How important to you are a person's looks, in regard to having good, enjoyable, satisfying sex?
I think it is normal to fantasize about women who are beautiful and sexy, at least for me. But my own experiences have been that women who are a little overweight, average or plain in the face or who are quite average in every way tend to be much hotter in bed. I'm not sure why, but the super sexy and beautiful women seem to be a lot more selfish and self-centered. I personally believe that if one partner is doing their best to totally satisfy their partner while the other partner is also doing their best to totally satisfy, the result is almost always great sex. Thus, one of the last things I consider is how a person looks. That ranks very low with me, as do how they dress, what they do for a living, how much money they have, or other things like that which have nothing to do with sex.
I know this will show how shallow I am, but unless the potential partner is in reasonable good condition and has attractive features, I will most like not give him a tumble.
That does not mean that those pretty boys will be good in bed and it also does not mean that the plain John will not turn on ever nerve switch in my body. But I must have know the handsome challenged for a while before I will give him a fling.
Sorry but nobody promised you that the world would be fair.
By the way, I'm also saying 'average' in looks, not ugly. Thus, it is the perfect face and body combination vs. a person who probably wouldn't stick out in a crowd but who also doesn't leave you running for the hills.
One person's average is another person's gorgeous, I think. I know a woman that I am quite enamoured of and would likely be happy to sleep with if we (a) lived less than 3000km apart and (b) I wasn't married. I think she's lovely but she's no supermodel and I can see where, really, some might see her as rather average.
As for how looks play into making sex enjoyable, I cannot see myself actually sleeping with someone that I was not physically attracted to. It comes well before hitting the sheets. If I didn't desire a person physically, I doubt I'd get as far as even considering getting it on with them.
Good looks never detracted from enjoyable sex!!!
I think looks come into play to get one aroused and into a situation for sex. Once the act is initiated, I think looks are not nearly as important. I heard the below 40 years ago, and I think it applies to this question.
No girl is ugly if she is sucking your cock.
Other than my wife, the very best sex I ever had was with a woman who wasn't especially attractive on the outside. She had a totally wonderful personality and in bed, it didn't matter who she was with, she wanted them to enjoy themselves as much as possible. She actually got very excited by getting her partner off, so her goal was never, ever to have an orgasm. If she gave a guy an orgasm, it was almost guaranteed that she'd have one. The most beautiful woman I ever had sex with could have been a model. She was drop dead gorgeous. She was also selfish, shallow, conceited and only thought about what guys (or gals) could do for her, never what she could do for guys (or gals).
Yes...
Whoopi Goldberg could be the best fuck on the planet but I would rather die than put my penis anywhere near her.
Charlize Theron on the other hand can literally just lay there and do nothing and I would still have plenty of fun fucking her.
I couldn't have sex with someone who I didn't find good looking... Confidence is certainly very attractive but I sure need to have a sexual attraction to them.
People have been known to have enjoyable sex with me, and I'm no prize turnip, so...
I think looks are important as far as desire and fantasy are concerned, but less so in the actual enjoyment of the sex itself.
As long as you find the person attractive, it doesn't really matter. If everyone else finds them to be plain, but you find them to be beautiful, it's all that counts.
I've been with selfish lovers and I've been with satisfying lovers. I don't believe their looks had anything to do with one or the other.
Looks have absolutely no bearing on how enjoyable sex is to me. I enjoy sex if the person makes me feel comfortable and they are willing to put in effort so that both of us enjoy ourselves.
Sure somebody attractive is sexually appealing but I think you can find something incredibly sexy in everybody if you try.
"A dirty book is rarely dusty"
