So I have recently become obsessed with reading erotica. Specially BDSM. I have always been in relationships that had me making all the moves to get things started. I am tired of that and realize I want to give myself over to someone, for them to tell me what to do or what I can't do it. It makes me so hot and wet just thinking about it.
I am married but would like to try some more kinky stuff like nipple clamps, floggers etc. to start. Since my partner has never used these toys I am not really comfortable with an amateur using these on me. It is kinda like anal sex, one bad experience with a man that doesn't know what he is doing and you will never want it again but doing it with someone experienced and you won't want to stop.
So where do I start? hopefully someone is more familiar with Canada sites etc as well.
thanks I enjoyed the read now if I could only find someone to introduce me to a Dom in my area to show me the ropes... pardon the pun.
Jump around Lush enough and you'll find Dom(mes) around every corner. Being only a dabbler, I can't give you much advice, but one thing that I'm sure most will agree with me on is that trust is a big thing. Make sure you trust whomever is dominating you, for without trust there can be no fun.
They don't really approve of linking to other sites here in the lush forums, but I will suggest that you consider joining FL if you haven't already. It is, so far as I can tell, the best Internet BDSM community around. I say that because its focus is NOT on matchmaking or anything of the sort. It's a way you can connect with your local BDSM community, and by doing that you stand the best chance of finding the dom you seek.
Anyone who doesn't recognize the site from those initials can PM me and I'll give you the full name.
thanks Sensei. I believe I found it.
I'd suggest buying your own items and testing them on yourself. Get quality "tools" not cheap knockoffs. Butterfly nipple clamps, for example, not those alligator clips things. Try them on yourself to see what works for you, for how long, etc. There are plenty of websites offering tips and advice on usage, so do some research, then experiment on yourself so you'll know what to expect and what your levels/pleasure is all about.
