ok, yes I have had cyber sex and cam sex with another, but I was single, and had separated from my partner
I would like to know if there are couples out there who have cyber/cam sex, that their partner knows or not?
And if you consider it cheating?
I have had cyber and do think I cheated. OTOH, it is perhaps "less" of a cheat than getting physical. That's a judgement call based on one's values, though.
I do see it as cheating, even though your not getting physical with the other person. but it was something I also enjoyed.
I tried it on another site years ago - just couldn't get into it
Personally, it's in that gray area between cheating and being faithful - but since it really does nothing for me, I abstain from personal choice
I experimented with it some years ago. After an initial rush it got boring very quickly--haven't bothered in years. My wife became aware of it, wasn't crazy about it, but did not try to stop it either.
Depends on the relationships people have and what they can accept. For me? If I caught my hubs web cam(ing) with someone he better have a good fucking lawyer.
I do enjoy it, but I guess it is cheating of sorts. Though the fun that could be had blurs out the bad side!
I think the consensus (from threads I've read here before) is this: If it's something you are hiding from your partner, then yes, it is cheating...
Certainly, I wouldn't like to think of my BF camming or cybering with someone else...
If you're hiding anything from your partner, even just social chatting, then it's cheating in a way.
If you can't be totally open with the person you're sharing most of your time with, then - IMHO - something is wrong
agree with dwp, cheating ain't good for the soul, and my partner knows when I'm lying to them.
I cyber/roleplay quite a lot and the majority of the time enjoy it.
I think it's extremely important to choose a partner or partners carefully though. In the past I've made the mistake of accepting an invitation to cyber without knowing very much about the other person. Aside from the obvious pitfall of pairing with someone that responds to your 250/300 words with, "mmmmmm" or "aaaaaah", which is maddening, there's the problem of not knowing much more than their name and, if you're lucky, a little bit of what turns them on or off. This very often leads to what amounts to the cyber equivalent of banging teeth together, awkward fumbling with unfamiliar garments and saying "Sorry" a lot.
I prefer to chat to people before cybering, getting to know them and their tastes, getting a feel for them. Quite often I know whether I'm going to cyber with a person within a fairly short time of the initial contact. Sometimes it just happens that the cybersex happens quickly, and can be a coin toss; I've had some great experiences and some lousy ones from that, but the vast majority of the time I'd rather chat with someone for days/weeks, however long it takes to feel comfortable and confident that when it happens it won't be wasted effort.
As for the cheating aspect, I'm single in reality but "in a relationship" here. On sites like this polygamy seems to be the norm, so problems arising from people cybering or camming are few and far between in my experience, though because real people with real emotions are involved there will always be real arguments over such things depending on the individuals.
I don't see it as cheating personally, though I can't say I'd still feel that way if I was in a real life relationship, opinions and feelings, like people, change with time and circumstance.
I enjoy a good cyber from time to time, my bf knows and doesn't mind, sometimes he helps lol
I have done it on several occasions, while I pretended to really get into for the others sake, I did not really get much out of it other than learning what the other fantasies were.
Camming is more exciting especially if there is voice. I'm a horrible typist and not being ambidextrous it's boring to me.
Phone sex is a lot better as you can hear their reactions and it is more exciting to me.
I have only had phone sex with one woman and that was a short lived relationship once she found a real life partner.
It's only kinky the first time.
personal moral code
The only time it is not cheating is when the only other person involved outside of your partner is you with you.
any third party be it chat/physical is cheating.
now if you are in a open relationship then you have I am sure, your own points of what is right and wrong pinned down for both of you to accept.
I agree with Cindee that it's maddening when someone is answering with 2 or 3 words the long three paragraph scenario you just wrote. Having said that, when someone is into the fantasy and you are as well it can be intensely erotic. That has only happened to me a few times. But they've been hot.
if you are single and need relief I say why not
it is honestly the SAFEST sex you can have
if you do it to get off for your partner will not give you the sex you need
well that is cheating
anything YOU cannot be honest about in terms of sex to someone you are with is cheating
do I understand of course I do... was in a sexless marriage it hurt more than anything else until my last lover and I split
can I get off while typing?
no I need two hands to type and two to pleasure myself
but in the end the only thing I care about is honesty
if your partner knows and is ok with then I say enjoy
nothing feels as good as good sex...no matter how you get it
(well as long as it is legal lol)
