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Thank you for your advice . I will have a look around for a chat room with a few people in to start with and see how I go from there.
yeah, that's the other thing - the bigger the crowd, the faster the conversation goes and the easier it is to simply get lost - also, make sure you click on the name of someone you are addressing, so they are aware that you're talking to them - their name shows up as red - that's my que, when i chat, the someone is talking to me, since i never have the sound on my computer (it annoys me AND the cats, quite frankyly, to keep hearing chirps and stuff).
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
Lush chat is different than how I came to know chat (think 20 years ago) where it was an open room - your talk to the group and they'd talk to you.
In lush things lean heavily toward one on one - When you enter and talk to the room, people will question 'do you know how lush chat works?'
People tend I hover and lurk while off reading (etc). It's a hangout hub rather than a traditional chat room (as in: everyone talks to everyone). So mkst of the time people are waiting for someone to say hi directly to them I they get the chime. Or, people spend a lot of time whispering and not paying attention otherwise
Also - people ping in and out like crazy. It has a high turnover rate.
Further - when I do say hi and try to engage everyone, someone will get annoyed as if I'm being a pest.
It's messy, really. I tend to get into conversations with a few different people and find myself frustrated that I can't 'says to' more than one ID.
In lush things lean heavily toward one on one - When you enter and talk to the room, people will question 'do you know how lush chat works?'
People tend I hover and lurk while off reading (etc). It's a hangout hub rather than a traditional chat room (as in: everyone talks to everyone). So mkst of the time people are waiting for someone to say hi directly to them I they get the chime. Or, people spend a lot of time whispering and not paying attention otherwise
Also - people ping in and out like crazy. It has a high turnover rate.
Further - when I do say hi and try to engage everyone, someone will get annoyed as if I'm being a pest.
It's messy, really. I tend to get into conversations with a few different people and find myself frustrated that I can't 'says to' more than one ID.
Don't fell bad John I've been a member for 3 days now had about the same thing go on this morning in one of the chat rooms I did manage to chat with one female but I guess I was either suppose to be speaking dirty or something like that I asked this woman where she was from she asked me the same it was short and sweet before I was interrupted by another male member so I just sat in the room while plugging some pedals up to my amp to play guitar.
Latter on I noticed a moderator was checking my profile as if I were up to no good or something.
As its been mentioned the chats here are not like AOL or IRC I've concluded I'm not welcome in the chat rooms and will likely just avoid using them all together from all that I can tell the problem is that too many guys want to get on bugging woman to I.M. with them so they can try to talk them into cyber sex and the like I to went in to all the chat rooms and said hello to everyone no rely so no big deal to me.
Latter on I noticed a moderator was checking my profile as if I were up to no good or something.
As its been mentioned the chats here are not like AOL or IRC I've concluded I'm not welcome in the chat rooms and will likely just avoid using them all together from all that I can tell the problem is that too many guys want to get on bugging woman to I.M. with them so they can try to talk them into cyber sex and the like I to went in to all the chat rooms and said hello to everyone no rely so no big deal to me.
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Don't fell bad John I've been a member for 3 days now had about the same thing go on this morning in one of the chat rooms I did manage to chat with one female but I guess I was either suppose to be speaking dirty or something like that I asked this woman where she was from she asked me the same it was short and sweet before I was interrupted by another male member so I just sat in the room while plugging some pedals up to my amp to play guitar.
Latter on I noticed a moderator was checking my profile as if I were up to no good or something.
As its been mentioned the chats here are not like AOL or IRC I've concluded I'm not welcome in the chat rooms and will likely just avoid using them all together from all that I can tell the problem is that too many guys want to get on bugging woman to I.M. with them so they can try to talk them into cyber sex and the like I to went in to all the chat rooms and said hello to everyone no rely so no big deal to me.
Not all the moderators check you out because you seem to be up to no good. Some of them check you out because you're fairly new, and they are friendly. It's good to know who is around. And if they noticed you having a hard time, the nice ones are more likely to remember you by checking your profile out. They see so many names in the chat rooms that it can be difficult. It's a standard procedure to keep an eye on everybody by looking at profiles, but it doesn't necessarily mean it's a negative action to do so.
I've been on Lush over a year now, and I have met some wonderful people. When I do (extremely rarely) venture into the chat rooms, it always takes me a long time to find my chatty feet. I would encourage you not to give up. It will be become quickly clear to you who has a stick up their bottom and who doesn't, but it will take you some regular visitations to work it out. It's just like a playground, really. There are some wonderful people. Sometimes we just have to hunt for them, and other times they just pop up in front of us. Please don't be discouraged so quickly.
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Don't fell bad John I've been a member for 3 days now had about the same thing go on this morning in one of the chat rooms I did manage to chat with one female but I guess I was either suppose to be speaking dirty or something like that I asked this woman where she was from she asked me the same it was short and sweet before I was interrupted by another male member so I just sat in the room while plugging some pedals up to my amp to play guitar.
Latter on I noticed a moderator was checking my profile as if I were up to no good or something.
As its been mentioned the chats here are not like AOL or IRC I've concluded I'm not welcome in the chat rooms and will likely just avoid using them all together from all that I can tell the problem is that too many guys want to get on bugging woman to I.M. with them so they can try to talk them into cyber sex and the like I to went in to all the chat rooms and said hello to everyone no rely so no big deal to me.
Moderators are just members who volunteer (no pay). Just like any member we might check out your profile to see what you're like, interests, etc. to see if you might be someone we'd like to get to know. Why come on with all the paranoia? All of us create the profiles on our Lush page in hopes to drawing in interest to either make friends, attract readers to our stories, find chat buddies, or all of the aforementioned. Moderators are just longtime active members who have decided to take an active part in helping this site out because we really enjoy it. There are also a lot of former moderators, people who thoroughly enjoy & love the site but could no longer donate the time required or just decided to take a break. Mods are just regular folks taking an active part in keeping the site functioning.
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Latter on I noticed a moderator was checking my profile as if I were up to no good or something.
To be honest it was probably me
. I like to look at peoples profiles when I haven't seen the name before (or if it's an interesting name like yours is) to see if members are new or just venturing into the chat rooms for the first few times. It doesn't mean anything bad honestly 
. Just means I can help you if I know you are new and introduce myself etc. And profiles are great for finding things to talk about :D I hope to see you in the rooms again soon. If I seem like I'm in fairyland and not talking just give me a shove
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Firstly welcome to Lush John a lot of chat rooms in my experiance seem busy but many will be in private chat already. Not many will take the time to put themselves as busy, those that are chatting in the room's often don't notice someone because they are watching for the persons response or name to crop back up. I try to greet as many new faces in chat that I can which is always a good ice breaker, as is saying hello to all on arrival.
John just take it for what it is. It's nothing personal. I dealt with it when I first came here back in December. Some people just get caught up in their own little worlds. However, I do hope you enjoy being here in Lushland, where the stories are great and the women are hot!!!!!!! Godspeed my friend......
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i understand how you feel. i have been here for almost a year and have lots of friends. i always try and say hello to new people daily too. but lately i have gone into rooms where i say hi and im completely ignored. i will stay in the room for a bit longer and see how long it lasts. I believe lushy world just has moods just like people and im hopefull the quietness will just pass....
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I find if you are a female people seem to chat you up a lot faster then if you were a guy. They look at your pictures and instantly want to talk. Most of it is all role playing and not very often a conversation. Some people do not read your biography. To all the new lushies I hope you enjoy the stories on this site and chat with good people. 
Welcome.
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Latter on I noticed a moderator was checking my profile as if I were up to no good or something.
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