Still Virgin @ 31

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The first thing to do is to drop the "pathetic situation" part. That attitude just generates desperation which leads to bad decisions. Give some careful thought to why you haven't had sex with a partner yet and what has happened when you tried to build relationships in the past. See what you could done to lead to different outcomes where things didn't go the way you wanted/expected. Unless you understand why you have not found an intimate partner, you aren't going to move past it and start finding the right person to have an intimate relationship. A therapist/counsellor might be able to help you navigate the process as well as explore how important this is to you and why you feel it is "pathetic". Talking it out with a trusted friend or family member could help, too.

Probably a bit contraversial but consider visiting an escort. They are generally friendly ladies who are not shy and will help you get past that first hurdle. Dont expect a 'relationship' but might make it easier when you want to date not having the virgin tag in the back of your mind. Good luck

I was in my late twenties. It would have been nice to get out the blocks a bit quicker, but it wasn't right for me at the time and I don't regret it. The best things come to those who wait. 🙂

You will or you won’t. Just get on with your life and quit thinking about it. You won’t lose your cherry on Lush but you can get a lot of people to lie about how great it was…myself included.

happily same.

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Pathetic Situation Still Virgin @ 31 .

You have to be aggressive.

Look, you need to get cleaned up, shave, put on clothes that fit you right, brush your teeth 3 times... Then... next party you're at or any social situation with more than a few single women in attendance you need to do this...

You walk up to the one you're attracted to most, you look her up and down and say, "damn girl I can smell that pussy from here..." while slightly snarling, rubbing your hands together and licking your lips. Like a fucking lion with a boner.

Her panties will start to take themselves off after that.

Aggression will get your dick wet.

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You have to be aggressive.

Look, you need to get cleaned up, shave, put on clothes that fit you right, brush your teeth 3 times... Then... next party you're at or any social situation with more than a few single women in attendance you need to do this...

You walk up to the one you're attracted to most, you look her up and down and say, "damn girl I can smell that pussy from here..." while slightly snarling, rubbing your hands together and licking your lips. Like a fucking lion with a boner.

Her panties will start to take themselves off after that.

Aggression will get your dick wet.

Does this really work for you? HAHAH

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Does this really work for you? HAHAH

This guy has no clue or concept of reality. LOL!!

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Pathetic Situation Still Virgin @ 31 .

Just be you. don't worry about it. Some women like that.

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Does this really work for you? HAHAH

Being cleaned up and aggressive? Yes. I don't actually say I can smell pussy from across the room, that was a joke. But the original poster of this thread needs to swing the bat if he wants to hit a home run.

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Just be you. don't worry about it. Some women like that.

This is bad advice, just being him has yielded no pussy in 31 years.

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This is bad advice, just being him has yielded no pussy in 31 years.

35 years ( give or take a couple of months - OP was in 2020).

You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. But taking those shots requires confidence which women find attractive, and confidence requires you to be comfortable with yourself. You're both right.

Those of you giving genuine advice are all participating in some defunct member's humiliation kink.

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Those of you giving genuine advice are all participating in some defunct member's humiliation kink.

ChristopherMike has never felt a vagina and you’re over here kicking him when he’s down. Kicking him right into the dirt.

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ChristopherMike has never felt a vagina and you’re over here kicking him when he’s down. Kicking him right into the dirt.

How do you even know he wants vagina? Maybe he wants some butthole action. Why are you such a backwards (no pun intended, I swear) thinker?

It will happen when it's right for you. Not everyone is on the same schedule, but talking down about yourself isn't going to help is it. It's almost the start of a new year. Who knows what that will bring.

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How do you even know he wants vagina? Maybe he wants some butthole action. Why are you such a backwards (no pun intended, I swear) thinker?

Ain’t no gay dudes that are virgins at 31, get real.

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Ain’t no gay dudes that are virgins at 31, get real.

Jesus Christ

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Jesus Christ

He was banging Mary Magdalene

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He was banging Mary Magdalene

True. Which means he wasn't a virgin @31. I love a full circle moment.

Jesus hung out with 13 dudes… if he was banging anyone it was Peter. He went to brunch with MM.

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Probably a bit contraversial but consider visiting an escort. They are generally friendly ladies who are not shy and will help you get past that first hurdle. Dont expect a 'relationship' but might make it easier when you want to date not having the virgin tag in the back of your mind. Good luck

I know the original post is 5yrs old, but for any other male virgin...... I agree with seeing an escort. And, if you talk with her before and explain the situation, she will most likely be happy to give you tips on how to pleasure a woman, parts of the vagina, show you different positions besides missionary & cowgirl. And I would suggest multiple 90 minute sessions. One hour flies by in the blink of an eye.
You'll gain the confidence you need to talk with women in public.

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Jesus hung out with 13 dudes… if he was banging anyone it was Peter. He went to brunch with MM.

Judas was jealous

I knew a forty year old virgin who loved erotic chat and was very adept at it. She had an imagination that was both creative and limitless. She said that an undefined fear, emotional, kept her celibate in real life. It was a choice that I felt it was inappropriate for me to comment on and also really none of my business. Virginity can be circumstantial or have its origins elsewhere. Like most of life every choice is uniquely personal.

Not quite the same, but I never even kissed a girl until the summer between college and grad school, and I had an 18-year dry streak- a combination of natural introversion and a crappy security job that was mostly nights and weekends, and paid peanuts. Sometimes, it's just the situation you find yourself in. Virginity or the losing thereof is highly over-hyped- that first kiss made a far bigger impact on me than my first actual sex.

On the other hand, I too got pretty good at sex chat once I discovered it, and I enjoyed it. There are a few times that I don't remember as me typing, but got so immersed that I really recall the events happening. Of course, there was also a point where I was dreaming in chat screens, so...

I wonder if christophermike has swung the bat yet.

For what it’s worth, the majority of women out there aren’t very good at sex and I’m not convinced they even like it. A lot of them just lie there, it’s boring. It feels better to jerk off anyway, a lot of of the time.

Most of us could count the times we’ve had really good sex on one hand