What turns you off immediately?

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People who play mind games to get in your underwear!

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Playing hard to get is a scenario used to build attraction. And whether you like it or not, it works. It's because it follows one of lifes most basics human principles, the harder we work for something, the more effort we put in, the higher value and the bigger the reward is to us, when we finally get it. It's called "escalating the buying price."

Is true though that for some people, the chase isn't worth the catch, and if people do play hard get, they may just end up not being got. Also bare in mind that some women have ASD (Anti-slut defence), where they can be attracted to somebody but try to resist sleeping with them, because they don't want to be seen as easy, cheap or a game.

My biggest turn off is poor grooming, not being shaved or trim where they should be, and not making an effort to keep their looks or bodies in the best shape.

I think what we often find turn offs about other people, are the same things we fear may turn other people off about ourselves, if we are not careful. For example I'm rarely attracted to women that have fuller figures, carrying a little extra weight, or have cellulite (not be mistaken with being "curvy" which is attractive).

The reason why is because if I'm not eating a health diet, or working out regularly, i tend to look in the mirror and notice the effects, thus my self-worth and esteem is more likely to drop, when I am doing those things, I am happier with myself. I look for the same things in women that I am attracted to.

Being flakey, indecisive, or Hot n' Cold is something that annoys me too, where women I'm attracted to can be flirty one minute, then act disinterested, then flirty again, then flirty with others instead, they flirty with you again, and so on and so on. I find this irritating, and can play with a persons head in a detrimental way.

Although in truth that is usually a comment on your own approach and attraction skills, that you haven't done a strong enough job in attracting her. Which is why she is sitting on the fence rather than "on you"

I'm a firm believer that anybody can attract anybody provided they work on themselves, practice attraction methods, convey their qualities in a strong way, and appear successful in social circles. I don't believe in "out of your league scenarios". I believe that nobody is too good for anybody else, this is just a limiting constraint people place on themselves. The question should be "Is she too good for me", it should be "Is she too good for myself." The bizzare thing about attraction, is that it is self improvement that gets results, rather than the effort you put into desiring others. If you really love yourself, and are happy with the person you see in the mirror, others will see that, you will almost automatically become more attractive to others. This does not mean you need to be conceited or full of yourself, which are negative qualities, it means you have to be confident.

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