What is real D/s?

7 Nov 2016

I've tried in rl I'll be honest my husband is not a true Dom. I've had two here one was playing, I was hurt and even lost friends because of them. The other is absolutely amazing.I know what my responsibility is as a sub and he takes his as a Master very serious. I've also been befriended and pulled under the wing some wonderful people not just Doms but great men. They look out for me always just silently in the background. They will call me out if I need it and Master is not around (hey I'm not perfect) more importantly I know emotionally they are there for me if I ever need them. I've met some here who are only in it for the rp to take advantage of the person without the emotional responsibility of what comes later. I also have friends off lush who are both Doms and subs. i can always go to them for anything I may need.

My Anti-Valentine Entry 💔

https://www.lushstories.com/stories/cheating/a-valentines-date-to-remember

My first EP and a top ten from the Pride Competition
https://www.lushstories.com/stories/lesbian/-love-is-love-.aspx

Hanging in the background but around

7 Nov 2016

Quote by Master_Jonathan
And might I add the same is true from my side as well. There are a lot of "submissive" women on this site, however very few of them know what the name entails. Nor would they, when pressed into service, find the idea of submission as appetizing as their fantasy role is. It takes a strong woman to yield herself and kneel before a man. While the idea of being a submissive is romantic to them, the reality is that they just cannot bear the idea.

i'll be the first to say that i am not a part of the lifestyle - so my opinion may not amount to much. i have been rather intrigued by BDSM and hold a great amount of respect for it. i'm glad to see that you have addressed the role of a sub. all too often they are left out of the conversation when discussing faux members of the community. for every ill intentioned Dom, there's a sub to match. too many on both sides come in with romanticized notions and quickly want to jump in head first. why does it seem that not many want to admit they are a novice in this arena?

admittedly, my only experience in observing BDSM has been here on lush. in that time i've seen the actions of some subs/slaves be just as detrimental to a relationship. often the Dom/Dommes get called out for their behavior because they are seen as being 'in charge'. however, from all that i've gathered in my research - subs/slaves hold just as much power, if not more. so, it only makes sense that they be held accountable as well.

as many have so rightly stated, there is no right or wrong when it comes to any type of relationship. you enter as a partnership and it is up to you two, or however many, to decide the perimeters of said relationship. each person is 100% responsible for making it work.

Say. Her. Name.