Recently the guys I work out with and play tennis with were all sitting around talking over drinks. And the topic of this post sort of came up.
We were talking about the girls that 2 of the guys were dating....one for awhile and the other for several months.
The one who had been dating a girl for a few weeks related his story first. It got to the intimate stage and while cuddling afterward they had sex, he was relaxed and passed gas. Evidently they were not at the passing gas phase yet because she immediately kicked him out and refused to take his calls.
The 2nd friend had been seeing a girl for several months and she invited him to move in. We were all shocked to learn that it didn't last long though. Apparently bathroom habits were a problem. On the third or fourth morning after they moved in together, she was in the shower and he came into the bathroom to pee. That was a no no and apparently too much for her. They are still dating but living together was too much for her.
So guys and girls is there a habit of a partner that is just too much for you? Is it a bathroom habit? Or is it passing gas? If so how soon is too soon to pass gas in front of someone?
What is the breaking point for you? Just what is it that a person can do that totally wipes them out as a potential lover or partner?
For me mine is not a bodily function that I can think of. It is more of just getting too clingy too fast. I am a person who likes my space, and it is even difficult for me to account for my time to someone I have been with a long time.
Maybe running a close second would be someone who is really messy. I am not a clean or neat freak, but I do like things tidy.
I’m really not all that picky. I think one of the things I hate though is when things are alright for men to do, but chicks can’t. That kind of thing irks me beyond no ends. But, it’s not a deal breaker, he just has to deal with it.
I think the biggest thing that is a deal breaker for me, is I don’t want just the toilet seat down, but the cover also. Toilet water sprays, that means it gets all over you and the bathroom. Can we say gross?
I’d not leave him for it, or kick him out but I sure as heck will remind him every time he didn't do it, until he did.
Skid marks would be a tough one to overlook and so - I'd say that would be a dealbreaker for me if the guy refused to change. Mainly because it's tied to cleanliness and hygiene, which is v. important to me.
The passing gas and peeing in front of me isn't a big deal. I mean - maybe he ate a big bowl of Kashi Go Lean Crunch that morning and can't help the gas-related explosions. Maybe he had to pee so badly that it was either walk in on me while I was in the shower or go in the flower vase instead. None of us (male or female) are a bouquet of fragrant roses to live with all of the time. Human bodily functions do happen.
There are some annoying habits people can have but to walk out on them for that or discount them as potential mates is kind of insane to me. It sounds like your buddies were dating some really high maintenance girls.
as much as i hate to admit it, i fart. not constantly, but it happens. burp too. Kate does it as well. the human body is a wonderful thing. now, if someone was constantly gassy, it would become an issue, mostly because that's usually a result of bad eating habits - fixable eating habits and seriously, it would become annoying after a bit, specially it they're smelly farts!
as for peeing, really, if i'm intimate enough to have sex with someone, i'm intimated enough to pee in front of them on occasion, or be peed in front of (shut up everyone who knows about my watersport fetish). pooping tho, nope - that's a private matter - don't want to see it or be seen. as for skid marks, yeah, i'm with doll on that one - i mean, come on, wipe, people!
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I lived with a chick that used to ball up her loose hair and stick it on the shower wall. She would do it so it wouldn't go down the drain but then she would forget to remove it and there would be a bunch of them stuck on there. It wasn't that gross but it irritated me.
There was also this one girl that was pretty petite. Pretty normal eating habits. Wasn't farting all the time but when she went to the bathroom she would crap with the door open. It wasn't smelly or loud... But like she would sit there for like an hour. Just sit there. I would ask her if there was turd coming out like the whole time and she said no, that she just didn't like to rush it. It's not a good thing when your boyfriend sees you sitting on the toilet that often.
One of the most annoying habits I have encountered was this girl that would never leave her leftovers at the restaurant or throw home meal leftovers away. That wasn't the bad part. The bad part is that she would never eat them either and just leave them in the fridge until I tossed them away. It was so gross and annoying.
Also, girls who insist on having a pet but can't take care of them right is a deal breaker for me. I like animals but I hate shitty cat boxes and hair everywhere, thats a no go.
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I can't deal with any indicators of bad hygiene (skid marks, same tooth brush for more than 3 months, no sign of dental floss etc.). AND DON'T USE MY TOOTHBRUSH!!! Why do people think this is ok?!?!?! Don't put your mouth on my mouthwash. Don't use my razors. And don't use my deodorant. I also need a guy that showers at least once a day. I don't mind peeing while I'm in the shower, but don't take a dump. A guy did that to me once and I told his mom and then deleted both their numbers from my phone. The heat and steam from the shower combined with the stench is something I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. I also don't mind farting. It happens, and I'd probably get a good laugh out of it (I'm so mature). Also, if I catch you picking your nose without a tissue nearby, I'm probably gonna wonder for the rest of the day and most of the week where the fuck those boogers went. Don't use my earbuds. Clean up after yourself. I'm somewhat of a neat freak, but I don't expect everyone to be the same. That being said, don't be a complete slob.
DO NOT toss your undies in the washing machine with mine. It freaks me out. If your day starts before mine, be considerate and don't wake me up while you get ready, unless you're waking me up to make sex. I like waking up to sex. And French toast. So if it's not sex or French toast, don't fucking wake me up. Don't erase my shows off the DVR, even if I've watched them already. Don't read my mail, as I won't read yours. I think that about sums it up. Oh...if you for some reason have the desire to use my makeup, don't touch my eyeliner or my mascara. That shit touches my eye fluids, and yours as well. Gross.
"What is the quality of your intent?" - Thurgood Marshall
I think at the end of the day it matters how much you are into your partner. People that break up after they move in together from little things like leaving the toilet sit up or being messy they shoudn't be together in the first place.
For me if i'm totally inlove with someone nothing will gross me out from the bodily function aspect and the rest it's just getting used to and accepting your partner's habits.
Your two friends should consider themselves so lucky of what happened, just in case the relationship was going to move up.
If a fart and two people in the bathroom is too much certainly the relationship could not be even started.
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Oh this thread is going to be such fun to watch 
but here ya go baby, just in case!
I love it! It seems to me that it's always the little things that combine to ruin a relationship. I've been married for almost 13 years, and while I know I have plotted manslaughter many times, I'm POSITIVE my husband has plotted woman-slaughter even more! But communication is definitely key, and even more important than that, is compromise. 
