an example.
I just like the interaction to go smoothly and have a flow not interrupted by tossing out something that sounds like a random word. But that is just me.
As for Masters always wanting to push things to the point of harm, or might cause harm, etc. I understand the concept but IMO a good Master/Dom knows when to stop. Yes, they do push, but not for the reasons many might think. It should always be for the benefit of the sub. To help them expand, to help them grow, to help them gain pleasure, etc. A Master/Dom should not simply be a dominant person wanting to bully and control another for their own pleasure. It is a GIFT they give as much as a sub's gift of submission to them.
Also, safe words should never be used when the sub is simply uncomfortable with something. They should not be used as a default to disobey the Master/Dom. I know this should not have to be said, but frankly many times it needs to be. It is the emergency break in actions, not the cruise control or standard break. A good D/s relationship will recognize boundaries and how the other is feeling and reacting to things being said and done. And IMO the safe word should seldom to ever be NEEDED, even if the sub does not want to obey or feels extremely bad about what is happening. The Master/Dom should know their sub and how far to push each time they do push. The process for expanding and pushing boundaries should be gradual and in small steps.
I just like the interaction to go smoothly and have a flow not interrupted by tossing out something that sounds like a random word. But that is just me.
As for Masters always wanting to push things to the point of harm, or might cause harm, etc. I understand the concept but IMO a good Master/Dom knows when to stop. Yes, they do push, but not for the reasons many might think. It should always be for the benefit of the sub. To help them expand, to help them grow, to help them gain pleasure, etc. A Master/Dom should not simply be a dominant person wanting to bully and control another for their own pleasure. It is a GIFT they give as much as a sub's gift of submission to them.
Also, safe words should never be used when the sub is simply uncomfortable with something. They should not be used as a default to disobey the Master/Dom. I know this should not have to be said, but frankly many times it needs to be. It is the emergency break in actions, not the cruise control or standard break. A good D/s relationship will recognize boundaries and how the other is feeling and reacting to things being said and done. And IMO the safe word should seldom to ever be NEEDED, even if the sub does not want to obey or feels extremely bad about what is happening. The Master/Dom should know their sub and how far to push each time they do push. The process for expanding and pushing boundaries should be gradual and in small steps.
Wild at Heart
Quote by JohnC
Also, safe words should never be used when the sub is simply uncomfortable with something. They should not be used as a default to disobey the Master/Dom. I know this should not have to be said, but frankly many times it needs to be.
And IMO the safe word should seldom to ever be NEEDED, even if the sub does not want to obey or feels extremely bad about what is happening.
What...
You keep going even when they feel extremely bad about what is happening?
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Sarcastic Coffee Aficionado
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Quote by JohnC
Also, safe words should never be used when the sub is simply uncomfortable with something. They should not be used as a default to disobey the Master/Dom. I know this should not have to be said, but frankly many times it needs to be.
And IMO the safe word should seldom to ever be NEEDED, even if the sub does not want to obey or feels extremely bad about what is happening.
What...
You keep going even when they feel extremely bad about what is happening?
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My sentiments exactly, Felix ...
Constant Gardener
Quote by PersonalAssistant
My sentiments exactly, Felix ...
Felix reminds me of a former Kansas City Royal phenom - Clint Hurdle...now a MLB manager. Clint was always swinging for the fences...and 98% of the time he managed to pop out, or top a pitch and bounce a grounder to an infielder for a convenient double play - effectively ending an inning or a rally.
But every once in awhile - he'd connect and knock the fucking horsehide off the ball of twine.
Hurdle has become a pretty good manager, I'm not implying that Jack will or is - but he has potential.
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
Wild at Heart
Quote by WellMadeMale
Felix reminds me of a former Kansas City Royal phenom - Clint Hurdle
Wellmademale reminds me of the Boston Redsox's 100 year old batboy.
Quote by Magical_felix
What...
You keep going even when they feel extremely bad about what is happening?
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I never once said it was about SEX. And your quote was taken out of context anyways. The sentence directly following what you quoted clears up a lot.
But I have to say that the acts as well as relationship between a Dom and sub consist of many things that have little to do with sex, or sometimes not sexual at all. What makes someone uncomfortable can be a wide range of things, even simply expressing feelings or views on things. I would never anyone nor advocate it. And I think most members understand that and understood fully what I was saying. If not, I am sure this post clears it up.
I have to post this. I am extremely insulted that things I posted were taken completely out of context and insinuated that I someone or advocate it. If anyone reads what I actually wrote, ALL OF IT, it is clear that control, understanding, and caring is to be used at all times. You can take a sentence here and a sentence there, and make it look like someone is saying darn near anything you want, but that does not mean that is what they said or meant.... when taking in full context. is NOT a part of legitimate D/s relationships... EVER. Period.
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[sure, to an extant, it's RP,]
Not quite sure what an upper class English accent has to do with this but OK.
[sure, to an extant, it's RP,]
Not quite sure what an upper class English accent has to do with this but OK.
Big-haired Bitch/Personality Hire
Quote by JohnC
I have to post this. I am extremely insulted that things I posted were taken completely out of context
Welcome to the internet. I'm Dani. Nice to meet you.
"What is the quality of your intent?" - Thurgood Marshall